Same with everyone.
“Time was”:
- you cheated on your spouse with your secretary, heh heh, the wife got the paycheck so what did she care?
- you beat your kids - belts, wooden spoons, brooms, yardstick(s, they didn’t last that long as we aged), switches - they were YOUR kids, how dare anyone tell you how to raise them, especially when your parents showed you who was boss?
- you punished your kids for youthful mistakes, like crashing the car or getting drunk and wanting a ride home
- if a girl smiled at you, she was fair game. Getting her drunk was part of the deal. She shouldn’t have had a drink if she didn’t want to have sex!
- if you knocked a girl up, you had everybody in town say they slept with her too, so you wouldn’t have to marry her or pay anything
- colleges supported their Greek system 100%, and went well beyond the law. If someone was raped or beaten up, or even killed, it was the victim’s fault and it was covered up - someone was raped and they were put away if they showed any signs of trauma, or wanting to report it to police
I could go on.
I think the big differences are that if there was a whistleblower back when, someone who saw a big guy carry a drunk girl into a bathroom and lock the door, what proof could he give? Maybe he could console her and make sure she could walk home safely? Now, you can film things, and you can take pictures with hardly anyone noticing. You can record people talking (ever put on your cell phone video recorder and put it in your pocket to record a conversation?).
Or you could even, maybe, if you didn’t have film or anything, actually tell the cops and they actually might care. They might even have a few policewomen on the squad, and maybe even a sex crimes division.
We now have a right to be upset. We now have the means to spread the word. Maybe ODU students have seen that sign for years (at least one source said it was not up for the first time). I know that back in the 80’s, my sorority taught and sang several songs regarding losing one’s virginity, various detailed activities related to that, etc. etc., usually involving drinking and certainly not involving marriage or engagement. Some were even directed at specific fraternities (often the word “virginity” was pronounced “ni-tie” to rhyme with various Greek letters). And they sang some pretty foul songs back to us.
That was pretty weird, considering the actual sorority songs were about “purity” and “faithful” and so on. And the actual fraternity songs were about honor and respect…