<p>@medrix my Guess jeans bring all the boys to the yard…when i dont write angsty poems on them. i wrote another one today on my favorite pare…i was sad i ruined them but then i rememberd how much i love Barnard!!!1</p>
<p>and guys srsly what is heteronormative for the love of gawd.</p>
<p>@scarletstream.
its ok cuz ur kewl and onlii homos ar heteronormative. so u dun need ta worri bout it. u kewl.</p>
<p>@ Nacreous.
I messaged you.</p>
<p>edit: in general, one should not give a ■■■■■ any attention for that will only egg them on. but im humoring this ■■■■■ because i like her 
scarletstream, i hope you get into barnard!! ily <33</p>
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<p>P.S. Nacreous, please save character judgment to face-to-face interactions.
Are you saying that intellectual minds cannot be interested in fashion? Perhaps they normally aren’t.
I question your choice to apply ED to Barnard if in the end, those not in the “uppermost” echelons of whatever contrived intellectual society you’ve mustered, are the ones who receive admission.
That, Sir/Madam/Person, should tell you more about Barnard than a viewbook.</p>
<p>Do you know how large the LGTBQ in my very small school is? I apologize for being insensitive, but I don’t think its fair to pit the label of “homophobe” onto someone who makes a simple and inadvertent hetero-normative statement. A more graceful LGBT person than would have taken my comment in STRIDE and said something like “I’m not into boys, but I’ll tell you what my taste preference in…” instead of being passive-aggressive (simply aggressive…) about it. Whether or not you identify as part of the community, you do indeed fulfill the stereotype of a “bitter” LGBTQ person. This forum and the propriety that rules it does NOT change because it is a Barnard forum. Its a Collegeconfidential forum, which means that its PUBLIC. And you should know that not everyone in society or in the public are sensitive to the issues. Deal with it.</p>
<p>On a final note: Raising awareness is very important and I commend you for it. However, aggression does the complete opposite; it does not provoke empathy or inspire change, but rather resentment, criticism, and resistance to change.</p>
<p>Good job at raising awareness… Uh, not.</p>
<p>Goodness, so much drama on this thread! Hope this isn’t foreshadowing.</p>
<p>I think this thread will be interesting to future Barnard EDers.
I mean, what other Barnard ED thread got BOTH a random ■■■■■ AND a bitter lesbian? I feel special 
Thanks Nacreous, Scarletstream!</p>
<p>-just kidding about the bitter lesbian. but yeah.
I would throw out a new question to change the subject, but i’m sure that whatever i ask will contribute to everyone chewing me up due to some semblence of heteronormativity. </p>
<p>But so far we’ve discussed… 1) Admissions Stress 2) Boys 3) Clothing 4) High School Government classes 5) The LGBTQ community.</p>
<p>Hey why don’t we break the gender stereotype and discuss sports? Too bad I won’t be able to contribute cause I hate sports. :)</p>
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<p>Maybe I wasn’t reading the thread thoroughly enough, but I didn’t see anyone (especially not NACREOUS) calling you a homophobe. Heteronormative attitudes don’t make someone a homophobe, and no one here ever implied otherwise - they’re not a result of open malice against or even lack of exposure to the LGBT community, they’re simply a result of cultural norms that are deeply ingrained into one’s consciousness and most people, even those within the LGBT community, often have to deliberately avoid succumbing to them. However, telling her how an LGBT person “should” have responded and diminishing her by calling her the “stereotype of a ‘bitter’ LGBTQ person” isn’t helping your case in the least and in fact does make you look like a homophobe.</p>
<p>Also, I fail to see what “raising awareness” has to do with anything. In fact, your entire last paragraph seems unprecedented in the context of the thread.</p>
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<p>You just dug yourself into an even deeper hole, even if you are joking.</p>
<p>We really should break away from the arguing, although I agree that the “bitter lesbian” comment was quite uncalled for. I think the pressure of admissions has put us all on edge. I feel no need to make the anxiety and stress even worse by starting arguments with strangers over the internet. </p>
<p>We’re all here for the same reason: we love Barnard. There will obviously be differences between our opinions and interests but I’d prefer to focus on the former.</p>
<p>@noloserhere i watch ellen…she dresses nicely, is smart and is a lovely lesiban lady…that’s super heteronormative right? also my mom is rly into tarot cards and she said not to worry about ur tracking number thing</p>
<p>Ok new question: if high school could be over tomorrow and you go to college would you rather that or having the rest of the year?</p>
<p>Personally, i want the rest of the year. I’m SO scared to make all new friends, etc. I literally can’t imagine that all my friends now will be in different places this time next year.</p>
<p>@everyone up there: Okay, everyone tells me I’m really bad at being funny, so I’m not surprised about the heat 
Nonetheless, I see where I messed up and apologize. </p>
