Those aren’t starting salaries, they’re early career and mid career median salaries. Some grads earn more, and some earn less than those ranges. A variety of factors can affect that. Where students get a job after graduation and how long after graduation the info. on “early” career salaries was taken could affect those numbers. Stony Brook is a commuter school, so if students get jobs in or near the City after graduation, salaries will be higher than students who get jobs in less urban areas.
You can only borrow ~$5500/year on your own. With the $10k/year from your patents that gives you a budget of $15k. Stony Brook is $30k/year for OOS students. It won’t be affordable. Look for colleges in your home state and work on bringing up your test scores.