<p>When you D or S calls the coach are you in the room with them? Do you have your D/S put the coach on speaker phone so you may hear the conversation? I understand that as a parent you would not say anything just to hear the conversation. I know if I ask my D what the coach said after she hung up I wouldn't get the whole story. </p>
<p>Honestly I wish I could but I would never ask my son to do this! He would laugh at me! Seriously, this will be their life for the next 4 years and they need to get a good feel for the coach. I think we need to trust our kids judgement. Again, the mother in me would love to be listening in. I will say that my son did have one skype conversation with a coach and I was able to overhear some of that because it is kind of like speaker phone. </p>
<p>I think at the very early stages the discussions are very general about work outs or zone defenses or weather at the last tournament. I wouldn’t worry about it.</p>
<p>Thanks. I don’t want to be an over protective parent but I am not. I just want to make sure my D has the best chance possible. </p>
<p>My D talked to the coaches by herself. I gave her a list of questions to prepare, but I think she ignored the list. She is very talkative however. I never heard a conversation, until we made unofficial visits.</p>
<p>I’m with ahsmuoh and bruinatty. I would let the D talk to the coach by herself. Even though you say you are not an over protective parent, it will surely come across that way (to me, at least) if you are listening in on the conversation between a D and her potential coach.</p>
<p>The best chance is to give your D a chance to grow up without a parent around.</p>
<p>I just want to thank everyone for their input on this. If, when my D makes the call she will be doing it on her own. Sometimes my parental instincts kick in and I want to help the best I can.I got to help her in the background on this journey of HERS not mine. </p>
<p>Hi just wanted to add it sometimes progresses to Skyping - that was even worse!! we didn’t listen in, but you could still hear that the conversation was going on! the tension was awful but he (and we!) survived!</p>
<p>From the kids perspective-I have called 2 coaches in the past 3ish months and been called by a couple D3 schools. My parents were no where to be seen. Its not that bad. I wrote notes on a page to reference just in case I didn’t know what to say along with 5-10 questions to ask the coach. The coach is trying to impress your S/D along with getting a feel for them as a person. Most athletes have common sense and know what not to say.When I started the process my parents made it clear that if I wanted to play my sport in college that finding the right opportunity was 100% up to me because we (kids) say different things when our parents are listing even to adults.</p>