<p>Did you have some special time with your tour guide or something? Lol.</p>
<p>And you met him a little while ago only lol... 99% of boys you will meet won't even last more than a month. This whole thing is ridiculous and shallow.</p>
<p>He wasn't a tour guide viddy but close to it. I know it's ridiculous and shallow, but it's driving me crazy. stupid ED</p>
<p>I can see the letter you are going to fax to Brown now:</p>
<p>Dear Brown,</p>
<p>Please take my application out of the early decision pool and place it into the regular decision pile. I fell in love with a boy from Yale, and now I'm going crazy.</p>
<p>P.S.-I am not a crackpot!</p>
<p>oh boy.</p>
<p>Sounds like pre-wedding nerves. Relax, make the decisions you think is best for you. Ask yourself whether your current fears come from a rational, well-meaning place (I'm not infatuated with the school because these things I thought I loved are not a Brown thing, etc etc) or just you seeking to edge your way around having to be committed to something (I met one cute boy at Yale and now my life is ruined if I'm an hour and a half by train/car away).</p>
<p>If it turns out ED wasn't the right choice, get on it now, and pray it doesn't have an ill effect. I have no idea how these things work, but I imagine most of the decisions have been made already on ED if they are to be reported Dec 15th and I know I'd be ****ed if someone I just accepted ED turned me down before I had the chance to honor her with that.</p>
<p>But with most things going on in the admissions office, all I can do is put myself in their place and speculate. What's most important is you make the right decision for you. I'd read over the ED policy again, carefully, to see if they mention anything about situations like this.</p>
<p>My son turned down Yale for Brown. Both are good schools. They are fairly close (maybe 1 & 1/2 hrs), so it's possible to visit Yale on weekends. My son just went to Yale for the Yale/Harvard football game. Unfortunately for my son, sports are not a big deal at Brown but some events draw crowds. Many of his friends took the bus to Harvard for the Brown/Harvard football game back in Sept. The bus/train station is a quick walk from the dorms so it's fairly easy to get from city to city. He has taken the express bus to NYC several times also. </p>
<p>Do NOT base your college decision on a boy. But it's certainly doable to have a relationship with someone at Yale. You could visit when you want, yet remain independent. </p>
<p>Do NOT base your college decision on the complaints of ONE student, especially a 1st semester freshman who hasn't had a chance to really discover all that the school offers. Go visit or do some more research about the school or ask questions here (several older students post here) and make your own decision, based on what YOU want in a school. Most kids I've seen at Brown are passionate about learning but also passionate about pursuing all kinds of interests. Opportunities are abundant.</p>
<p>If you really aren't sure you want to attend Brown, you should request that Brown change your ED to RD but you must do so immediately, before the decision is made. Some kids find they can't do ED for FinAid reasons, so I don't think Brown would penalize you if you ask to switch. Just state in your letter you are still interested in attending.</p>
<p>If you're this unsure about your ED choice, you should undo it now. It may torpedo you in RD, or it may not, but the worst thing is to be committed to a school you don't want to be at. But as several others have said, do it NOW before they communicate their decision to you. After that, I read it's a whole lot harder.</p>
<p>That being said, this is the worst reason possible to change your mind about a school, and so make sure no adcom hears about it, or they wont let you in anywhere :)</p>
<p>a boy? are you serious? ahahahhahahha.</p>
<p>I saved your letter, dave. I may need it. Thanks for all the advice but I still feel doomed. I’m serious as can be. I must really come across as a crackpot, but it’s just that…it’s just that this guy is the most totally amazing assistant librarian on the planet and even though he’s graduating so soon maybe I wouldn’t mind the other 3 years at Yale…</p>
<p>It's a crappy reason I know. But if you met him you'd understand that traveling every weekend just to see him wouldn't be enough, and i'd probably have too much school work. I don't want to mess up my chances at Brown, though. I'll sleep on it I guess.</p>
<p>Please notify Brown as soon as possible if you are definite you have changed your mind. Maybe do a search on CC and see if a similar ED withdrawal situation has happened and their experience may help you.</p>
<p>Your situation is not uncommon and I had a similiar experience at 17 (I am now happily middle-aged and a parent). Fortunately, I was able to see it for what it was and chose a college based on the right reasons. I am not minimizing how you feel, but I can't even remember the guy's name now - but I do recall my amazing 4-year college experience. Best of luck.</p>
<p>I agree with all of the above posters. 1) Your feelings for this guy are valid, but Yale is very close to Brown. 2) Negru is entitled to his opinions, but you are a different person. Almost all of the people I have spoken to or heard from adore Brown, including my daughter who is a first year. She was deferred EA from Yale, and eventually denied. Accepted RD at Brown, which was not her first choice a year ago. Now she could not be happier. Please do not base your decisions on your reactions to these two people. The wonderful guy will be in your life if you two work at it, and decide it is meant to be. The second guy, you will probably never ever run across again. His feelings are valid, but he is most definitely in the very small minority, from what I can see. Base your decision on more solid things: classes that interest you, curriculum (open), your feelings when you walk around the campus, the other students, the posts on CC, the finances, etc.etc.etc.</p>
<p>OMG OMG OMG OMG. Heather!! What are you thinking! I wouldn't even do that, and I'm totally obsessed with boys, especially the smart ones who work in libraries. BUT, you must understand that luring girls into the book stacks at Yale has been a tradition, and a very old one at that. Please tell me you didnt step near them. He was probably beautiful, I know. He probably rattled off some eloquent philosophical passage with a flourish and a wave of the hand, but my god dont withdraw your application from Brown for him! Look at it this way:</p>
<p>1) Hes too old and your still in high school and probably not even legal
(Seriously, what was HE thinking?!)
