<p>So I haven't posted on this forum in a very, very long time, simply because I think plenty of the stuff posted on here is unfounded. In an effort to perhaps share my experience to those contemplating boarding school, I decided to come back and post this thread. Take what I have to say as you will, but keep in mind all of this is from someone who has gone through Exeter and moved on to college. </p>
<p>So I applied to a few boarding schools during my freshman year, and much to my delight was accepted to Exeter. I immediately filled out the enrollment sheet, even before visiting -- I knew that this is where I wanted to be, but I could not imagine just how difficult it turned out to be. Long story short, Exeter had taken the steady rock that I once was back home and pulverized it into sand. My GPA was a disaster, I felt like I didn't adjust to the environment around me. My advisor said that I performed "as expected" -- "expectedly" mediocre. I seriously thought about not coming back the next year, but I did anyway with a changed perspective. I'm happy to say that my last two years were truly an Exeter experience. I've never worked so hard -- wrote so much in so little time, thought so profoundly in just about every class. I grew and matured faster than I ever imagined, and now I'm quite proud of what I've become. For that, I would recommend anyone even barely contemplating the thought of attending a boarding school to take the plunge and apply -- having gone to college for a full semester now at a top 15 school (non-Ivy, think NW, UChicago, JHU, WashU -- while turning down other Ivies), I can now say that you WILL NOT get the sort of intellectual and engaging learning experience, in addition to the close-knit community and camaraderie, that you would get at a boarding school than just about any college your first few years. As a professor (an Exonian by the way) at my college told me, most freshman and sophomores have to take mass introductory classes -- often "boring, soulless affairs."</p>
<p>I've also learned that the Exeter experience doesn't end after you graduate. This summer, after graduating, with the advice of a local Exonian that I reached out to on the alumni directory, I studied abroad at a competitive school and had an amazing time, worked at his wealth management firm (in an internship where I actually learned key skills and engaged in the sort of discussions that I appreciated so much at Exeter), and researched medical devices. The networking opportunities, if used in the right way to its fullest potential, can rival any top college in the country, hands down -- just take a look at the Wikipedia page, list of alumni from X boarding school. Even if you do go to a "subpar" college, you'll always have this network to back you up -- whether it be to offer you an independent study or internship, or even to offer you advice. Top boarding schools also carry well with other potential employers, and have a name-brand recognition that is easily comparable to the top universities as well. </p>
<p>It disappoints me that people debase Exeter and other prep schools as simply a vehicle to take someone from point A (middle school, suburban middle class society) to point B (the Ivy League), only to attack and call it "a waste of a small fortune" when it doesn't fulfill this "college admissions-crazy" parents mantra. I've began to see that people at these sorts of schools have a better handle on what they'd want to do with their lives, and are better equipped to go out and succeed in the real world. They are the sorts of people that would take the risk to create a start-up, to go out and change the world. That essence, ultimately, is what you're paying for in a school like Exeter. </p>
<p>So I guess my take home point is: take the leap of faith and go for it. Don't worry about your college admissions chances -- those aren't really that important anyway. You have a lot more to gain than to ever lose.</p>