<p>So my best friend and I got into the same college. We're planning on rooming together with two other random people, but people have been telling me that I should NOT room with her, because if I do we'll be joined at the hip and basically ignore our other rooomates && also that if we room together that we'll get sick of each other and it may affect our relationship. I dont know what to do... HELP!</p>
<p>i don’t know much about this from experience since i’m still in high school, but i agree that it sounds like a bad idea, since you should really try branching out. my suggestion would be to get random roommates for year one so you can meet new people, then if you still want to room together, do that sophomore year after you’ve made new friends.</p>
<p>What you’ve been told is both true and not true. It all depends on your friend’s, your other roommates’ and your personality type.<br>
Roommates don’t have to be best friends, but if you and your friend are close and don’t typically do things with new people, your other roommates might feel left out, especially if those two don’t know each other. If you do want to do this, make sure you’re both open-minded and willing to branch out socially. Who knows - maybe you guys will all be best friends. All I suggest for you to do is at least try.
Since you two would know each other, be the ones to take initiative: invite them to your social events, meals together, etc. Make sure that they don’t feel alone and left out unless they ask for it.</p>
<p>So my best friend and I got into the same college. We’re planning on rooming together with two other random people, but people have been telling me that I should NOT room with her, because if I do we’ll be joined at the hip and basically ignore our other rooomates && also that if we room together that we’ll get sick of each other and it may affect our relationship. I dont know what to do… HELP!</p>
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<p>I would try to room in the same hall, but not the same dorm.</p>
<p>Or better yet…try living together for a month? In the same house. See what happens.</p>
<p>From my own personal experience, I’d say hell-freakin’ no to rooming with your friend. It’s a better idea to just branch out, and if you don’t like your roommate you have someone who understands you to complain to.</p>
<p>I don’t know, I think it’d be better to play it safe and room with someone you know as opposed to going random. You probably won’t be spending all that much time in your room anyway, so it’s not like you’ll be attached at the hip to your roommate. </p>
<p>My perspective is different though because I went random and it was a really bad decision for reasons I will not disclose here. I also know a lot of people at my school who regret going random. I think the safest and most successful bet would be to find the group for your incoming freshman class on Facebook and try to get to know people and find a roommate there. The people who have done this seem to be the happiest with their roommates, because you don’t room with someone you know well but at the same time you can figure out whether or not they’d be a good fit for you before committing.</p>
<p>I’m rooming with my best friend next year. We’re both tired of our current roommates, and neither of us are willing to risk a random next year. We have so much in common that’s it’s really more foolish not to. </p>
<p>I get where the whole “getting sick of living together” thing comes from, but I’m not willing to risk a random. I can’t imagine getting one of the people like the current people on my floor. </p>
<p>I mean, me and my current roommate met on FB and decided to room together, and she’s not the worst, but we still have some tensions. I didn’t know her much ahead of time, but we had some things in common, so we decided it would be better to choose each other instead of risking it. </p>
<p>And both of us are very glad we did even if we don’t get along all the time. Out of the 28 other people in my hall (excluding my best friend), if I had to repeat it, I’d choose my current roommate again. </p>
<p>Maybe my friend and I will get annoyed at each other sometimes (I’m sure we will, in fact), but I’m also sure I would much, much rather have her as my roommate compared to some party girl who gets drunk every weekend and keeps me up all night, which unfortunately, seems to fit the description of a lot of people I’ve met so far.</p>
<p>And before anyone says “you’re generalizing,” I know I am. But I’m surrounded by girls like that. Almost my entire hall is party girls like that. And I’m sorry, but I’m not risking getting one as my roommate. I’ve lost enough sleep this year just having them roaming the halls drunk at 3:00 AM laughing and yelling. I don’t need one in my room.</p>
<p>Honestly, like some people have already said, whether or not you and friend will make good roommates heavily depends on many factors. Lifestyle, habits, etc. It’s not clear cut. It’s not “friends make terrible roommates.” Some friends make terrible roommates. Not all do. </p>
<p>Personally, I would suggest you discuss it more with your friend. Make sure you know each other’ sleep habits, music w/out headphone preferences, having boyfriends/friends/etc. over preferences, etc. She might not be a compatible roommate at all. It’s something you should check out before you just decide to room together.</p>
<p>I’m fortunate that both of my roommates and I get along pretty well and have become good friends, but I know that that’s not always the case, and a lot of people’s relationships with their (random) roommates are more of a acceptance, tolerance, not really the best of friends kind of deal. I can also see the cons of living with your best friend, because problems will probably arise, which may or may not affect your friendship. The pros of not living with your best friend as I see it: it motivates you to meet other people and explore new friendships; you’ll have someone to confide in and also to introduce you to people that they’re living with that you wouldn’t normally meet. It really depends on what you two end up deciding.</p>
<p>My daughter opted not to room with a good friend from home at school and was assigned a random roommate. She and the roommate got along fine, neither wanted a TV in the room, neither drinks or does drugs; it was a good year for both of them. Ironically, her roommate and her friend from home (whom she introduced) became such good friends that they’re rooming together this year. My DD, who was not used to sharing a room (she has multiple brothers, but no sisters), became an RA and now has her own room again.</p>
<p>I have heard both horror stories and good stories of rooming with friends from home.</p>
<p>Thank u all for ur advice! So now, how would I go about telling her I dont think we should room together without offending her?</p>
<p>I’m rooming with my good friend this year. Its us 2 in a suite with 2 others (connected by a bathroom) but wed don’t see the other two much, its mostly just us. </p>
<p>Honestly, its a win-loose. We both have the same relative sleep schedules, don’t party or get drunk, like the same TV shows for the most part. BUT he’s also less social than I had expected. Instead of going out and meeting tons of people at the start of school, he would rather stay in the dorm and watch TV or something. Since he was my friend AND roommate, I did what he did, and it really hindered me getting to know people. </p>
<p>I’m transferring after this semester, and at the next school im not making the same mistake. I’ll most likely be getting a single dorm room, something i advise against freshmen year, but i can justify it because i’m going to be involved with a very active marching band, and taking some academically intensive courses. The school is also a party school, so the last thing i need is a drunken roommate to come in at 4 am.</p>
<p>That being said, i am glad i roomed with him. BUT there are some things that i would have done differently. If you room with your friend, make sure you guys branch out, especially during the first few days of school. This will be hard, since you will want to stick together. But at least go to social events together.</p>
<p>Hope i helped</p>
<p>actually, that did help. A LOT. Thanks!</p>