<p>I cannot speak about Stanford, but I can about Harvard and Yale.</p>
<p>Based upon what i’ve experienced through my children’s eyes, Yale is the “happier” school. A little background: My daughter is a junior at Harvard and my son is a sophomore at Yale. Much of the below is a compilation of what they have shared with me and what I have observed as a parent.</p>
<p>One clear difference between the schools is the schedule: Harvard’s schedule is much more intense! During the fall semester, Harvard students do not get a break from their studies, except for Thursday and Friday of Thanksgiving week. Yale students, on the other hand, are off for 5 days in mid-October for fall break and have the entire week of Thanksgiving off. To a lesser extent, the same thing occurs in the spring semester: Harvard students have one week off for spring break; Yale students have two weeks off. Between semesters, Harvard has a five-week winter break encompassing Christmas and New Year’s, while Yale has about a three week break during the same time period. </p>
<p>Another difference between the schools is housing. Harvard’s residential college system is a three-year program that starts in a student’s sophomore year. Harvard freshman live, eat and socialize together in Harvard Yard, but they do not belong to a residential house overseen by a Master and Dean. As a result, there is a lot of opportunity for freshman to bond with other freshman, but little opportunity for Harvard freshman to bond with sophomores, juniors and seniors, unless they meet through an extracurricular activity or a class. </p>
<p>Yale’s residential college system is a four-year program. Yale freshman eat and socialize with sophomores, juniors and seniors in their residential college, so there’s much more of a “big-sib, little-sib” atmosphere to the entire school. As a freshman, you can sit down next to an upperclass student and start up a conversation over a meal, or you can attend one of your residential college’s events (ski trip, cruise, picnic, etc) and meet upperclass students. That just doesn’t happen for Harvard freshman.</p>
<p>Yale seems to have better food options. While this is certainly subjective, both my son and daughter agree, as each has visited the other and sampled the food. One reason for this may be that Harvard’s Dining Service is run by one centralized executive chef, so the food is basically the same in every DH every day. At Yale, each residential college has their own executive chef who can deviate from the main menu, so long as they provide some of the basics. So, one Yale dining hall has a brick oven pizzeria, while another DH has a special noodle bar, another DH provides lox, cream cheese and bagels for breakfast, etc. Although residents of each Yale college have priority, any student from another college can eat in any dining hall after the first 1.5 hours of breakfast, lunch, or dinner.</p>
<p>For our family, the biggest difference between the schools has been the “social tone.” </p>
<p>The “social tone” of a college results from decisions, large and small, made by the administration on issues such as physical space and its use, housing, how freshman are welcomed and integrated into campus life, what role upperclass students play as advisors and mentors, what role graduate students play, how readily faculty members volunteer to host events or trips, etc. </p>
<p>For our family, the “social tone” can be best summed up as, “At Harvard, students are on their own. At Yale, students are all in it together.” </p>
<p>Let’s take move-in day, for example:</p>
<p>At Harvard, freshman move-in to their dorms on the first day the campus opens to students. The majority of sophomores, juniors and seniors move in several days later, so most upperclass students are not in residence when freshman arrive. Freshman, and their parents, unpack the car, lug stuff up to their room and get acclimated on their own and with the help of their roommates. At the end of move-in day, parents say their goodbyes, and freshman go off to a series of orientation meetings and freshman-only events. </p>
<p>At Yale, sophomores, juniors and seniors move-in to their dorms on the first day the campus opens. Several days later, freshman move-in to their dorms with the HELP of upperclass students. Freshman year at Yale during move-in day, our car was literally swarmed by 30 upperclass students who unpacked our son’s belongings and carried them up to his room. In the afternoon, there was a student-parent reception at the master’s house, followed by a dinner for freshman with upperclass students in their colleges, and in the evening, there was a one huge party for the entire campus. </p>
<p>That kind of welcome set the tone for my son’s time at Yale – and all of it was a well orchestrated plan by Yale’s administration to create a vibrant campus environment that fosters hard work, unity and FUN. There’s an old expression in Cambridge: “Mother Harvard doesn’t coddle her young.” That’s a positive way of saying “Harvard’s administration seems to lack the imagination or the desire to make the campus into a warmer and more inviting place.” IMHO, Harvard’s “social tone” would be much improved if the school were run by Yale’s administration, or at the very least, Harvard adopted a more student-centric approach to campus life.</p>
<p>FWIW: My daughter and son’s experience pretty much mirrors this two-part Crimson article: [The</a> Cult of Yale | The Harvard Crimson](<a href=“http://www.thecrimson.com/article/2003/11/20/the-cult-of-yale-bfor-god/]The”>The Harvard Crimson) and [The</a> Cult of Yale, Part II | The Harvard Crimson](<a href=“http://www.thecrimson.com/article/2003/11/20/the-cult-of-yale-part-ii/]The”>The Harvard Crimson)</p>