<p>I transferred into this school as a sophomore, my sophomore year i commuted and i basically treated my whole sophomore year like community college where i would just go to class and go home cause i didnt know any better, i did meet one person but that was my second semester as a sophomore we became cool, we took another class this year (my junior year first semester) now im in my second semester and we dont chill or nothing since we dont have classes now, but anyways at the beginning of my junior year i did alot more on campus like hanged out more and explored and that made me realize im missing out on life and i have no friends in college and it makes me so depressed, the only ppl i know are basically ppl i used to work with or the 2 ppl from my hs, most ppl from my hs didnt go to college, i be trying to make talk in the classroom but it just doesnt go nowhere from there, for example last semester i introduced myself to a couple ppl but nothing happened, just acquaintances. Now this semester has been awful cause i dont have anybody in my classes and my classes suck and there at night so most people in those classes are just not my type i can tell so i dont even bother, i live 10-15mins from the school and next semester i would be a senior and im definitely moving on campus i been thinking about a dorm but do ya'll think im too old for that? i'll be like 22-23 in a dorm is that pathetic? i just wanna be able to make some friends because its so hard walking around school lonely while everybody is cliqued up, its crazy cause i have no clique at the school or nothing i have like no real female friends at this school and being a commuter u dont know where the parties or none of that is at unless u know ppl and i know no one, i even tried an organization this semester last week i went to the meeting but it was very brief i brought my boy with me but most ppl in there knew each other, they basically just talked about community service stuff coming up i dont even know if i should go to that because i feel like it would be pointless, but seriously ya'll got any tips for a commuter i feel like since i went to community college and didnt meet no one there either(but i had some hs friends there) i feel like i lost my touch with communicating with ppl in general, i need some serious tips, what can i do to make some real friends and would i be too old for a dorm and just get a appt on campus? i just feel like im wasting my life in college when im not doing anything. my campus is very big and in the city and i also work everyday (p/t) downtown 5mins from school and im thinking about cutting back on time too</p>
<p>For future reference, your posts are easier to read if they have paragraphs and proper punctuation.</p>
<p>I don’t think this has anything to do with being a commuter. Living on campus doesn’t automatically make you involved. It’s about putting yourself out there. Go to different clubs. Spend more time on campus.</p>
<p>well i liked your post. it was all in one sentence almost so i could read it in one go. like from start to finish without too many pauses or stiff transitions. it was good. im a commuter too so i know how it is. those commutes. the waiting for the transportation in morning out in the freezing cold (are you taking public transportation or driving?), the wondering when, if ever, the bus is going to come, the bus ride that when it finally starts you don’t want it to end, it’s so warm on the bus, there’s so much nice chatter that increases as college students load up onto it at the stops (i get on as one of the first people so i can usually choose the good window seat next to the heat that blows from above), finally, the abrupt drop off when i’m dumped back into the chilly morning air. maybe i was thinking about that delicious breakfast sandwich that i’m never going to have. it was that bagel the kid had in his hand that took my mind there. but now whatever i was thinking about its over, i have to face facts, im a poor, socially inept, utter loser that needs to make his way to class by walking by the group of smokers that hang out near the parking lot, need to keep my stride steady and my head up looking ahead, not at them but just ahead, as if i am a confident young person when i’m not, as if i have somewhere im determined to get to, which i don’t, i hate school and class and nearly everything about it but that doesn’t change the facts. this is mostly my imagination because i rarely actually make it past the smokers. usually i don’t make it out the door to the bus. but even if i made my commute more i wouldn’t make friends either. like you said, everyone’s cliqued or uninviting and even if someone was inviting would i take that invitation? no. they should save it for someone who might actually have the guts to show up.</p>
<p>hm</p>
<p>Well I have the same issue but I’m getting over it. I still keep in touch with my high school friends and don’t hang out with any of the new people I’ve met in college.</p>
<p>After each semester it’s like a fresh new start of meeting new people. I have some of the people’s contact info that I’ve met but neither of us really keep in touch. We were only friends for the class or hw so obviously we’re not gonna stay friends esp with different classes…it’s like hs all over again!</p>
<p>You have to join the right organizations… For me it was Circle K for many reasons such as the inviting atmosphere.
Otherwise, more or less, it is indeed like high school (minus the things such as academic competition(s) that made high school exciting) over, just that I’ve lost all of my “smart” friends that decided to go to more “prestigious” colleges / the not really fitting in feeling that I’ve had in high school (the people do treat it as if it was still high school too).</p>
<p>–I love Circle K, I feel like without it, yeah I could get through the lovely studies of all engineering courses, but maybe I would’ve gone through a crash course of loneliness and a bland life of showing up, spend some time on my computer during breaks (basically what the people from my high school spend their time doing so you don’t get to talk to them much) and going home after class is over…</p>
<p>Moving on-campus is a great idea especially if you want to make new friends and meet new people. Your dorm becomes your home and people living in dorms your new community. However, if you’re shy-type then moving on-campus won’t make much of a difference, but I guess that is not a problem in your case.
Your age, I think is not an issue, people between the ages of 18-22 basically share the same age group. Its not that big of deal.
Finding friends in evening classes is never a good idea since almost all are professionals who come to the class straight from work and want to get back home after class. They just don’t have the time.
So yes move on-campus and see how things turn in your favor. </p>