I know that Trinity College is on the LGBT-Unfriendly list right now but it’s one of my very few safeties. I visited and interviewed, and it was very pretty. The people were very nice and very quirky. But the campus was on spring break… I’m definitely going to have to look into it more. Does anyone have firsthand experience with Trinity lgbt?
Interesting that you found the students quirky. My impression - and I know many kids who go there - is conservative and preppy. Maybe they were all off campus during spring break. 
OP, what is your home state and what are your stats? What can your family afford? We can all help you out there, then hone in on the asexuality aspect.
@doschicos You’re right, they were probably all at their family’s vacation home or out sailing or something. Sorry I don’t want to offend any Trinity College people on CC, you’re all wonderful and I have nothing against your being preppy! I’m just clearly looking for something a bit more… well, queer.
I’m a big fan of LACs, but it is important, given the small student bodies, to find the right fit. There something out there for everybody.
Without knowing more of your parameters, for LACs, in addition to Smith and Bard, take a look at Beloit, Bryn Mawr, Earlham, Carleton, Haverford, Macalaster, Mt. Holyoke, Oberlin, Reed, Swarthmore, Wesleyan, Vassar for a start. These are schools that might have a vibe that appeals to you.
I’m not really sure what info to put?
Home state: Texas
My family is willing to pay anything. Merit would be awesome, but I am not eligible for any financial aid.
SAT Scores: CR 790; M 760; W 730
GPA: 4.2 (weighted core)
Rank: Top 10% (top 4% technically)
NHRP (Hispanic scholar)
Possibly National Merit Scholar?
I take as many pre-AP and AP classes as my school has.
I am taking the English Lit and Math II subject tests in the fall.
I got a 4 on the AP World History Test. I am taking/have taken the English Language, Calculus BC, and US History AP Tests this year.
I am a musician highly involved in my school’s music program.
I am also a poet who hasn’t really won anything but has gotten some honorable mentions 
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I have an unpaid internship this summer at a summer camp/project.
I volunteer to help tutor the kids at my school and in my community.
Does UT appeal to you at all? With your stats, shouldn’t be a problem, right? It could rule out the need for safeties. Austin (the city) is pretty cool.
Nice stats!
Oberlin and Wesleyan might appeal to the musician in you.
Thanks for the suggestion but UT is very big and a bit too close to home! I much prefer LAC’s and smaller schools. If there were an Ace club at UT I may consider it but I can’t find one.
With a 33% acceptance rate, I wouldn’t put Trinity College as a safety even with your impressive stats, OP. I would make it a match school, even though you are likely to be admitted. In my mind, a safety has at least a 50% acceptance rate; it’s a place where unless something goes terribly wrong you’re going to be admitted.
Also, the presence or absence of an ace club at a university isn’t necessarily indicative of a welcoming atmosphere. Texas A&M, for example, has an LGB organization but is not known for being welcoming and friendly to the LGB community there. The lack of an ace club (particularly at a small liberal arts college, but anywhere really) might have more to do with numbers OR it may simply be that aces at those schools are covered under the general LGBTQA umbrella organizations at those places. (In fact, that in and of itself might be something to consider - not just whether the overall atmosphere is welcoming but how welcoming of asexuals the LGBTQA community is at a particular college. As you’ve probably experienced, there’s a lot of…weirdness around asexuals in the LGBTQA community in some places.)
People have already suggested most of the colleges I would’ve (Smith, Mount Holyoke, Bryn Mawr, Oberlin*, Reed, Vassar). New College of Florida is a small, quirky, offbeat college that also has an asexual club (which is notable because of its very small size). Grinnell College, in Iowa, has a group called Asexual Support Network. Columbia is not a small LAC, but it does have a medium-sized undergrad environment and its LGBTQA student organization explicitly includes asexuals under the umbrella (in fact, a lot of Columbia’s groups were just called or made reference to queer identities, which made me quite comfortable 
The Claremont Colleges also share a Queer Resource Center that explicitly serves asexual (and pansexual and omnisexual!) students - so Claremont McKenna, Pomona, Scripps, and Pitzer may be of interest.
Providence College might be more of a safety for you and their queer student group explicitly includes the entire spectrum. Ithaca College is another potential safety - larger, but known for having an accepting LGBTQ community there. Gettysburg College’s LGBTQA group also includes asexuals.
Another thing that might appeal to you is going to a college with a welcoming community that’s in a larger city that’s likely to have lots of asexual support and community. For example, I advised a queer student group at Columbia that was super connected to the LGBTQA community in New York and often did fundraisers and events at different community and resource centers in the city. Even if the college doesn’t have an asexual group itself, being in a welcoming queer community and having access to a larger city with an asexual network might serve its purpose, too.
*There was actually an interesting article [about asexuality denial](Asexuality Denial Furthers Heteronormative, Anti-Queer Arguments – The Oberlin Review) published in Oberlin’s student newspaper last month, OP.
“Asexual people can have romantic relationships as well that don’t involve sexual intercourse, perhaps just snuggling or sharing activities.”
Why, I’ve heard that some relationships that ultimately progress to sex start out by snuggling, cuddling, and sharing activities! A couple who dates who hasn’t “gone all the way” yet doesn’t need a support group, do they?
This whole thread is goofy. So you’re asexual. So what? Why would anyone care?
^The dismissive “this thread is goofy” bus left the station a while back. Please see posts 1, 4, 13, 17, 20, 32, 34, 48, 50, 54 and 57.
Amen, pizzagirl.
OP would feel right at home in japan
http://www.theguardian.com/world/2013/oct/20/young-people-japan-stopped-having-sex
With a top 4% rank as a Texas resident without cost constraints, wouldn’t all Texas public universities be safety candidates? Be sure to start your list with a safety that you like.
I would try Ithaca College and the University of Washington
@GMTplus7, you’re being incredibly disrespectful. There is nothing wrong with the OP, it is her identity and she wants to be somewhere she’ll be supported. Why don’t you go bother someone else?
What “support” do you need for not being interested in sex? That’s like needing a support group because you’re not interested in tennis or politics or astronomy.
That’s precisely the point. I don’t see anything wrong or unusual about the OP. That’s why I’m puzzled why a support group is needed.
@GMTplus7 and @Pizzagirl : I’m sorry aren’t open minded enough to acknowledge my sexuality as valid. Please get off this thread if you don’t have any school suggestions to offer. In a way, I opened up this conversation topic knowing a lot of people wouldn’t know about asexuality and I wanted to educate people about what it means to be ace. I was bit excited to be honest. I am totally open to people who genuinely want to know about asexuality, like @doschicos who has been amazing on this thread, but I don’t want to keep having to deal with prejudiced posters. You don’t understand what the big deal is? Fine, get off this thread and forget about how rude, disrespectful and discriminatory you were to a sixteen year old girl.
Part of why I decided to create this thread was because I wanted for asexual students after me, teens who are scared or unsure and looking for colleges where they know they can come out and be accepted and loved, to have a list of good colleges that they can look into. Another ace has even contacted me, encouraging me to look into Bryn Mawr.
I’m sorry if I’m being forceful defending my sexuality but I feel I have a right to because people keep on telling me that I don’t exist. I’m really very open to suggestions and comments, just not comments that tell me I should forget my sexuality exists.
@julliet Thanks so much for your comment and message! I’ve really taken your advice about Trinity to heart, along with the confirmation that it is very preppy, and have decided to take it off my list. You’re totally right about needing to look into the openness of both the college in general and the queer orgs in particular. The thing about ace clubs is that they are so rare they only seem to really exist at very, very liberal colleges. I will also look into city asexual clubs/organizations/events.