<p>Daughter is transferring after her freshman year. I think her choice, which wasn’t her top choice, just seemed the best of what she had, wasn’t a good fit. Too large. Too much partying. She’s going to a smaller school, in the sound town as some relatives. It feels more like home, though five hours away. I transfered after my sophomore year, 28 years ago, over some emotional problems. Transfers happen, for a variety of reasons.</p>
<p>"If I went by what people here claim their kids do, there are no kids in college drinking, screwing people they just met, smoking a little weed, cutting class etc etc. Yeah right. "</p>
<p>Or maybe, just maybe, CC parents and their children aren’t a representative sample?</p>
<p>I know it sounds crazy, but…</p>
<p>I’d also like to add here that I don’t buy the implications of the thread title. Transfering kids are not by definition “giving up”. If you take a new job, are you giving up? Is changing careers “giving up”? Is changing your major “giving up”?</p>
<p>Sure, someone can (and will) come on here and list hypothetical bad reasons which constitute “giving up”. we can find bad reasons for any category of decision, anywhere in life. But none are intrinsic to that category; they’re just one small subset of reasons among many other legitimate ones.</p>
<p>Is change “giving up”?</p>
<p>Actually H, I think it’s a little of both. It was a half joke–you know, that semi-nasty-semi-serious often outrageous UW style sarcasm.</p>