<p>I think that the social divides are more pronounced in middle schoolers than in high school, at least where we live.
It wouldn't at all be unusual for an athlete to be a great academic student or a nerd to be either. It seems like they are all wrapped up in their own activities to be worrying about whether or not it would be a problem for a nerdy kid to show up at a party.</p>
<p>ebeeeee, that was kind of sad about the homecoming story. I hope that kid wins, though it sounds like the nomination itself is mean spirited</p>
<p>I always thought popularity was equivalent to sex appeal.
You can say all you want about how the beautiful blonde is a ditz and 'not your type' but you are probably pretty attracted to her!
Unless you are like my friend who thinks of people like her as being literally covered in STD's.
That's how people like her become popular by being sexy.. by being appealing to look at.
The same goes for guys except 'attitude' matters more than 'looks' in many cases.
Geeks do not have the right 'sexy attitude', otherwise they wouldn't be geeks.</p>
<p>ebee, that is so mean, I cant beleive the admin doesnt stop it. </p>
<p>My d, dearly beloved, is not as academically oriented as either her dad or myself. Yes she is cheerleader captain. I have told her that 10 years from now things wont be the same as they are now, and please please please go to the prom with one of the geeks who would love to take her.</p>
<p>My shy son began his HS life sitting alone at lunch with his best friend since 3rd grade, playing computer games in an isolated spot on campus. The two of them were always content to be in their own little world of computer/video games, anime, and SciFi.</p>
<p>Without any effort on their part other people started to join them until the group grew to be the largest "clique" on campus, including younger siblings and kids who left other groups to be part of theirs. He estimates there are around 50-60 people who congregate together at lunch in the same isolated spot he's been at for 4 years. And it didn't stop at their school, through outside activities and "friends of friends" they absorbed like minded kids from the other two HS's in town as well as a few from the next town over. This group includes boys AND girls, giving them all a huge social network and guaranteeing they are never without something to do and someone to do it with. We even bought him his own Tux because going to Proms, etc. at multiple schools made it more cost effective than renting :)</p>
<p>This is a big change from when my daughter was there 5 years ago. She started out very social but soon struggled with drama from her own little clique (she was a cheerleader) and bounced around from group to group until she finally decided to go solo. By her Senior year there were only 2 or 3 people from school that she even socialized with.</p>