2) Did you ever think about the fact that Brown probably has a number of equally hot assistant librarians? Well go looking for them together next year. And if all else fails well hunt down Von_Herrs and Dave. Im sure dietcoke would be up for it.
3) The Negru thing was blown way out of proportion on both sides. Browns a wonderful place. DONT withdraw your application. </p>
<p>And besides, Browns not that far from Yale, like everyone said. If this AMAZINGLY sexy librarian is that serious about you then hell have NO problem finding a way to see you. Dont worry about having to travel.</p>
<p>OMG DON"T WITHDRAW :O!</p>
<p>Isabella</p>
<p> thats why he kept talking about "the stacks"...I couldnt figure it out. I read about online a second ago. im dumb. I guess Im going to keep my ED application. Thanks Isabella and all u other ppl. happy that crisis is over. I thought my life was over. He did read me something from a book, tho! How did you guess that? we're prob. twins or something</p>
<p>There is no chance that I'll be working in the library wherever I wind up at school.</p>
<p>ahahahahaa, I am absolutely delighted that my random excesses of imagination actually have some minute connection to reality. All I can say is: WOW. (Heather, in passing I heard about the book stacks and that's why I mentioned it...as a meaningless joke, though. I really didn't think it had anything to do with your little tryst.) Boy, was I wrong. Don't trust Yalies, especially the LIBRARIANS. </p>
<p>Oh, Dave. You big silly.</p>
<p>-Isabella</p>
<p>Afterthought-</p>
<p>He really did read you something? The flaming charlatan! How could you fall for that? I swear, the men at Yale must be desperate. Ive heard the women there are extraordinarily unattractive, but I had no clue as to the scope of the problem - I didnt know it was so bad that Yale males were picking on prospective female students! What a joke! Inform the administration! </p>
<p>What a creep! While I find this all very funny, it still gets under my skin.</p>
<p>Isabella i don't know how i fell for it....i jus....did :( I feel so stupid and then I told people about it here .how dumb is that. I feel like crying. You dont know how bad I feel. I wish you had been there to knock me into my senses. He was just I was just .i dunno. I thought I could just pull out of my ED application at Brown and go to yale cause Im a legacy there Im so stupid. I didnt mean it. Im too embarrassed to even tell my friends about it which means Im really very embarrassed b/c I tell my friends everything. Going to shoot myself (not really) but i feel like it.</p>
<p>:sighs and shakes her head:</p>
<p>Please don't metaphorically shoot yourself, Heather. The people on this board are very nice and I bet they understand perfectly well what it's like to be 17. Right guys? I surely do. With the number of blunders Ive managed to makeespecially with boys carrying books and writing utensilsI should sequester myself away in some hidden fortress somewhere deep in the mountains. Dave would like that, Im sure. </p>
<p>You can still apply RD to Yale, and you may have an excellent chance given your status as a legacy. Dont feel blue. Id stay and talk but I have to study now (SAT Physics Test tomorrow and struggling with an especially ugly pulley problem). Go out and have some fun! Its Friday night. I wish I could. </p>
<p>Isabella. </p>
<p>P.S. You also shouldnt feel bad just because a super hot 20-21 year old librarian at Yale happened to hit on you. Aha, thats certainly not your fault. Cheer up! By the way, did you manage to get his myspace/facebook page so we can all see who is? : )</p>
<p>isabella's a fountain of wisdom on this one, heather. definitely don't shoot yourself. (and if you guys do go scouting for dashing librarians of the Brown variety, count me in!) be happy, heather--we've all been insanely nuts over members of the opposite sex. (myself only just recently) smile, laugh, watch a funny movie! you're gonna be better than fine. if there is anything i've learned the last four years it's this: nothing is ever as bad as it seems. God bless you!</p>