<p>haha ``it is really fun
as an asian...
going to US(in whatever school) is never insulting in my country.
parents say my kid is in princeton to everybody but if thier kids are, say, a community college or something, they say, hey! my kid is in America!</p>
<p>Dad: You know that we care most about your education. We will pay whatever money you need to go to college; we'll even sell the house! That's how important education is. [smiles to show how sincere he is]
Me: Okay...so can I go to UChicago?
Dad: ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! THAT'S MORE AROUND 50,000 DOLLARS! THERE'S NO WAY YOU'RE GOING THERE!
Me: But you just said...
Dad: IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT I SAID! YOU'RE NOT GOING THERE.
Me: So I guess my education isn't that important then...</p>
<p>The good thing about my parents, however, is that they'll let me study whatever I want (writing, international relations, etc.). They have this notion that I'm going to be successful (and make money) in whatever I do. I think this is rather rare when it comes to Asian parents. Of course, they want me to go to a good college (and make money), but they also want me to be happy. </p>
<p>The conversation above was all in good humor, I promise. :)</p>
<p>This is a pointless post.
Thank you for recycling a tired, unfunny joke.</p>
<p>I don't think it is an Asian phenomenon either you people don't watch American soap or you don't analyze the subtle points.
If you have seen "Malcolm in the middle" then you will realize that this lower middle class white family at numerous points has made it clear to Malcolm that he is going to Harvard and nothing else. Anything else would be a disgrace.
Now many of you will say he is being depicted as an overachiever. But you will miss the point that the Asian parent you talk about know that their children are overachievers and that is why the attitude. Ive seen it over the years in many serials.
This phenomenon is equally prevalent in Jews, Russians, Britons, Germans, French, Japanese, Chinese, Indians (Asian), etc
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<p>it is actually quite funny, you see... people shouldn't be too insulted; while the joke is definitely stereotypical and a bit old, I know of quite a few asian parents (excluding my own) who are almost exactly like this. Expectations for them are ridiculous (must go to Harvard/ivy league or UCs, get degree in medical, science, engineering, or the new one, finance/banking, make craploads of money, and uphold their family's honor). It is also ridiculous how many asian parents gossip about their children's SAT scores, or what name-brand college they got accepted to and are attending, like it is the most important thing in the world (i say this from experience). </p>
<p>Fortunately, I'm blessed with a mom who doesn't give a rat's butt where I go. In fact, she wants me to go to U Alaska Anchorage and stay at home to go to college (whereas I want to get as far away from here as possible, and go to some expensive school near a big city). And no, i'm no stereotypical asian; i despise science (of all kinds), math is boring as heck, i love social studies and languages (spanish, french, italian), and i did not get even above a 2000 on my SATs. But I do play piano, go to chinese school, and get generally decent grades like a good little asian daughter. </p>
<p>Moral of the story; don't take the joke so seriously. It does seem true that Asian parents tend to be just a bit more pushy about college issues (on average, with plenty of exceptions) than the average college student's parents.</p>
<p>fa-la-la-lena: How many German, French or Britons you know or have come across?</p>
<p>Don't generalize your experience and a lack of to make statements or jokes like these.</p>
<p>You need to stand by your statement and substantiate it.</p>
<p>I found the joke funny, no need to be prude about it.</p>
<p>It is funny to see people who don't know what "FOB" means. I live in a suburb with a high asian population and it's a commonly used term! My friends call themselves ABCs = American Born Chinese.</p>
<p>I think you need some diversity training</p>
<p>my dad is SET on making me go into science...he thinks its amusing when I say I hate science...my mom almost cries when I tell her I want to possibly go into law or politics or finance</p>
<p>love it</p>
<p>my asian parents let me do whatever i want. they know im motivated enough to kick myself into shape in school. i told my dad that id go to a worse school and get like a full ride then he said to just pick the top school i can get into. so MIT.. lets give it a shot. good thing my parents are supportive.</p>
