An elderly lady going back to school . . .

<p>Though not really elderly, 23 is elderly enough by college admissions standards.</p>

<p>I'm applying to the Frances Perkins program at Mount Holyoke, the Ada Comstock program at Smith, and the Elizabeth Kaiser Davis program at Wellesley. These are all programs for women age 24 or over, or younger women with spouses and children. As you undoubtedly know, these are selective (Wellesley being the most selective, Mount Holyoke the least) women's colleges in Massachusetts.</p>

<p>I did not graduate high school, but took a G.E.D. and graduated from my local technical college magna cum laude and Phi Theta Kappa in 1999, at age 17. I joined the military reserves and was an honor graduate. I've been published once in an anthology. In my youth, I won dozens of music awards on an unusual instrument. I've raised two children as a teenaged mother.</p>

<p>My major problem is that I spent a year and a half at university when I was 19-21. It was a major mistake, as I was working two jobs and raising two children alone, while dealing with an unsupportive and abusive partner. None of my professors knew me, I was always running in to class late and leaving early, I consistently missed deadlines, and my grades were in the B-C range -- a far cry from my actual capabilities, but on 3 hours of sleep a night and constant personal crises, it was the best I could do.</p>

<p>That was a year and a half ago, and I've separated permanently from the partner, I've found other means of financial support so I don't have to work myself into the grave, and my children and I are much more stable. Now that that's completed, I want to go and finish my bachelor's degree.</p>

<p>However, my most recent college transcript is lackluster, my professors from technical college 6 years ago probably don't remember me from any other students, those few who are there (many were adjuncts), and having not worked in some time, I have precious few people to recommend me. I've volunteered extensively, but in a one-on-one situation, so my supervisors could really only say that I wrote my reports on time and no one's complained about me. I have many interesting characteristics to recommend me, but no one really to back them up and a lackluster recent college transcript to boot.</p>

<p>Any advice, besides write a very strong essay?</p>

<p>I've used a pseudonym here because I don't want this Googlable under my name, should any officials do that.</p>

<p>Explain your situation to the colleges - your abusive partner, and your experiences raising children at such a young age. Show the diversity of your experiences, and that you can really add to their college's environment. Get recommendations from your employers or military reserves superiors as well, that should help.</p>

<p>Joey</p>

<p>Ask for rec's now and see what you can get. You just assume you can't get any, but it does not seem that you've actually asked.</p>

<p>Don't beat the cliched life choices to death.</p>

<p>Write great essays.</p>

<p>I suggest calling or e-mailing the adcoms at the colleges that you're applying to and asking for their advice as well as the advice of whomever directs the program for mature students.</p>

<p>In addition, ask for other colleges that you can apply to. Your list is very top heavy. There are other colleges with programs for mature students.</p>

<p>It also probably would be very helpful if you submitted one or two recommendations from a present or past employer and/or a person who knows you well such as a minister, mentor or person whom you have worked with as a volunteer. These would help adcoms get the kind of insights into your character that they can get from teachers of current high school students.</p>

<p>I also suggest that you post on the Parents Forum as there are lots of wise parents there. I suggest changing your subject header. You are not "elderly". The average age now of college students is something like 24. There are lots of nontraditional students in college. Perhaps use a subject header like: "Help! Twentysomething mom wants BA"</p>

<p>I notice you used the phrase "at university" are you foreign, Canadian?</p>

<p>Anyway, Northstarmom's suggestions are very good, including reposting on the Parents forum. You might also consider taking one or two classes at a local community college while you are waiting, to demonstrate that your academic situation has stabilized - that has a downside in that, it complicates your academic record even more.</p>

<p>There a lot less competitive, and cheaper ways to get a degree, but then it wouldn't be from Smith or Wellesley! The directors/counselors at those adult re-entry programs are your best bet for good info, particularly since they are looking for women who will be successful, and have an interest in the applicants clearly identifying their potential.</p>

<p>i aggree with jprencipe</p>