<p>I knew a girl in high school who was a good 70lbs overweight, and everyone I knew thought she was just ridiculously awesome. She was the only fat girl among the image conscious high-status crowd, and until I had a class with her I never understood it. She, to put it plainly, oozed self esteem. People liked her because she made them happy. </p>
<p>People aren't going to lose the high school cruelty overnight, and a lot of people retain that quality throughout life. The only thing you can really do to combat people's immediate negative judgment of you is to be the girl that everyone likes, that everyone wants to know. </p>
<p>Please don't judge the occasionally superficial people too harshly. Some of us, me included, grew up viewing fat people as being the scary vision of what we too could become. Any dislike of you because you are fat is less of a reflection on you as it is a reflection on us.</p>
<p>I have PCOS and am overweight also - and it blows. I've lost weight, and gained it back, and lost it, and gained it back...this disease really does screw up your weight, among other things.</p>
<p>Have you tried metformin? Not only does it help prevent diabetes, but it also can help with weight loss. At a price - it can also make you really nauseated. But if you go on it slowly, you can avoid most of the bad side-effects.</p>
<p>I'm also doing diet and exercise - and it does work. But it works -slowly-, and it's hard. You really do have to push yourself to lose the weight, especially with PCOS. I feel for you - and we can BOTH do it if we try, I'm sure of it.</p>
<p>Being fat or big will never affect you, inless you let it, this is for HS or College. Women are drawn to one thing and only one thing in men and that's confidence. Im a very big guy, almost 360 lbs at 6'3". It has never affected me at all.</p>
<p>My attitude goes as follows. If you don't like me F-uck you. Its that simple, I can give 2 craps what people think of me, it just doesn't matter. Ive also had alot of skinnier guys on dates, call me and the girl out. They would ask her, why she was with me. I would always win because I with with the girl and they were in a group of 3-5 dudes.</p>
<p>I actually rented the book. "Eat this, Not that" from the Library and its a really nice book. No diets, just make healthier choices and have fun exercising.</p>
<p>and Russell7, Doctors have found that, high intensity training doesn't do much more than low intensity. Most doctors now recommend going for two 20 minute walks or speed walks over a 20 minute run.</p>
<p>What were the conditions of "doing more." Doing more what?</p>
<p>Low intensity cardio (for longer sessions) is good because it depletes glycogen stores and allows you to burn fat directly from your cardio. Low intensity cardio is something like jogging.</p>
<p>High intensity is good because of how much it raises your metabolism. High intensity is something like interval training, incorporating sprinting and either walking or jogging.</p>
<p>The effects of them are completely different, but both beneficial, which is why I recommend doing them both. However, if I could only pick one, it'd be low intensity for 1 hour+. 20 minutes just isn't enough to deplete glycogen and start burning fat.</p>
<p>And yeah, that 1000 calorie diet recommended by whoever is not a good idea. Those diets put you in a state of starvation and drastically lower your metabolism.</p>
<p>maybe schools in the South are more tolerant of overweight people? not that everyone there is fat but from what I hear weight is not a huge issue there as it is in cali or new york and stuff</p>
<p>yeah that seems to be in the case. when i was in new orleans, a popular tourist attraction for southerners, i saw many fat guys with relatively skinny counterparts (compared to the men).</p>
<p>i came from a very tolerant high school so people who were overweight were treated the same as fit or skinny people. People are rude and insensitive everywhere you go, BUT people mature[sometimes] in college, as they get older. So I would say continue what you are doing, which is amazing, i wish i had your will power!!! and be confident in what you do. Sure some people will judge you initially, but they will get over it when they meet the awesome person you are. I agree w/ a previous poster, the way you present yourself can be gorgeous without you being the ‘ideal’ weight and affect the way people accept you.</p>
<p>Don’t take this the wrong way: Maybe you need to hang out with ball-bags and other insensitive jerks so you won’t be judged as harshly. You know, that way you won’t feel as much pressure to be a kind, understanding human being.</p>
<p>Hope the rest of your summer casting judgement and rejection across the boards goes well!</p>
<p>Wow, some of the people on this board are startlingly ignorant. But anyway, congratulations on the 10 pounds you’ve already lost, especially because it seems like you’ve lost it in a healthy way (unlike the starvation diet suggested to you). Honestly, 35 pounds will probably not be enough to significantly damage your social life, unless you happen to be a particularly mean person who people don’t hang out with except because they’re attractive. Since this doesn’t seem to be the case, you should be fine.</p>
<p>PS: If you’re the somewhat athletic-overweight type, which you seem to be, you may want to consider joining a sport team, even if it’s at the intramural or club level, where it works to your advantage. My sister’s somewhat overweight friend plays rugby, and has a lot of fun in addition to getting great exercise. Good Luck!</p>
<p>count your calores. keep lowering them until you start losing weight; you will, eventually. You can’t just eat healthy and work out; it’s about numbers. there’s absolutely no excuse for being fat.</p>
<p>Sounds like your on track to getting this fixed. All I can say is that everything takes time. I had the opposite problem; I was skinny as **** and couldn’t bulk up. I didn’t want to bulk up because of the ladies, or because I was being bullied, but because I really loved martial arts, but I couldn’t cultivate enough strength to move up to a decent tournament/competitive level. It took my first three years of high school, or drinking protein shakes and hitting the gym for an hour a day, in addition to martial arts and swimming, for me to get to the level of ‘ripped’ that I wanted. </p>
<p>Everything takes fcking forever, it’s a slow world. It takes years and years to make anything worthwile happen in stocks, in fitness, in life in general. But you know what? I’m giving it another three years, because it’s ****ing fun and it’s better than spending three years on my ass letting all of my extremely hard work atrophy away. </p>
<p>I honestly was going to post something ■■■■■■■■ and sarcastic, like “hmm, stop eating McD’s maybe… duh.” But look, it really sounds like you are in the small percentage of americans that have a trait known as perseverance. You also want to fix the weight problem for you, not because you care about what people will think about you.</p>
<p>Patience and passion is important. A lotta skinny ****ers will step into the gym at 130 lbs and expect to be 200 lbs solid in 6 months. Meh, ain’t gonna happen. Fat loss and muscle gain are PAINSTAKINGLY slow processes. Expect to lose no more than 2 lbs fat/week or gain more than 1 lb wet tissue/week under ideal circumstances. </p>
<p>Think long term…If I’m 150 lbs now, what if I gained 10 lbs of muscle a year (realistic)? What about two years later? What about five? etc…</p>
<p>BS, it is entirely possible to gain 20-30 lbs of muscle in 3 months if you train correctly and eat properly. Just dont overload on protein. Losing fat doesnt take too long either if, again, you TRAIN correctly (this can be helped, possibly, by restricting or even eliminating your wheat/dairy consumption.</p>
<p>^^ Haha, I’m 170 6’0" with an athletic build (I work out already), and I’m trying to undertake the feat of gaining 30 pounds of muscle this year. Any sites with information regarding rapid muscle gain of that sort? Not interested in creatine, btw…</p>
<p>Nope, no creatine needed either. Usually some whey protein in your diet as well as an amino acid supplement to drink immediately post-workout will help, but the latter is not necessary. Stick to whole foods, dont drink, dont smoke, dont even touch a chocolate bar (unless it’s part of a cheat meal), and make sure you vary athletic training with bodybuilding training (though I guess if you just work out for the sake of muscle, a regimen geared towards bodybuilding is better…)</p>
<p>Hmmm, nice. Sounds manageable. I don’t eat red meat or milk, nor do I drink, although I smoke semi-regularly (not cigarettes). Any other foods/things in particular to avoid, though? Thanks.</p>