Choosing a roommates, so early, and so similar?

<p>Hi! I recently met this girl during an overnight visit at a college and we've talked on and off the past few weeks. She brought up rooming together, and we are seriously considering becoming roommates, but I'm just nervous about choosing my roommate!</p>

<p>First off, I've always assumed I would do random roommate. I felt that that would be more "fate" and a good opportunity to meet someone new, and just take a chance since I will be able to choose my roommate th next three years. I've also been told by A LOT of people that, in their experiences, random roommates (matched by the school with surveys and questionnaires, based on compatibility) tend to work out better and pre chosen room mates usually don't work out. But then again, I've heard nightmare random roommate stories!</p>

<p>Second, it feels so early to choose a roommate! I mean, most people haven't even decided when to go. Is it too early to committ to a roommate? Housing papers are filled out in mid May, so I have time, but you can choose a roommate up until mid july, so I still feel like it's early...</p>

<p>Finally, we are SO similar! Which is good, because we like the same things, have similar values and beliefs, are in the same major, interested in the same clubs and activities, etc. We both (as seniors in high school) do not go out and party or drink, go to sleep relatively early, and are kind of nerds lol. So in theory it sounds like we would be perfect together! However, I'm kind of interested in broadening my interests in college. Maybe I do want to go out to parties on weekends, and stay up later with my friends. I'm afraid that while she matches me perfectly now, she may "hold back" the me that I want to become in college. I'm not talking a drastic change, but I do want a college experience and I want to hangout with friends a lot and not be studying on a Friday night (unless completely necessary haha)</p>

<p>So any advice? Thanks!</p>

<p>You will meet many more people in college, and your roommate won’t hold you back on anything. Most of us who were randomly assigned a freshman year roommate got along just fine but we didn’t become pals and we didn’t do a lot of social things together. We met people who were more like us in classes and clubs – and then we roomed with them in the years that followed.</p>

<p>I’m not in college yet- but here’s my thinking: that girl sounds great and I would take her. You will have plenty of chances to broaden your interests, and having a complimenting roommate will just make that easier. Rather than dreading to go home to a terrible random roommate after meeting new people, you get to go home to someone who will not annoy you! And maybe your roommate is interested in broadening your interests too? You could try together and it might not be so scary/intimidating.</p>

<p>Take her as a roommate - a random assignement could be much worse!</p>

<p>Thanks for this post…my Ds possible dilemma too!</p>