<p>Who's going or has gone?
I'm considering going because they're during my spring break and everything but I don't know if my dad would be able to get off work to come with me, so I would likely be coming up by myself... would that be awkward? I mean, is everyone going to be there with their parents?</p>
<p>and do they involve staying overnight in a dorm?
any insights would be helpful. thanks!</p>
<p>I asked mi amiga that goes to Duke right now how the Blue Devil Days are because it conflicts with my schedule. She said that they do a lot of pre-frosh programming but that perhaps visiting on a regular school day and getting into contact with current students is more truthful than Duke putting on a happy face. I’m leaning towards visiting just because I know I could stay with a former hs alumna but then if you go pre-frosh you can meet incoming class 2013. </p>
<p>I think they can involve staying in a dorm because they sent out an email asking people to host. If that’s the case, I would encourage you to take advantage of the opportunity to visit (and stay) on campus. I actually think staying with a host for a day would give you a much better feel than just hanging with your dad all day which is likely to happen if he were to come with you. Also, even though they do do a lot of pre-frosh crap, you don’t have to do anything so if you don’t want to just don’t. It’s your visit, you should make the most of it as you see fit.</p>
<p>do you think it would be better to go with a parent? because my dad would have no problem going or letting me go alone, i just was wondering if most people are there with parents</p>
<p>I would say most people do bring their parents. It’s good and bad for the same reason: it gives you a comfort zone. I do think it is an advantage to stay in the dorms with students because it forces you to engage with them (us, haha). But if you do want your dad to come with you, then you can still get what you want out of your visit. Just remember to not get too caught up in the BDD events and talking with your dad the whole time, or the other pre-frosh. You need to talk to students because they have the perspective that you’re probably going to have, so you want to find out what that is and if it’s something you’re comfortable with. Also, try to remember what you’re trying to learn: whether you want to be a student here or not. That is, you’re not trying to see if it’s a good tourist location or a good place to walk around with your dad. Think about the food options, the kinds of classes and strengths of departments, the campus culture, activities, living arrangements, all the kinds of things that you’re going to live with every day. If you think you can do that with your dad, then bring him along, but if you think you’ll have a better chance if you leave him behind, just let him know.</p>
<p>Parent here. I went with our son to BDD the year he was accepted. We decided to split up for part of the time, go to separate events, then meet up at a certain time of the day or for an event we both wanted to do. That worked well for us and gave him plenty of space. He also opted to stay overnight with a student in a dorm. So, you can go with a parent, but you don’t have to hang with that parent all the time.</p>
<p>@dogdoc- Thanks! I didn’t read past the congratulations when I originally opened the letter, so I was really confused when I tried to register on the website and couldn’t find anything.</p>