Very nice choices, @hellomaisy! Where do you think he is leaning and why?
I decided I will vent here after all: my kids got decisions last night from the only school where we were all taken into a room (2 AOs, 2 kids, and mama) together, and (based on that discussion) with which I communicated myself about the twin issue. This is a school that they were both very likely to be admitted to, based on stats and Naviance. One kid was accepted and is a finalist for a full-tuition scholarship. The other was waitlisted and is crushed and feeling inadequate. This mama is furious. I would rather they had waitlisted or rejected both than give such disparate decisions. And if they actually want the one kid, don’t they know they have no chance at him/her now after dissing the sibling? I would rather send the kid to community college (which will not be necessary, thank goodness, as that was really not a true statement ).
@hellomaisy , nice options! At this point, we just asked our kid questions about how he felt about things, listened, and responded with his answers. “It sounds like you feel like the kids at XYZ are your kind of people but that you are worried about ABC.” And in truth, he preferred doing that whole exercise with his CC. You still have revisits, right? Those were really helpful to DS.
Sorry, @twinsmama. I recall one of the CCS telling us that years after the fact, there is still a school she hates for something that happened with her kiddo. Even though the kiddo could care less at this point. That’s why you’re good at your mom job – you care! Hugs to you…
@hellomaisy: FWIW, I’ve always been intrigued by Sewanee. So factor in some random parent from an online forum in you son’s calculus! Also, do not underestimate the importance of geography/setting. IMO, a place can literally “feel” better than another…that that intangible can have an effect on a kid’s happiness at college.
@twinsmama: That stinks. I forget…are you trying to have both kids at one school or not or are you/they ambivalent on issue.
@SevenDad The kids don’t care if they end up at the same school, but they applied to six schools in common. This particular one is the only one that made some pretense of considering family dynamics, which is why I am particularly ticked.
@twinsmama I totally get why you’re ticked. I would be too. It is hard to see how one could be waitlisted, when they are both extraordinary! (I mean that with all seriousness.). Very odd. Vent away. Here’s hoping for a good resolution for all, and soon!!! Hugs.
@twinsmama Everything’s not fair in love, war and selective college admissions. It must hurt for non-admitted twin, but hopefully everything happens for a reason. I am sure said twin will do very well.
btw, @hellomaisy I love both Sewanee and Hobart. Can’t go wrong.
@twinsmama Is there a difference between the twins in regard to academic profile, ECs or other accomplishments, or even gender (where some schools are actively seeking a gender balance) that would explain the difference in admissions results?
I can understand your reaction however your kids obviously liked the college enough to apply and a full tuition scholarship for 4 years is something that sounds like it is worth considering further.
that’s some raw stuff. ugh. So @twinsmama that was delivered in person? This week is going to be soooooo long. kid has two nice acceptances with merit aid, was waitlisted at a super far reach (that I’m secretly obsessed with ) I’ve been behaving I promise but I really hoped for that one. Had to talk it out with Deweykid that financial aid will make tough results. Thats a bitter pill to swallow boarding at an expensive private boarding school, but a learning experience. Full pay students have it easier.
@doschicos , They are of course of different gender, and their interests/activities differ, but both have excellent academic profiles that per Naviance are within the range that made them likely admits, not borderline in any way. And the competition for the full-tuition scholarship would require travel to a fairly distant city, so no, I am not spending any more travel money on that school. Both kids have other options, and with luck the next 10 days will bring a couple more. My son is still waiting on seven decisions and my daughter on twelve, although two of those are already known to be positive, which takes some pressure off. Let’s hope all our kids get good news in the next week or so - and that all us parents get good financial news!
Our DS stands at 2 acceptances. I state school and 1 private. The prIvate school is one of his top choices for his major and he loves it. He received enough merit $ to make it doable (but not comfortable/ as we will have 3 in college next year.) But honestly as a B student- we are thrilled to have any merit $$. Thank gosh he is a great test taker! He has had 3 rejections, 1 waitlist and is waiting on 3 more decisions.
Brutal week 2 waitlists that historically don’t move, and a denial… waiting on the final golden ticket that probably should have been an ED instead of RD. … this is rough while I firmly believe no school is an island, it’s hard not to be incredibly invested in this after a year of hard work.
The wait lists! They’re so tough because they’re lovely in saying, we know you belong here, but they’re also saying …but yeah… you’re not coming. I have a long career in this kind of process so I’m personally more used to this than most people… yet the college process is totally getting to me. I think it’s more about loving my child than planning the future.
“How does one know which lists “historically don’t move””
Some suggestions:
Naviance, at least at my kids’ school, had specific symbols for kids who were waitlisted then accepted or not.
Ask your kid’s college counselor for color.
Look at the school’s common data sets over the past few years to get an idea of waitlist movement. Top schools usually have very little movement but there were always a good number of students at my kids’ BS who seemed to get off waitlists after May 1st.
Yes ^ The school’s common data set can be looked up online. Pretty thorough info. Some take a fair amount… but the odds I was personally hinting at are about 1 in 60, or 1 in 40, so it’s safe to say ‘no movement’. Im putting positive vibes out there to all tho! This will all be settled soon and then we can celebrate their graduation and the next chapters.
Hugs and best of luck to all parents. Hopefully all of you are still waiting for some colleges, good luck to your kids
I understands that it is tougher for kids who needs financial aid in order to attend the colleges compared to full pay students. Hopefully it works out in the end.
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Also, do not underestimate the importance of geography/setting. IMO, a place can literally “feel” better than another…that that intangible can have an effect on a kid’s happiness at college.