<p>My best friend is pretty smart, but it gets annoying sometimes. She always has to make sure she does better than me on tests (bugs the heck out of me until I tell her my scores, and acts hurt if I don't), and gets annoyed at me when I mentioned that I got accepted into a summer program or am looking for a job. She says there is no way she's getting a job this summer, but when I mentioned that I had heard about a summer babysitting job that I had called about, she called that afternoon!</p>
<p>She freaks out when I try to tell her she's trying to do too much; I don't say it because I'm jealous, but because I care. She's stressed out enough now, w/o any APs or such, and next year she's taking 3-4 and 2 honors and ugh...</p>
<p>Not to rant (even though I did a little :) ) but how do you guys deal with stuff like this? She's my best friend, so I don't want to hurt her, but the fact she acts like I'm trying to one-up her and take her territory is sorta getting on my nerves.</p>
<p>Anyone else have this problem??</p>
<p>Umm…I have a friend that is annoyingly smart without trying and rubs it in my face. It ****es me off at times, but I can’t do anything about it. I just try to use it to motivate me to do better.</p>
<p>My grade in French2: 93% [and I try verrrrry hard]
Her grade in French2: 99% [and she doesn’t try]</p>
<p>I have one. I just deal with it.</p>
<p>My brother is number 7 in my class of 618 and he is never studying or doing homework when I see him at home. He will go upstairs and play the wii for 5 straight ours each school day or he will either read a book for pleasure (not school related.) I spend sooo much time studying and doing homework yet my class rank is 35.</p>
<p>I have some kinda personal experience with this, so I’ll try to help. One of my good friends was one of our Vals last year, had about 300 hours of service, numerous leadership positions, good AP scores, Etc, and went to a top Uni. You would think she would be the best student in her family…well wrong, her brother was absolutely insane. He had the highest weighted GPA in the HISTORY of our HS (took extra weighted classes). Had pretty much all 5s on AP exams, a 34 ACT score (his “weak” point) and won nearly every scholarship, science, and MUN award that he could win. He got into Stanford and than an hour later, stressed about a “horrible” B in Physics AP LOL…He also got into Harvard, but ended up choosing Stanford (nice dilema :)) anyways, based on what she did, here’s what I think you should do: </p>
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<li>Don’t seem jeolous. It won’t help either of you. It’s just high school. She probably tries to one up everyone. I wouldn’t take it personal, unless she has singled you out (like a #1 vs. #2 in class rank kinda thing)</li>
<li>Support her when she asks for help (i.e. could you do something for a club that I’m in. that kinda stuff)</li>
<li>Let it be. Some people are just overachievers and the feeling of being stressed drives them. </li>
<li>To make yourself feel better, make a list of things you do better than her. They don’t have to be school related. </li>
<li>Above all, just let it be. Remember HS doesn’t mean life :)</li>
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<p>She’s not “annoyingly smart” if she’s all stressed out without any APs.</p>
<p>I’m sort of on the other side of this, except that I certainly don’t try to best my friend on tests or anything like that. Coming from that side, I just wanted to say that it makes me feel really, really bad when my friend mentions that she has felt that I was her intellectual superior since 5th grade (which is so ridiculous. She’s smart!). That might not be an issue for you, since your friend sort of seems like she would want you to feel that way, but if it’s more like me and my friend, maybe try to not make your friend feel guilty? Or something.</p>
<p>My friend is top of my class. She’s had a straight A average for all her life. She freaked out because she got an 89.4% for her chemistry midterm while the majority of the rest of the chemistry students got well below a C. Then she HAS to get every academic award at the end of the year and gets mad when she doesn’t. And she has to outsmart everything I say. Yes, it’s annoying. I force myself to sit through her rants and ignore her.</p>
<p>Get a new friend. </p>
<p>lol just kidding, but hmm i guess just get used to it? You’re gonna meet a lot of different people in life and its better to get used to how to deal with them. Perhaps talk to her and tell her how u feel?</p>
<p>I don’t know why people have friends that annoy them. I really like all of my friends.</p>
<p>Heh, I’m that guy. I haven’t studied for a single test in my life and still have a 4.12 GPA, and ****ed that my dad cost me a 4.0 UW GPA. I make sure I do my best, but tbh I’m mentally far ahead of people in my class. And I’m 11 in a class of 618 with the top 10 being grade grubbers. and lol at taking 3-4 AP classes. That’s nothing compared to 7 IB classes, 6 HL (Not doing Diploma, so I urged my school to let me take them). And this is along with a few AP Exams.</p>
<p>I have a friend just like that. He’s way too obsessed with pug dogs and spends a ton of time on CC. And he’s going to get 5’s on all his AP tests this year or I will be mad at him. </p>
<p>If anyone didn’t catch that, I was talking about myself. But on a serious note, I am not a genius and I don’t have any friends that are. I am the only sophomore taking ap tests at my school though, which is despicable. And I’m taking 3. All my class is worried about is their grades, (which is extremely annoying), not the amount of AP or hard classes they take.</p>
<p>lol at AP. I take about 6 AP exams next year.</p>
<p>MIThopeful- were you talking to me?</p>
<p>eh no just in General. 3 APs is good for a sophomore. Our IB school has us take 1 as a pre-ib requirement.</p>
<p>Oh. I’m actually taking the most AP tests in the school, just to give you an idea how bad my school is. I went through a lot of crap signing up for them and everything too. As a junior I will be taking 5 to earn AP National Scholar. Are you a freshman?</p>
<p>No I’m a sophomore. I have to say that AP exams were underwhelming to be honest.</p>
<p>I know. I’ve only taken APUSH so far and it was so much easier than everyone says. I’m thinking most AP’s would be like this for me besides a language and maybe Calc BC or Physics C. I’ll come to my conclusion next friday but I really don’t think they are as hard as most people say they are.</p>
<p>@MIT: On the same boat. Pre-ib here requires APUSH and US Govt. and, for me as a junior next year, all classes will have AP or IB tests in May. But, yes, the AP tests have a very nice curve…</p>
<p>And as for the friend situation, I actually might say a bit that I’m the friend that doesn’t work; I rarely study, do much of my homework at school, the whole deal. My UW GPA is near 3.9, so not great. BUT I do have that friend that works super hard and is always comparing her results with me, and sometimes I do better and sometimes she does. She constantly complains about how “stupid” she is and that she’s not doing enough, when she is doing pretty much what I am. But it seems like she always has to be doing better than me (which I think she subconciously knows even if she won’t admit it) and it DOES get annoying. However, she’s probably my closest friend right now and we’ve been friends for over 4 years. My strategy in, perhaps you would say, “dealing” with her is to try and soothe her complaints, talk about the positives, and then swift the topic away from school into something I know we’re both interested in. Hey, life is competitive, but if you’re truly friends, you can overcome it. (:</p>
<p>^ You’re like my copy. I have a friend that way. All she complains about is how some Asian is #1 in our class. I have a 3.9 UW GPA, and it will get higher. I however am like the never study person who gets A on everything. I try to tell her GPA is important, but being a better person is key. We’re not that great of friends anymore, since she seems to ignore me ever since things happened. And lol I might take USG and USH next year. Online APs in my state rock.</p>