DS hears from his ED school a week from today. He is definitely antsy, and a bit pessimistic. His BS sent out today a checklist of “how to handle the news” tips to parents and apparently briefed the kids today in person about what to do if the news is good/bad/uncertain (deferred). Even if our news on Dec 15 is bad, the next date we hear something is Dec 20, and we’re all much more optimistic about that school.So that may help our collective moods. I hope. 
Meanwhile, my 8th grader submitted her apps today to the 3 high schools she’s applying to. Her SSAT scores were DISMAL. She is dyslexic, so it was not a surprise, but still, I’m concerned. So concerned, in fact, that I’m having her take it again in mid-January as a FLEX test. Steering them both through this process this fall has been very stressful.
@hellomaisy, Best of luck to your daughter! With twins, I never get to repeat anything. That’s not always a good thing, but I am really glad not to have to repeat either round of applications!
@hellomaisy I’m in you’re exact situation. I’m awaiting college with my oldest and my 8th grader (who has dyscalculia) is applying to boarding and Day schools. Standardized tests are not good to kids with learning differences. The stress of finding a good fit for her and waiting for college decisions is stressful. She will not take her tests again but I have submitted the neuropsych Eval report to the schools. Good luck
Feel like I should add some background to my earlier post. My perspective is shaped by our experience with college admissions with our older 2. Our 2 older kids were both Denied by the schools they applied ED. Our oldest actually was Denied or waitlisted by all of the 10 colleges he applied to. At the time it was devastating to him and us. Still a mystery how this could have happened. (selectivity of schools range, decent gpa, awesome test scores, tons of ec’s, great refs, proctor, term abroad etc…). He took a gap year, reapplied and was admitted to one of the schools he had been waitlisted at. He grew a ton during his gap year (got a job and lived at home for the 1st time in 4 years). Today he is a junior studying a subject he is passionate about in a great college for his major. He is in the perfect spot for him. It honestly all worked out exactly how it needed to.
Daughter was accepted at multiple schools, chose one of her top choice schools (top 30 university) for a very specific major she was passionate about. Of course she changed her major after freshman year, and decided to transfer to a higher ranked school for her new major junior year. Was accepted to 2 of her top choice schools. Waitlisted st the 3rd. Chose one, went to revisit day, registered for classes, rented an apartment etc… 3 weeks before school started she got off the extended waitlist at a much higher ranked college that she was thrilled to attend. Whirlwind of activity to get her out of one school and into another ensued. So basically you never know how the story ends.
Good luck to everyone’s kids next week. Take it from a momma who has see it all- it really does work out how it is meant to be! That is probably why we have a pretty laid back attitude about the whole thing. The biggest compliment we got was tonight when driving our son to get secret Santa gifts, he said thank you for being such a great parent during the college admission process. He went on to describe how we supported him by ensuring he stayed on task without smothering him with our needs, wants and anxiety. He then described his senior friends experiences as being one of 2 scenarios. Having parents who were either pushy and overbearing or completely clueless and unhelpful. (I am sure this is an extreme characterization). One more to go for us as we have a daughter graduating in 2019.
Though 7D2 knows where she’s going to college, my wife and I were discussing December 15 and the highs and lows associated with notification day. We also got an email from 7D2’s school regarding ED notification day suggestions (not just for the student but for his/her classmates).
I had conveniently forgotten that 7D1 (NMF and all) was rejected from what had then been her dream school a few Decembers ago. My wife recalled the drive home from BS that day as tear-filled and very sad. 7D1 ended up at another very highly regarded U for her major, where she is thriving as a junior and starting to consider PhD programs. Another “it all works out in the end” story for you…
good luck everyone waiting result today
Woohoo! My daughter got into her first choice!!! :D/ thanks to FaceTime, I didn’t miss her reaction when she opened up the decision page.
Congratulations to her, @NYCMomof3 !
@gardenstategal thx!
That’s so great, @NYCMomof3 ! Neat that you got to “see” it with her.
DS got dinged from his ED school. He - and we - were disappointed, but really not surprised (5100 ED applicants for 800 spots). His girlfriend and his roommate both got in to their ED schools on Thursday (Emory and Bucknell), and so it stung him a bit. BUT, he’s got his chin up and is looking toward Dec 20 and beyond when we start hearing from his remaining 7 schools.
Good luck, and very happy holidays, to all!
@hellomaisy thank you. Sorry to hear he didn’t get his ED but I’m sure he will have lots other doors opening. Even though my daughter got into her ED, it all depends on $$$ if she takes the spot. She also has five other EA schools. We are hoping it will be financially possible for her to attend the ED school but if she can’t, she will have other options. It’s because of this she isn’t getting her hopes up. She is great with the “wait and see” and knows it’s all about the $. Good luck to your son! Hope he gets good news before the end of the year.
Son was deferred from one of his EA schools. Still waiting to hear on his ED and 3 other EA schools. Most of his friends had disappointing ED results. He seems to be taking it in stride. As he is pretty lopsided candidate (very high test scores and B range gpa- which is high honors at his school) we are using EA results as a guidepost for RD applications.
Congrats and commiseration to all who reported their 2018’s ED results. Fingers crossed for welcome news in the coming weeks and months for all.
Both my kids were deferred, which means I have spent this afternoon sending immense amounts of money to the College Board, the ACT, and the Common App.
We too were a “deferral” family when we did this. I can commiserate. And so the journey continues. … No doubt, there will be a good outcome in the end, but this detour isn’t so fun. Thinking of all of you who had imagined the holidays without the additional essays, etc.
Clicking Helpful for {{HUGS}} =((
Hang in there!
Hoping better news to arrive soon! :x
Congratulations to @NYCMomof3 <:-P
Have all the ED/EA results come out by now? We had one ding in the family (niece whose parents live in same town was deferred by her ED dream school) BUT my son was accepted at his dream school! So, now we keep our “whoop whoops!” and happy dances away from the family Christmas gatherings… DH and I get ready to cut more big checks… and everyone roots niece on for the dream school (though she now soured on it) and hope for the many other terrific options (and in my open ion far better fits) that await. GL and congrats to everyone’s kids!
@judbeeski the school where my daughter got her ED acceptance says their ED notifications can take up to mid January to send out. Also, she has some EA schools that she hasn’t heard from yet. The EA deadline was 12/1 so we are hoping she hears something this week but I think maybe up until mid January too. Congratulations on your son’s Acceptance
Wow! Had no idea so many kids are still waiting. DS1 did not apply early anywhere so this is my first (and last) experience with it. I wish everyone waiting all the very best of luck. And, as with my niece, I really hope that even if the news ends up not being what was initially hoped for - that all your kids end up somewhere they will thrive at. 