<p>My daughter ended up in a single in West Hall in her freshman year, also, even though she didn’t request one. She was worried she wouldn’t meet any friends, and when we dropped her off we were a little worried, too! But, even though she is fairly quiet and a little shy, she made friends. </p>
<p>You make friends, I think, less from your housing situation where everyone is just thrown together than from the classes and activities you get involved in. My daughter joined the women’s rugby club team and loves it! She’s about 5’0" and 90 lbs, so go figure. That’s where she made most of her friends. </p>
<p>A lot of the freshman on her dorm floor were nice enough, but some were irritating and not pleasant to be around, so she realized after awhile that she had to break out of that cocoon. And that’s what this is really about. You go to college not to have “friends” handed to you as roommates, but to meet all sorts of different types of people, some of them genuinely tiresome and difficult to deal with I’m afraid. It’s easy to say this as an adult, but it’s all part of growing up and learning to live with people. </p>
<p>You have to go through some difficulties to become a fully human person, and perhaps coping with some roommate issues and a little loneliness is one way to do that. If that’s the only problem your child has at Colgate, count them very lucky, indeed. I just would bite your lip and let them cope as best they can. Freshman year will go by so fast, you’ll wonder what happened.</p>
<p>My daughter got into a four person suite in Drake Hall with a few friends somehow through the lottery for her soph year, but some of those roommates are hardly ever around (boyfriends!). I really don’t think which room or building she ended up in matters a whole lot, and part of me thinks they should reshuffle all roommates every two months just for the experience of meeting new people. Well, not really, but that’s part of the whole idea of going to college. </p>
<p>Encourage your child to get into clubs and sports and other activities and they will make friends and be fine. Do not keep calling them or intervening unless you want a dependent child. It’s hard, I know. </p>
<p>My parents dropped me off at Colgate in the era before cell phones and I phoned home about once a month when I remembered, too. I had roommate issues, but solved them myself. I survived with no scars. They will, too.</p>