<p>Hello! So I just recently received a likely from Wellesley and am completely thrilled with the possibility of attending. The campus is beautiful and I know all the women who go there are exceptionally talented. There is just one tiny little thing that is keeping me from nailing Wellesley down as my official choice and that is the accessibility of boys. I love the idea of an all women's college and the idea of being able to take intellectual risks without boys. However, I look at my current friends in high school and the boys vastly outweigh the girls. So my question is for current Wellesley students: how often can you see boys from other schools? Every weekend? Every day? Also, how often do you go to Boston? Are kids from other Boston schools looking to make friends with other students not from their school? </p>
<p>I have never gone a day in my life without having a guy best friend so the idea is kind of mystifying for me. Thank you all so much!</p>
<p>I see that you’re new to CC, so I’ll repeat what I said to another new member. First, congratulations on getting a likely letter from Wellesley. Also, the questions you ask are very common - in other words, plenty of people are asking themselves the same questions! And because it’s common, it’s been answered multiple times here on the Wellesley forum. Again, just about all the alumnae on this board love Wellesley and enjoy talking about their experience, but it gets a little tiring to have to repeat the same answers over and over.</p>
<p>For what it’s worth, I, too, had a great many guy friends in high school - was a bit apprehensive about Wellesley - came to SOC - fell in love with the place - attended and graduated - am now out in the “real world” - and absolutely have no regrets.</p>
<p>What I meant is that in general I am naturally more inclined to be friends with boys. It’s not that I dislike girls or anything of that nature (I have girl friends too) but I just have always been closer with guys. Obviously I do care about the personalities of my friends and not just their gender and to imply otherwise is kind of bizarre?</p>
<p>Thank you both for the suggestions. I just found this website by chance and will have fun looking through all the posts. Thanks again! :)</p>
<p>Most of my friends in hs were guys. Most of my friends at Wellesley now had mostly guy friends in hs too. You adjust and you get to know othergirls better. :)</p>
<p>Yes, this question about Wellesley has been asked and probably will be asked for another century. That said, here are my lazy girl’s answers to your questions: You can see (and interact with!) boys from other schools everyday if they cross-register in your classes or you cross-register at Babson, Olin, MIT. You can easily see them every weekend. I go out into Boston at least once every weekend (despite the $6 roundtrip bus fare). Yes, students are open to mingling with other schools. </p>
<p>There are scores of students at Wellesley who were “guy’s girls” before coming. My roommate is one of them. Just get in touch with your old high school friends who’re also in Boston and have them introduce you to their friends. Or go to an MIT frat party. Or join Toons, Mission Hill After School, Chinatown, whatever. It’s not that hard. ( But in the long run, imo girl friends are better. And Wellesley girl friends are THE best. :)</p>
<p>The only person I intimately know who went to Wellesley is my mom. From what I’ve gathered, she went there a typical teen and came out a huge feminist. And from everything I’ve heard all-girls schools have a homo-erotic atmosphere (which is supported by the sexually undertoned comment “you get to know other girls better :)”). But maybe more lesbians prefer to go to an all-girls school. Are there causations here? I don’t know, but that’s a definite possibility. </p>
<p>Anyways my google maps says it’s only a 25 minute drive to go see some of the fine Harvard men. </p>
<p>Reviival here’s your first post word usage:
“boys” six times
“guy” once
“men” zero times
“women” twice
“girls” once
^This indicates to me that you perceive males as inferior, or at least as more immature, than their female counterparts. Your one use of “girls” indicates that your feminism has not quite matured yet, though. If you want that feminism transformation to be complete, I doubt Wellesley will hurt. Although what do I know, never having taken a psychology class in my life? </p>
<p>And don’t you Wellesleyans get annoyed at your college being constantly misspelled and, when spelled correctly, my computer still tells me it’s not a word? That must suck.</p>
<p>I hope none of you take this too literally. I’m just giving ya’ll a hard time. Congratulations on your likely letter OP!</p>
<p>The spell-check thing is sad, but that happens to a lot of college names. It’s an easy fix nonetheless.</p>
<p>My comment of “you get to know other girls better” was not intended to have any sexual undertones as you so imply. As a person who had mostly male friends in hs, coming to a women’s college was a new experience for me in that I would not have the same friend/social circle. Thus, I would be able to know more about other females and how to interact with them academically and socially. </p>
<p>Your point about lesbians self-selecting to attend a women’s college is a common thought. Personally, I feel that Wellesley has about the same percentages of lesbians/queer/questioning/etc people compared to other schools. I do also think that the ones at Wellesley are more inclined to be proud and open about who they are than their peers at co-ed schools. Wellesley is a supportive environment, and we will accept you for who you are.</p>
<p>You could also have a conversation with your mother about this and see what she says.</p>
<p>The truth: you see men if you leave campus. Or, if you have friends who have male friends on other campuses. Or, you make friends with the token male that may happen to be in one of your classes.</p>
<p>For the most part, you don’t see men on campus (other than professors). I’m not going to sugarcoat it for you. It is possible to see guys, but you really do have to be proactive about it. And another truth - you’ll most likely get so caught up with doing schoolwork that you won’t have time to go meet the men at nearby colleges. So, again, you really do have to set aside time to a. leave campus and b. meet guys. It’s manageable, but it’s not going to be as easy as it was in high school.</p>
<p>However, it’s my personal opinion that you should choose a college based on its educational value, and how much you will be able to grow as a person once you get there. If you’re wittling your choices down to whether or not you’ll be able to meet guys (and i’m not saying this to the OP, I’m saying this to anyone who’s reading this) I think you really need to reconsider coming to Wellesley, because you may find yourself very unhappy come this time next year.</p>