We have our china but it is packed away and almost never used. D did not bother with formal china and has no interest in it. A lot of things we got are long gone.
Times and lifestyles have changed. I have no issue giving cash or money towards a honeymoon fund, etc. I’m not a shopper so it’s kind of a “win” for me.
So important to remember. Maybe the couples of today won’t be like many of us, on the “bag a week” thread because we’ve accumulated so much stuff!!! 
Even in my own life I don’t like getting gifts. I really, REALLY prefer purchasing all my stuff - from my kitchen glassware to what’s in my closet or decorating my walls, on my own.
It’s funny but we have almost all of our shower and wedding gifts. We just re-gifted our every day plates to our D when she moved into her new apartment ; ).
Everything we got was from our registry so we did pick it all out and we do still use it.
We are going to celebrate 35 years of marriage in December. I still have my Kitchen Aid mixer. It still works perfectly!
Our D did not have a shower. They had a wedding registry but it was pretty limited to some dishes and barware, in part because their apartment is pretty small and they don’t have room for a lot more stuff. They did include a KitchenAid stand mixer on there which was by far the most costly item, and they were very excited when my SIL (bride’s aunt) purchased it for them. But they got a lot of checks/cash given at the reception and many of them were specifically earmarked for the honeymoon. They’re on their honeymoon right now and those extra funds have come in very handy. They also know that eventually they’ll inherit some fine china, crystal, silver etc from us.
I am trying to get rid of a lot of stuff. Still have the canister and creamer/sugar bowl set my aunt gave me for my shower down in the basement. No reason to keep it as we would never use it (and really I didn’t love it at the time) but makes me think of her. Hard to do, but putting it in the give away box.
Otherwise, still have most of the shower gifts and use them including the silverware and stemware. who knows if that stuff will come back in style in the future.
We still have some of our wedding gifts but not all of them. Stuff has broken, gotten worn out, we don’t need it anymore, etc.
We got some wonderful, soft dark purple towels from H’s uncle for our wedding. We used them for years! But eventually they got faded and worn out. I think they eventually made their way to the rag/old towel pile…
As for wedding gifts we still have:
-2 casserole dishes (that we use fairly often)
-A lamp that we still have in the living room. We got it re-wired a couple of years ago and still works like it’s brand new
-A wall clock, that we still have, but it’s in the garage and it needs to be fixed.
-A vase that is very eclectic and modern, but not really our style. It’s also collecting dust on the top shelf of the pantry. The relative that gave it to us, is near and dear to our hearts. I’d say the vase would look better in their house…
-Canisters for sugar, flour, etc.: these still sit on my counter and they’re full of stuff!
-Croquette/bocce ball set: We don’t actually have this anymore, we passed it along to my nephew and his wife (they have a yard with a large lawn) and they actually use it every so often. We used to use it, but we haven’t lived in a house with a huge lawn for a long time…
We also got a beautiful bamboo salad serving bowl with utensils for tossing. I haven’t seen these things in a long time. I don’t know if they got lost or if they’re in some box on the rack in our garage. Or I forgot that I got rid of them or gave them away.
Some things I remember getting but we no longer have:
-Beautiful placemats and fabric napkins: eventually got faded and worn out, but we had them and used them for a long time
-Food processor: returned it because we thought we’d never use it. Used it to buy a fancy coffee maker
-Juicer: large, unwieldy, and very hard to clean. We did use it fairly often at first, but it was such a hassle to clean every time we used it, that we just stopped using it. We still kept it for a long time, but H finally put his foot down when we were moving about 10 years ago and made me get rid of it. I could see his point, why move something that was just going to take up space in a cupboard.
-Spice rack: fell off the wall and broke…
My oldest niece had a shower. She got a fondue set, which they ended up only using once. She said that it was donated to Salvation Army when they moved into their new house 5 years ago…she said it sounded fun at the time, but I think they underestimated how much they would use it. She said they still have most of their wedding gifts, but they’re still pretty young.
D’s friend who had a wedding shower, had a pretty small registry, they didn’t want/need much. I think they mostly wanted stuff for their honeymoon or money (this seems to be the case more and more)
Every time I stop at a consignment/thrift store I see a donated fondue set…
Me too!
There have been several wedding gift threads; perhaps this thread could be used for wedding attendant burnout instead of stories about our own wedding gifts?
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