<p>So when the anonymous roommates contact the others, do they not introduce themselves? The whole thing just seems like such a bizarre way to start a relationship with somebody you’re going to be living with.</p>
<p>I’m guessing she’s a transfer, first generation college student, or an international. She probably just didn’t know what the hell was going on with those apps. If she’s international, English probably isn’t her first language.</p>
<p>No need to make big plans on how you’re going to switch roommates ASAP. There’s no way to know what the real deal is. I’m sure most people don’t spend 4 hours filling out a residential dorm application–could’ve just been a hasty check mark.</p>
<p>It does sound bizarre. I imagine the introduction will be like,
“Hi, I’m your new roommate–but I can’t tell you my name or where I’m from because you might be a predator.”</p>
<p>I agree with justtotalk, it could’ve been a careless mistake. True, this is really weird, but I’d feel bad for her if you just assumed she was crazy paranoid before meeting her, just from this incident.</p>
<p>It is my understanding that the new roomate is Paris Hilton.</p>
<p>Now we know about the need for privacy.</p>
<p>If it bothers you, switch now. If housing asks, tell them you’re uncomfortable because you can’t get in contact, you don’t know what to bring, you need to discuss issues beforehand etcl;. They’ll probably let you switch or will give you an email. Just go with your gut. Personally, they’re probably just shy and assume since you’re not freshmen that you know what to bring and understand basic room rules.If it bothers you so much, switch.</p>
<p>How could they know what to bring if they don’t know what their roommate is bringing?</p>
<p>I’d guess that celebrity/related to celebrity or important government official is probably most likely. I mean, why else bother with all the secrecy?</p>
<p>Why don’t you call housing and explain to them that you need to contact your new roommate in order to discuss bringing stuff like refridgerator, TV, etc.? Maybe housing can contact the student and suggest that she contact you.</p>
<p>Maybe you can use Facebook to find her. Is there a Facebook group that corresponds to your Dorm? Maybe post something like: " Hey, I’m assigned to room xxx and I don’t have any contact info for my new roommate. I don’t even know her name. If you’re assigned to be my rommate, please contact me."</p>
<p>In the past, you didn’t find out who your roommate was until move-in day. The internet seems to be changing that. Relax and wait unitl the actual move-in day.</p>
<p>In any case, as to what to bring: you really don’t need much. To ensure that there are no duplicates, bring only what you need and only the essentials. You can fill in on the rest later.</p>
<p>People make a big hassle about moving into the dorms, but all you really need are toiletries, clothes, bedsheets, and clothes.</p>
<p>Sounds kinda ridiculous…</p>
<p>Maybe your roommate just didn’t want to be Facebook-stalked before move-in day.</p>
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<p>Puh lease. Paris Hilton would never go to college!</p>
<p>seriously, it is Paris Hilton</p>
<p>she needs to show the world that she actually has some brains</p>
<p>she thinks herself as a combination of Brooke Shields (Princeton) and Jodie Foster (Yale)</p>
<p>^I remember awhile ago, MTV had a documentary about Paris Hilton that suggested her ditz role is just an act–and I have to admit, in a lot of the private video footage they show’d of her, she seemed like an entirely different, normal, person.</p>
<p>Uh what exactly do you need to coordinate with your roommate? How many duplicate things can you bring that you wouldn’t need to bring if you talked to them? A lot of rooms have two fridges. You really don’t need to coordinate with a roommate unless you’re living in an apartment or suite. You still need to bring clothes,books, school stuff etc;. Unless you plan on bringing a couch or futon or tv there really isn’t anything to coordinate. Talking to my roommate before move in didn’t make the process any easier.</p>
<p>^It depends on the college. A lot of colleges only allow one fridge, one microwave, etc, per room. </p>
<p>If OP spends opulent amounts of money buying all the big appliances that her college only allows one of per room and then meets her roommate and finds out she also bought the same appliances, not only will they both have wasted money the average student can barely afford to spend, but they’ll probably end up disagreeing on whose appliances stay and go. </p>
<p>Sure, they can always use their stuff next year, but that’s a lot of money they didn’t have to spend this year.</p>
<p>I’ve already talked to my roommate. We split the list of big stuff down the middle, so neither of us is spending way more than the other on any of that stuff.</p>
<p>I’d be incredibly upset if I couldn’t coordinate with my roommate. Why? Some of you guys might have plenty money and all, but my parents live paycheck to paycheck in an area of high poverty and few jobs. </p>
<p>I literally can’t afford to buy everything big for my dorm room all in one shot. Next year, if I don’t have the same roommate, then I can manage to get the stuff I couldn’t this year. But all that stuff at once? It ain’t happening.</p>
<p>I’d be just as frustrated as OP if I couldn’t contact roommate.</p>
<p>tiff90 - my school, for example, only allows one fridge, one microwave, etc, etc. so because of that, you have to coordinate with your roommate as to who gets what. my roommate & i are splitting up the bigger appliances we need so we’re spending about the same amount of money on everything.</p>
<p>Even if they allow more than one, there might not be space. Even if it’s not completely essential that you coordinate beforehand, I can’t understand why somebody wouldn’t want to.</p>
<p>Besides, it’s not like everyone just has the option to just take an extra fridge or television back home. </p>
<p>Some people attend college out-of-state and may have had to do extensive travelling just to get there. That’s not realistic for someone from California, for example, who’s attending college in Miami to just “take their tv back home.”</p>
<p>Obviously.</p>