<p>I really want to go to boarding school, and have already narrowed down a few of my top choices. The only problem is I haven't asked my parents yet :P The deadline isn't until mid february but I need to start preparing m application (if they okay me trying for a scholarship/finical aid.) my parents just spent a ton of money on Christmas, and are putting 2 grand towards m new horse (I am paying the rest) so I feel terrible asking them right now...how did you guys ask and not make yourself seem greedy and selfish? Wha is the best way to phrase it? Any help will be much appreciated!
Thanks!</p>
<p>My parents actually brought boarding school to my attention, and that’s how I got interested. You should probably bring it up when they’re in a good mood, and don’t worry about the money. If you need financial help big schools will give you as much as you need, it’s the smaller ones that probably won’t. If you haven’t already, look at the endowment for the school, and then look at the average financial grant, that’ll give you an idea about whether or not you could attend it. The other thing is application fee, but if you only apply to a few, it probably won’t be a big deal, $50 isn’t too much when it comes to a better education. Good Luck!</p>
<p>First, make sure of the deadlines. Many schools have an earlier deadline for students applying for financial aid and a later deadline for students who do not need support.</p>
<p>As to how to approach your parents, as a mom I would say to find a time when you and your parents are relaxed and in a good mood and when they have time to talk with you without being rushed. Dinner or a long car ride would might work well. I’d lay out your case as logically as possible. Tell them what you think you’d get out of BS. If possible stick to the positive. IOW, don’t talk about how lousy your current school is or how unmotivated your classmates are but rather how wonderful the opportunities at a BS would be and how great it would be to be in a community of kids who are actively involved and excited about learning. If your parents are resistant don’t whine or get angry, just ask if they’d keep an open mind and think about it. </p>
<p>You may have to approach your parents multiple times. The more mature you are in your approach and the more you can show them that this is a thoughtful choice you’re willing to work for, the better your chances. We were willing to allow our child to apply to day schools but wouldn’t consider boarding until s/he wore us down with the approach I described above. Part of showing your parents you’re mature enough for boarding school is showing them that you’re willing to discuss the matter in a calm, reasonable manner. If you have relatives or family friends who have been to BS you can also ask your parents to speak with them to hear about their experiences.</p>
<p>Lastly, be prepared for the possibility that despite your best efforts your parents will say no. Don’t say anything that will damage your relationship going forward. Remember that they love you and you love them.</p>