<p>@treehugga-- At my school, second semester senior year is when all the guys confess to the girls they’ve had crushes on for the past for years. I’m looking forward to Prom, Not caring about school, senior trips, and etc. I kind of want to enjoy 3 months of slack before I start obsessing about my college GPA ;)</p>
<p>As for being in different places–I’m really proud of my friends. I already know 20 people who are in at either Columbia, Stanford, Dartmouth, UPenn, or Cornell. I’m pretty sure Yale, Princeton and UChicago will pull my facebook friendslist into the “elitist” category of society completely Besides, EVERYONE comes back home for thanksgiving/christmas breaks, so you’ll still see them!!</p>
<p>[Barnard</a> Dorm Room - YouTube](<a href=“Barnard Dorm Room - YouTube”>Barnard Dorm Room - YouTube)</p>
<p>This dorm room looks really nice. I really like how they set it up–the wardrobes between them to give them privacy.</p>
<p>Wow, noloserhere, that dorm IS really nice…but unfortunately, I don’t think it’s the norm for first-years and I’m sure the women in that video are either juniors or seniors. When I visited my friend’s dorm it was a small double and she said it was one of the bigger rooms on campus in the underclassman dorms. It was certainly nice, don’t get me wrong, but the room in that video is huge.</p>
<p>Frankly, dorms are far from my top priority, although a room with AC would be nice. My only real concern is that my roommate snores - I don’t deal too well with loud, inconsistent noises when I’m trying to sleep!</p>
<p>Yeah, that dorm is great. </p>
<p>I’m proud of my friends too, but I’m just so scared of starting all over.</p>
<p>Woo barnard</p>
<p>@Nacreous: Okay, I realize we have moved on, but I just have to comment quickly because being stereotyped is something I have no patience for. Please do not judge people based on an online forum. None of us know each other in real life and are merely trying to find common ground to discuss, sometimes away from the subject of Barnad to get our minds off of it. However, the fact that I like clothes and want to talk about the dating scene does not make me any less capable or intelligent. Fyi, I’m obsessed with classic literature and read “Anna Karenina” for fun when I was 13. I chose Barnard because it’s not the sorority-obsessed party school and, if I were to join one at Barnard, I have faith that the girls who go there would make it an experience different than what you would find at, for example, Arizona State. I helped found the first LGBT Awareness club at my very homophobic school. However, I am still plenty allowed to discuss clothes, guys, etc. and I should be able to do so on an anonymous forum without being judged. Maybe I am conforming to heternormative attitudes, but I am fine with that. That doesn’t make me close-minded, less intelligent, etc. and I would appreciate if you would refrain from saying so.</p>
<p>@everyone discussing dorms: I am really nervous as to what hall I will end up in, if accepted. I have talked to some people who go there and they have said that your freshman year dorm experience can either be a really awful one or a fantastic one depending on which hall you end up in. Supposedly, Sulzberger is the one to hope for…</p>
<p>we’re crazy, i know. that can be the only reason i found this post one minute after it was put up.</p>
<p>[Stalking</a> you EDers on the College Confidential thread… - Barnard College: A Survival Guide](<a href=“http://barnardigan.■■■■■■■■■■/post/14021272086/stalking-you-eders-on-the-college-confidential]Stalking”>http://barnardigan.■■■■■■■■■■/post/14021272086/stalking-you-eders-on-the-college-confidential)</p>
<p>^Thank you, Barnardigan! 
Very good advice and much appreciated.</p>
<p>@amurd927</p>
<p>That is indeed a first year dorm room. It belongs to my friend who lives in Sulz-Reid. Not all rooms have that nifty little hallway, but that actually makes them roomier. I’ll be posting some pictures of the triple I’m in on [? Just a Barnard Baby ?](<a href=“http://barnardbaby.■■■■■■■■■■/”>http://barnardbaby.■■■■■■■■■■/</a>) later tonight, if you would like to see them.</p>
<p>@PeaceLoveTheatre</p>
<p>I have not met one girl who is sincerely unhappy with her dorm room (although we’ve had 1 or 2 roommate melodramas at the beginning of the year). Of course, people complain about it at first (it’s a rather popular way to bond), but no matter what, it ends up like home. The reason why people like Sulz (where my room is located), is because it has AC as well as a newer bathroom. The Brooks rooms, however, are absolutely gorgeous what with their hardwood furniture and carpet.</p>
<p>@LadyStumble: Thank you for telling me that! That’s such a relief. Being away from home will be hard enough and it’s comforting to know that I will likely be happy regardless of what dorm I end up in if accepted. :)</p>
<p>Hey this is THISISSCARY. I totally know what you mean. I’m scared to death! I hope I get the opportunity to meet you girls/young women! You are also talented and wonderful. You all have such a unique personality. I just keep dreaming of living in New York city, going to Barnard college, and just having that perfect life. When I get my rejection, I’m going to cry but to whoever makes it, you deserve and congrats. Enjoy it <3
Just my two cents. Good luck everyone!!!</p>