<p>Aw, thank you...it means so much to hear that. :)</p>
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I'm not sure I would want my mom or dad telling me where to go to school. It's kind of something that you really should chose by yourself. I've visited colleges with them and stuff, but I'm not sure I would want them telling me where to go.
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<p>JoeySweets,</p>
<p>I totally agree with you on this. If that's the role a dad or mom is playing, then it is way out of line. And my guess is that most "parent posters" on this site would find such behavior objectionable. Even in situations when finances play a limiting role, there are usually a number of options that a student can consider.</p>
<p>Also, regarding parents browbeating their sons and daughters to have a "perfect record" so they can get into an Ivy.....</p>
<p>Yes, I'm sure such parents do exist, but that's not been my own experience on CC. If anything, the pressure for Ivy admission seems to be coming more from the students on this site--from their own heart and soul--rather than parents pushing reluctant kids. The students who post most frequently on CC are bright, self driven, with stats way above the norm. I am frankly amazed at the talent I see here. Moreover, these students want the best for themselves and the "best" is generally interpreted as Ivy league admission. (Whether the Ivies are really the "best" is a topic for another thread, but there is no doubt that many of the students who post on CC are striving for what they regard as the most exciting and challenging colleges in the country.)</p>
<p>The prevailing wisdom of the Parents Forum is not to "push" your son or daughter to get into an Ivy, but rather for both students and parents to be realistic about their chances. Go full charge for an Ivy if you want, but make sure you've got a safety in your back pocket and be careful about applying ED, if finances are a consideration. That's a very different message than pushing kids or Ivy admission at any cost.</p>
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<p>Good thing my birthday's a week after graduation ;). Her younger sister doesn't count, does she?</p>
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<p>This makes me wonder how so called self motivated students have the time to read and post here. My daughter knows I'm here, but has never expressed even the slightest interest in joining the discussion even though I occasionally e-mail her thread views I would like her to read. As an interested (not demanding or driving) parent, I do the research, she makes the decisions. BTW (if a parent is allowed to use that abbreviation), she didn't even show me the personal essays on her applications, let alone have me edit. And yes, she does think I'm weird, but what teenager doesn't think that of their parents?</p>
<p>audiophile, i personally preffer to do all the research and then tell my parents about it. They work a lot and I don't think it's fair for them to have to do all the work when I'm the one going to college. They've already sacrificed a ton for me, so I figure researching on CC is my contribution. I must say though that CC parents offer a sort of "reality check." Everyone on here, myself included, only wants to go to ivys/top schools and think that going to those schools is the best possible choice. Parents on here remind us that it's not necessarily the best choice.</p>
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We'll take that. That's enough. At least somebody is listening. Thanks, Reeze.</p>
<p>Reeze,</p>
<p>Sounds like you have a great deal of maturity for a high school student.</p>
<p>hey joey i agree with you
my parents were thankflly minimally involved 4 yrs ago when i applies and i came out just fine..vs my classmates with trained parents beating down on them 24/7 who just burned out by the end of college.
i know some parents that cant help but talk about their college application procedure all day - even at work. thats pathetic - if you dont give your kid some control now they will never learn to take iniative and action towards making their own decisions. and ..even if people dont believe this now...going to a certain college isn't a life shattering decision - UNLESS thats the last education tier for you.
There is a lot more schooling after college and a great variety during it...it all depends on how good YOU are at planning your life ..not your parents bc they will step out eventually and then you will be lost bc you have little or no experience making big decisions on you own.</p>
<p>39cc softype A, why are you on this forum? It obviously isn't for any legitimate purpose, i.e. searching and selecting an UG school. Right ? Hopefully after 4 years , and your Med School admission you are past that. So why are you here? </p>
<p>I've read your 19 previous posts. Man. That's quite a record you have established with those 19. Something you can be proud of in your first year of medical school. You are a veteran of the battle. It's so nice of you to worry about parents of current seniors or juniors that are searching and selecting schools , and parents of college freshmen (who are 3 years more current than you) spending too much of their valuable time. I can tell by your posts that you are a born caregiver. </p>
<p>Can I suggest the med school forum that you have never posted on also needs the type of answer you can give? I'm sure your search and selection process was amazing. </p>
<p>Now , I find it incredibly weird a 23 year old med student would be here at all. 'specially cracking jokes and harassing the passersby. That is truly odd. And kinda sad, if you believe it. <em>wink,wink</em></p>
<p>BTW, I'm a hardtype A. Maybe we are related?</p>
<p>thanks audiophile... now if only wharton would take me. lol</p>
<p>no.. i doubt that we are related. i am blood type A.
i dont take forums seriously when people think " oh my essay sucks" if you believe it does - it probabby does. people with self doubt never go far in life - they hold themselves back at every major step. i hope in their anger towards me they find some pride for their work.
btw my sibblings (all) are applying right now to college and yes i am involved in their process. if you were the eldest in a family you would feel some obligations to your siblings also.
dont wink - its impolite.
ps: i am not 23.</p>
<p>man the application procedure had changed drastically every year.</p>
<p>I think It's more realistic for a 20 year old that Just go out of college OR is going to a Grad -School to be a member of a college Forum.</p>
<p>Now a mother whose validictorian "D is a rising senior from a relatively small, relatively poor, rural district in Texas. " I mean really curmudgeon, you have Spent more HOURS Posting on college Confidential than Hours your daughter has spent Volunteering, Now that is What I call Unusual. 2,000 posts, do you even Have a JOB.</p>
<p>Play nice.</p>
<p>I'm closing this thread since it is descending into personal attacks - which are not allowed on CC.</p>
<p>On the original topic, I would point out that EVERYONE - parent, student, or others with an interest in courteous and helpful discussions of the many aspects of college admissions, within the bounds of the Terms of Service, is welcome on all parts of CC.</p>