<p>I haven't had a real hard time in high school, but it's been difficult for me to relate to absolutely anyone. I have a few friends, but even them I'm not very close with. I'd be a very wonderful, devoted companion, no one just seems to want my companionship! </p>
<p>But I am super-scared for college. I'm afraid everyone will hate me and I'll feel like I won't belong! I kinda already feel that way. I'm non-judgemental and get along very well with alot of people, but for some reason it seems like I just turn others off. That I'm some radical eccentric fixed on underminign the world. </p>
<p>I'm sure I sound whiny and insecure :p. I have a friend (graduated college) says after HS it is so much better, but I can't help but be aprehensive.</p>
<p>Yeah, I'm worried, too :P. I always feel like people don't like me...but the truth is...it's probably mostly in your head (that's what my best friends tell me, anyway). You think you "turn people off", so you act awkward and /do/ turn them off. Don't go into college expecting it to be the "best time of your life" or "so much better than highschool"; and on the other side of the coin, don't go in thinking it will be a disaster, either. Have no expectations, and just try to be yourself - focus on other people and their interests, and not whether or not they like you or if you're making a fool out of yourself. Join clubs related to things you're interested in so you will have plenty of common ground to talk about with others. I think you'll be fine :). </p>
<p>I'm especially scared, because I'm gay and was never out in HS. That should be an interesting transition...hah.</p>
<p>I'm actually in a similar social situation, hemingway. I'm willing to be a good friend, but there aren't that many people I "click" with, though I get along with most of them just fine. Luckily, it's a small school so I'm not picked on like I might be if I were at a large public hs. </p>
<p>I'm invested in the fact that college will be so much better. Make sure to visit the schools you're considering and take a look at the social atmosphere to see how you'd fit in.</p>
<p>Um...yes. My school is basically a bubble of competition, hypocrisy, jealousy, and low integrity. My fear is that the whole world is like that. :(</p>
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<p>hemingway-- trust me, I visited Brandeis and was strongly considering it. However, it felt slightly not right for me personally (I think it was the Jewishness lol-- I'm Jewish, but being around a school with like 50% Jews just would be completely odd for me)-- definitely a great atmosphere though.</p>
<p>And if there's anyone like me there, you'll find someone to click with :) No, but seriously, I've been feeling the same way lately-- like I don't completely open up to anyone, not b/c I'm afraid, but b/c I know they won't understand me. College will be different-- you're picking the people you're around. And the people at Brandeis seemed very open-- not cliquey... Brandeis will be a great experience!</p>
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Yup, my school is exactly the same way-- resume grubbers galore... People can't all be like that, though I'm sure this environment does exist in places other than high school, I'm seriously holding out...</p>
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<p>yeah. college must be SOO much better. and same here - i am willing to be a good friend and i do have SO many friendly acquaintances, but am always left out when it comes to parties/get-togethers/general friendly non-school experiences, etc...</p>
<p>I feel the same way. At school, I hang out with a lot of different people, but for some reason, I only see some of my close friends out of school. Its weird, because I'm really nice to everyone, and people seem to like me, but I dont get invited to very many parties.</p>
<p>Maybe not, but people tend to gravitate towards people they perceive to be popular or cool, in hopes of gaining popularity and a lot of friends. So its a positive feedback loop: People who have lots of friends get more, and people who dont have many dont tend to make very many new ones.</p>
<p>Cal Bolt, maybe not hate, but extremely dislike. </p>
<p>Sometimes I meet someone and dislike them with a passion. There are always going to be those people who give off those vibes. </p>
<p>Hemingway, I'm sure if you just opened up you would have more friends, just try new things and strike up random conversations. You are bound to find some acquaintances if not any friends.</p>
<p>California-Bolt...you're totally wrong. Some people will hate people with higher GPAs, better at sports, different race, etc, etc. Personally, people have told me they hate me because I have better grades, and that if I was stupider we might have been friends (sidebar: why would I want to be friends with them!??!). So, maybe in a normal sitch, people don't hate people who don't do anything.</p>
<p>Well I never really had to deal with people like that (although they probably exist at my HS). Anyways, if you are significantly smarter than them, you probably won't deal with people like that in college, assuming you're going to a top school, or one where at least you won't have people like that at.</p>
<p>yeah, i lost focus of my goals in junior year and my grades crashed and burned. Luckily I have been able to see what happens if I lose focus, so I will definately make sure i am focused in college.</p>
<p>In regards to fear in college: I am a pretty shy person at first, and when I get comforable around a person, I kind of turn into my loud, crazy, random person I am. I am like a sour warhead. It looks very nice and docile and innocent on the outside, but when you take a bite you are suprised. So yeah, I am not used to just putting myself out in the world. I am pretty dependent on my parents cuz i WAS an only child for 14 years and stuff. Any suggestions? I have already contacted a few people in UCSC in regards to joining clubs. I will also do intramurals and club sports. I just cannot walk into someones dorm room and say hi how are you, my name is bla bla..</p>
<p>I was surrounded by rich spoiled kids throughout kindergarten, elementary, middle and high school. I am expecting the trend to continue in college where I will go on a full scholarship :P</p>