<p>lol, I read those with an accent too. That was a good laugh.</p>
<p>wow lol you guys better all be asian, or that could possibly be conceived as a tad bit racist.</p>
<p>as for me, i'm not debating the general meaning of that OP, but its probably exaggerated</p>
<p>Got to give it to the CC'ers, that was one funny link on the FOB's. Had no idea what that meant. STILL wiping the tears from my eyes!</p>
<p>For all that think these stereotypes are off base, I offer this link;<a href="http://www.ncela.gwu.edu/pubs/nysabe/vol10/nysabe106.htm%5B/url%5D">http://www.ncela.gwu.edu/pubs/nysabe/vol10/nysabe106.htm</a></p>
<p>While the asian stereotype may not be PC to some, this study shows many of the characteristics in some asian cultures that are readily apparent when you look at asian academic, socio-economic accomplishment and tendencies. I thought it was also insightful as to why many Chinese pursue certain disciplines.</p>
<p>I shared this information with my own children as a point of reference to model the positive attributes listed in this study, which in my opinion are many.</p>
<p>Note: I haven't done any research on my own to validate the authenticity of this particular study, but found the information thought provoking nonetheless.</p>
<p>I'm so fobulous.</p>
<p>Man I love urban dictionary. It's taught me so much. It and wikipedia form my holy books.</p>
<p>madville,</p>
<p>Your link reminded me of an old paper I wrote in 1971 for a course in international development. Always being a bit unorthodox, I decided to examine how many of the so-called "developing countries" have become developed. After all, you can not be forever "developing", right?</p>
<p>I could only come up with four: Taiwan, Singapore, South Korea, and Hong Kong. These countries are all small and homogeneous. They all follow the capitalist system. They are all heavily influenced by Confucianism.</p>
<p>Are these all necessary conditions for development? I certainly hope not. That is why I am watching China and India with a great deal of interest.</p>
<p>It was most telling when I compared Singapore to Nigeria and Trinidad. They all gained independence from their colonial master ( Britain) at around the same time. They all had 2 generations of self-rule to develop a ruling class of their own. Furthermore, both Nigeria and Trinidad discovered oil and became rich overnight. Yet, the average citizen was poorer under self-rule than under British rule. Singapore, OTOH, became wealthy, and all they have is a good harbor.</p>
<p>The strangest country is Argentina. It was one of the world's leading exporters in the late 1800s but became a basket case in the 20th Century. I am not aware of another country that becomes "undeveloped". Very strange.</p>
<p>Hope I don't get flamed for this.</p>
<p>Will someone please elaborate on how investment banking work ? Which degrees and / work experiences needed.</p>
<p>getting back to the topic of asians....my mom is being quite annoying lately..
i'm looking at liberal arts colleges and stuff, while upenn is like a 15 minute drive away. of course i'm considering, but i do need backups and i'm interested in other schools as well...
she keeps talking about how a "college" isnt the same as a "university"
and if it's not name brand, she'll think i'm lowering my standards. she just wants me to get in some name brand school so she can brag to her friends...seriously
it's not even like i'm applying to somewhere like temple univ (no offense to anyone out there) i'm looking at haverford, dickinson, ursinus, villanova, swarthmore, etc.
anyway i just had to get that out...anyone else dealing with this??</p>
<p>After reading this thread, I've realized that my white parents are practically Asian. They're new at the whole college ranking thing, but they still have distorted visions of success. Neither one has a really good job, so they're trying to make sure they fix that with my brother and me. I've had my parents gawk at a 95 test score and they'd ask me why I missed so many. I'm having a hard time trying to sell a major to them in Finance. My options are so far Engineering, Accounting, or Medicine. Especially my mom wants me to become some sort of specialist.</p>
<p>This is how my parents view colleges. There are 2 levels: HYPM and everything else. Everything else is a good financial option, but HYPM sure would be nice. Only drawback is that the son is too far away...</p>