<p>And earlier, when I said "no, she would not be paying for it" I meant that she would not be forking over a cent to help me out if I decided to go there.</p>
<p>When a university is as big as UNC-CH, you won't be bothered by a few people from high school. Really, it's not a good reason to reject a school - there are many other things to consider. Since finances are going to be an issue, you need to apply to a number of schools and see what is affordable for your family. A lot of compromise, some of it painful, may be needed on all sides.</p>
<p>How about striking a deal with your mom? If she'll let you visit and apply to Bryn Mawr, you'll agree to apply to UNC. Remember, the goal is to have the best possible set of choices in April.</p>
<p>Oh, I'm already being forced to apply to UNC. That went without saying. I'm going on a tour of the campus on the 24th. Even though I've been there so much you would think that UNC actually WAS her alma mater.</p>
<p>We had an interesting conversation today. And I quote:</p>
<p>"I could see going that far for Yale or Harvard or something. But Bryn Mawr? Its just Bryn Mawr."</p>
<p>JUST BRYN MAWR!?!?!?!?!?! WHAT?!?!?!?!!? I swear, I'm going to lose my mind. How can she judge something she's so obviously clueless about??!!?!?!? I don't know what do anymore. How can I change her mind?</p>
<p>it is not her college search, it is yours. If she is clueless as you indicate then it seems to me it is your job to educate her about Bryn Mawr and why it is important to you.</p>
<p>At this point, you can apply to both schools (and others) RD. There is then time to digest the reality of moving further away and the real choices at hand (assuming you are accepted). This is a process and will likely take a number of discussions and you may even change your thoughts on it as time goes on</p>
<p>good luck</p>