1 thing that the article which somebody posted many posts ago touched upon was the thought process which some unprepared/underprepared students go through when they get a bad grade on a test or in a class. It’s the mind set of “Maybe I’m not good enough for this” or “Maybe I’m not cut out for this.”
Underprepared students kind of need a mentor to sort of guide them through those bumps in the road. EVERY student encounters bumps in the road. What can be different, though, between somebody who sticks it out and finishes college and somebody who throws in the towel is learning how to navigate through the bumps in the road that one is bound to encounter.
For example:
D24 struggled a lot in middle school & 9th grade in certain subjects. Would do the HW, but sometimes ‘forget’ to turn it in (happened a lot in english class in grades 7-8!). Needed extra help in math, but was afraid to go to student hours after school for 1-on-1 free help w/the teacher. Tried to cover it up from us parents, but of course eventually we found out. At the same time, in some subjects, she didn’t know yet how to study for a test…history, science, math tests. She thought that just reading over her notes was good enough, but was struggling test/quiz grades in those subjects.
Every time this would come up, she’d get upset, emotionally, and immediately start saying stuff like “Maybe I’m just too dumb for this” or “Maybe I don’t belong at this school” or “I’m so stupid.”
We spent MANY hours over grades 7-9 talking to her whenever this came up to remind her that:
- she’s not dumb
- she’s not stupid
- she’s learning what does NOT work
- what do you do when you learn that something you’re doing doesn’t produce the results you want? You do NOT do it that same way again and again. You try it a different way.
- she needs to change her thought process from “I’m stupid” to “Ok, that didn’t work. I’m going to try it differently this next time.” And then keep repeating that until you figure out a study method that works for you.
- you might as well figure this out now rather than later because eventually, this will come up in college, too, and you’ll need to know how to troubleshoot this sort of problem again down the road.
This is where, honestly, really big universities are probably going to be more of a struggle for underprepared students than smaller ones. I think that community colleges can fill the gap and help underprepared HS grads to become BETTER prepared before transferring to a 4-yr institution. However, at the same time, there’s a big elitist attitude against community colleges…as if starting out at a community college means that you’re some how “lesser” than everybody else.
And at the end of the day, hiring managers don’t give a rip that you started college at a community college.
In my family’s personal example above, an underprepared HS grad might never have run into that situation yet. And when you add in maybe parents who are unfamiliar with how the college process works, that can make it harder. Add in also maybe thought processes in the kid’s head of “Everybody else has it all figured out and I’m really struggling. I don’t want to look stupid by asking a bunch of questions, so I’ll just sit here and suffer and be miserable. Maybe I should just drop out and move back home and get a job. I must not be good enough for college.”
If you are the kid for whom learning is like living on Easy Street, that’s great. For the majority of students, though, this is not the case. What IS different, though, between prepared students & unprepared college students is, in my opinion, the development of that…I don’t know how to put it…mental toughness, grit, an attitude of “Ok, this is a big problem, but I’m going to figure this out. I’m going to go ask for a bunch of help and figure out how to eat the elephant one bite at a time.”
For example:
- Getting bad grades and not going to class? Maybe start by going to every class from here on out.
- go to professors’ office hours
- find out where the on campus tutoring center is. Ask for help there.
- get out of your comfort zone and talk to people sitting next to you in class. Invite them to join a study group with you.
- go to a study skills workshop at your school. Every tutoring/counseling center usually has those.
- take care of yourself. Get more sleep. Stop partying so much.
- do the HW.
- read the assigned readings each week.
- don’t wait until the night before to study for a test.
- don’t wait until the night before to start writing that big 10-page paper that’s due tomorrow.
- don’t wait until finals week to go to the professor asking for help in how to bring your grade up from an F to a C.