<p>I worry about my boys, who are very close, as to how they are going to do apart. As boys, they do not speak on the phone or email. Can anyone tell me how their twins did their first year apart?</p>
<p>Even if your boys decide to transfer so that they are both in the same school, the semester apart will be a huge growth opportunity for them. They will learn to trust their own judgment, will gain more confidence socially, and they’ll branch out into new areas of interest. I would worry more about Mom (or Dad) that is going to have 2 leaving the nest at once. Start to get involved in activities you enjoy now so that when they leave you won’t have such a shock to your system.</p>
<p>My D’s hs class had 5 sets of twins, and 1 set of triplets and her entire class was only 85 kids.One set of ID girls went to the same college, have the same major, and are room mates, so they aren’t apart at all. The triplets (2 boys and a girl) went to schools in 3 different states and are all doing very well.</p>
<p>It depends on the kids.</p>
<p>A colleague has twin boys who attend different schools, but in the same state. They are now seniors and I think it has been the hardest on the mom! They are now looking at grad schools much farther apart and seem to be doing very well. Good luck.</p>
<p>We have freshman triplets…two are attending the same school (boy & girl). At home they didn’t pay each other much attention…but now get together a few times each week for dinner at the cafeteria…strange!</p>
<p>Are your twins going to be attending different schools?</p>
<p>one of them insisted on it, but they do have very different career interests so that was going to happen anyway. They have never really had separate friends or activities as they have always liked the same things; I’m worried that this will be very hard on them. Girls I wouldn’t worry about as much, as I know they would be more communicative, talk on the phone, FB, or whatever.</p>
<p>As for me, I will be sending all three of mine off to college this fall. I have no idea what my life will be like. Are there support groups?</p>
<p>I hear you! Our oldest is a senior, and as I mentioned, the Freshman triplets. It was quite a culture shock becoming instant “empty-nesters”! At first it was tough, but soon my wife and I really started enjoying the freedom…amazing how much time there is when you’re not chasing kids all over the place…</p>
<p>We just took the kids back to school for Spring quarter. We were definitely ready for them to leave…break was from Thanksgiving to Jan 3rd…toooooo long.</p>
<p>I think you will do fine…sure it’s a bit sad to see them leave. But on the other hand, it’s the just the beginning of another chapter in your kids’ lives. It will be an adjustment for your boys, but I think they may surprise you! Good luck to your family!</p>
<p>My fraternal twin boys were very close, spent most of their time together and had all the same friends while in high school. Both got a full tuition, room, board and books scholarship to the University of Louisville but one was such a University of Kentucky Wildcat fan, he insisted on taking a lesser scholarship to UK. The twin at UofL did very well and loved every minute of it because he had some high school friends that went to UofL also. The one at UK was very homesick. He spent two years at UK and then came home to go to the college just a few miles away.</p>
<p>My twin nephews (identicals) went to different colleges. They were very close in HS - did the same ECs, shared friends, etc. Both are doing very well, but they visit each other frequently. The colleges are within 3 hours of each other & both have cars.</p>
<p>I have an 18 yr. old daughter, a college freshman, and 15 year old triplets who are high school freshmen. They are two girls and a boy. Because the triplets were very involved the last three years on visits to colleges with their sister, they have good ideas of what they want in a college and what general area of the country they want to be in. Sad to say, they want to be at 3 different schools and in various states. I am not looking forward to their departure and the empty nest, so will enjoy the next 3 and 1/2 years of having them home. Meanwhile I will follow this thread for any tips I can get from it.</p>
<p>Emah24, hopefully you’ll be able to coordinate the different move-ins, parents weekends, graduations, etc!</p>
<p>I don’t think twins have to be ID twins to have concerns…my good friend has fraternal sons (although they look enough alike that many have asked “are you sure they aren’t identical?”). Both boys wanted the same general thing in a college - large, flagship type school, merit money OOS, good at their individual interest. Ended up and happy at similar but different schools.
Because I work closely with their mom , I know that they text each other several times a day, mostly just to poke fun at each other … They also text parents and older two sisters nearly every day. It can work.</p>
<p>We know some twins–don’t know if their ID or fraternal but looked similar. Because of different merit awards that they couldn’t get the Us to match, they went to different schools. One went to SCU & the other to USC, both in engineering. The 1st graduated with his class in engineering just this past year. The other crashed & burned, loving social aspects of school too much so he lost his merit award & was also having health issues. He returned home & last I heard was selling pre-owned autos. When both were in school, they visited each other at the respective campuses from time to time. Both had HS friends at their Us & both had overlapping friends.</p>
<p>My (boy/girl) twins attend school in Boston and Chicago. They do skype, sometimes several times a week, and text. Email is so old school, that’s what mom does. I’d also like to potentially arrange a weekend where he goes to see her and spends the weekend. I am sure they will do fine. Impressed by all the triplets on here!</p>
<p>My sister and I separated, and we found that we’re better siblings to each other when we don’t see each other that much.</p>
<p>clarinette52… after watching them over Christmas break, I think that is what may be happening with my triplets! (I hope so anyway!)</p>
<p>I have frat girls who are juniors in HS. They will most likely choose very different schools for lots or reasons. I think they will miss each other terribly. I worry some about that and my own instant empty nest. We will all survive, but it will definitely be one hell of an adjustment!</p>
<p>Two of my husband’s partners have twins-- one set (boys) went to schools in MN and WA, were very close, did great in college, and now live together (with their girlfriends) in CO! The other has freshman girls, one in southern CA and one in NJ— they’re about as far apart as can be, and so far keeping in touch well with each other.</p>
<p>Interesting read.</p>
<p>I have a FY college son and a HS Sr daughter, who just finalized her college choice today. After witnessing the trials and tribulations of their older siblings in back-to-back college searches, one of my 6th grade twins put his hand on my shoulder and told me he and his ID brother have been talking, and they would be willing to eventually go to the same college, if it would make it easier on everyone. Such a sweet gesture… but who knows how things will play out in another few years?</p>
<p>My twins are in grade school still and I worried about how I was going to get them to college if they decided to go to different schools. After getting my first born to college this year and seeing all the work, I will be sweating it for years.</p>