Being Alone on Campus

Good!!! Putting yourself out there is a great idea.

At my sons school there is an arboretum. This to me is a perfect place to just go to chill. Without knowing your school it’s kinda hard to recommend specific places but maybe they have that sorta thing.

Something that uses technology… Augmented reality or XR. Put on the headset and you can out yourself just about anywhere. You want to be like on a beach… Lol… Many applications to do a virtual desktop also so you can actually get work done. Applications for other useful things.

@Knowsstuff — Yeah, there’s lots of new options and resources.

Lol… I just say this since my son is heavily into AR/XR on the university level and I learn about all sorts of things you can do through him.

But keep in mind… If you can’t get a single… You can still achieve your goals with a roommate. My sons roommates tend to all have vastly different schedules then his. He doesn’t care about the same things you do but no one was around when he was taking a shower etc. So you might just need to change what you do to make it work. After my daughter’s first year she lived in campus theme housing. 2 different one but she got her own room. When she wanted company she would go to the living room to be with others… Maybe your school has something similar?

My D was lucky enough to go to a school with warm weather year round, and really used going outside as a time to be alone. Also, most dorms these days have a lounge on each floor. You can’t reserve it to be alone, but many times, they are empty if you just want to be in a space of your own for a while. There will be plenty of little spots on campus, little-known lounges or nooks in the library. You’ll find something!

This is exactly why I am choosing to live off-campus.

Something that could be interesting is looking into the co-op houses if your campus has that. There are many different types and some have lots of privacy and bathrooms that are singles with a shower and you can dress in there. But some are like party houses also.

You want to go to college to learn from others, to participate in college life. You need to be more open to trying new things, like studying with others in the room and making some compromises. You want to study by yourself? You can do that on Friday nights and have half the library to yourself. Sunday mornings? May be all yours. Tuesday nights at 7? Not so private.

A lot of your issues can be solved with a private room and a private bath. That will cost you. Also, you could be back on CC in six months saying that you haven’t made any friends and no one includes you in activities. Be open to new experiences.

@twoinanddone — I don’t want to study in private; I have done homework at Starbucks for years now, so there’s no issue there. Really, all I want is some time to silently contemplate things and recharge. I like meeting people and positively engaging with others, but that can frankly be draining at times. My plan is to have that alone time so that I may be more amicable and involved for the rest of the day. Some people can just keep going incessantly — and good for them — but I’m just not of that type. I prefer some time of reflection and true aloneness, even if it’s just for a little while.

I will definitely do my best to participate in clubs and nurture a closely-knit group of friends. I truly am the happiest around people I can trust and confide in, so that will be a valuable resource for many years to come. I am also excited to join community service and interest clubs on-campus, such as medical volunteer organizations, political groups and literature clubs.

No offense, but are you autistic?
Many of your concerns and your formal way of writing remind me of myself and other autistic people

I don’t have access to the acc anymore, but you make a good point. I was messing around mostly but I did have really bad issues with anxiety at that time that I think contributed. My time on this platform was really a mess XD but it helped me through that period in some weird way. Thanks for your concern.

No problem! How has your school experience been so far? Did you live at home?

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Fortunately, my college allowed the freshmen to be on campus for their first semester. I made a few friends, got a few extracurriculars, got a job, did well with my studies, and even found myself a good place to study XD. Overall, I wasn’t entirely wrong in being worried about certain things (there were certainly some low points), but I’m happy that I managed to look past my worries and give things a shot. I have been very fulfilled so far and have grown a lot as a person. I am back on campus now for my second semester, pursuing biology and medical humanities as things currently stand. I’m looking forward to getting further involved as things open back up, hopefully come next fall.

That’s great!