<p>Me and my roommate dont get along. Its not that were different, its that we NEVER talk which is extremely awkward. I tried talking to him (games, music, etc) the first few weeks but he didnt seem interested. Then I noticed whenever I would walk past him on the way to class or something and was getting ready to say hi, he would look away when he realized it was me. So I completely stopped trying. </p>
<p>But thats beside the point. Sometimes my roommate goes to bed early (like 10:30!) and Im still awake on my computer. The bunk bed is next to my desk but my computer nor its light are facing it. Apparently the dim light from my 15 in laptop bothers him and hell lie awake in bed huffing and puffing and angrily texting someone as long as Im on the computer. I usually give up after a while and turn it off. I overheard him tell his friend that next time I do it he'll "make up some BS to the RA and get me kicked out". But I NEVER complain when I go to sleep at 12 with the lights on because hes rushing to do hw last minute. I dont complain despite the fact that his PC screen is at least 27, faces the bed, and lights up the whole wall when the lights are off. And I dont complain when he wakes up at 7 AM slamming his drawers and the door. </p>
<p>Am I wrong for this? And what should I do about this roommate that wants me out apparently?</p>
<p>You should confront your roommate about being a selfish child</p>
<p>What a ****ing jerk.</p>
<p>Steal his computer, sell on EBay. Blame the same evil room spirits that cut holes in his clothes and took the sim card out of his phone. Smile innocently.</p>
<p>Talk to your RA (that’s what they’re there for!), you might have to all 3 sit down and work out some sort of “Roommate Agreement”. At the very least they should have some more specific suggestions.</p>
<p>It’s him. Tell him that if he’s seriously bothered by the light, he should invest in a sleep mask. My roommate has one because she’s sensitive to light.</p>
<p>It’s him. Besides, what is he going to tell the RA? That you selfishly put up with all his bs and do one little thing that irritates him occasionally? </p>
<p>I would talk to the roommate first about his obnoxious behavior, then try to get an RA involved if that doesn’t work.</p>
<p>I’d just ignore him, unless he takes some direct action like talking to an RA to kick you out.</p>
<p>Your roommate is of course a jerk. Next time he gets *****y about your computer you should mention how you don’t act like a whiney turd when he’s on his computer late at night.
He seriously needs to grow up. He really has no reason to be this way e you. He has issues. </p>
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<p>Kill him. Haha, just kidding. You should talk to the roommate and the RA though because he is being really unpleasant.</p>
<p>Talk to your RA!! I was an RA in college, it’s what they are there for! S/he is trained to help you-- by mediating, helping work out whatever the issue is, etc. Don’t forget that your RA is a direct link to Res Life, so it’s good to make sure s/he knows what’s going on with your roommate situation… that way, if your roomie does try to make something up, your story will have already been established with an authority figure!</p>
<p>In the meantime, you should try to approach your roommate in a non-threatening and non-defensive way. Saying something like “I notice there has been a lot of tension in our room, I feel like something is wrong and would like to try and work it out with you” tends to get a positive response. As much as you would like to say something more direct (“You are such an inconsiderate jerk!”), those statements are not as helpful! </p>
<p>Just so you know, most schools have policies in which there has to be concrete evidence against one roommate that forces someone to move out. By concrete evidence, usually it’s something extreme, like drug use/something illegal or against policy (like being a drinker on a sub-free floor). I wouldn’t worry about your roommate thinking he has the power to get you kicked out of the room… if you left, it would be because you wanted to and agreed to do it formally.</p>
<p>Hope this helps! Now go find your RA!</p>
<p>This is really radical, but have you tried doing something randomly nice? Nothing big, just maybe bringing some of his favorite snack or soda to the room? Maybe you are just on a downward spiral, and this might help.</p>
<p>Definitely talk to the RA, and try to get another roommate if at all possible. The possibility of getting into something just as bad or worse is always possible though. So keep that in mind and consider both the pluses and minuses of your situation.</p>
<p>i think the first thing that you both should do is get the supplies that you need to survive sharing a room. It is not an easy situation when you are a kid and related to your roommate and there is no way that it will not be awkward with someone you don’t know or don’t like. get a sleeping mask and some soft earplugs to get through the night, you both should have them, as well as headphones.</p>
<p>Maybe you could come to an understanding about what times it is OK to have the light on and such. Both could agree that if one of you needs to do something that will be disturbing then do it outside of your room. But if all you are doing is getting on the computer quietly then a face mask will be such a great help.</p>