<p>okayyy....so last week a very selective college is recruiting me for a sport....and then their coach, who is in his mid 20s, added me as a friend on facebook....i don't have any horrible pictures on fb, but I did go out with my friends this summer..like i am pretty outgoing...but there were a couple of pictures of other people holding a beer.....is this a big deal?</p>
<p>I would suggest that you ask that those pictures be taken down. </p>
<p>Better safe than be associated or liked with/to things a college might find unsavory.</p>
<p>To be honest, I think it's fine. Lots of people drink at very selective colleges. What you don't want are pictures of you naked, having sex, any really inappropriate things. But you won't get punished for holding a beer.</p>
<p>It's not a matter of drinking. It's a matter of being UNDERAGE and drinking. Any illicit activity should not be advertised on the Internet.</p>
<p>Not to mention, as an athlete, there should be a code of conduct you sign against doing that kind of stuff</p>
<p>Just untag the pictures. There is a reason he wants to see your Facebook and it pays to be cautious.</p>
<p>thank you for all of your advice
most of the pics are just a lot of my friends and I smiling and posing....there's just a guy holding a beer or something like that in the bkgd...i have no pics of myself drinking or smoking or doing anything bad...
although...there are a couple of pictures where we are in a bar....I already deleted those...</p>
<p>Depends on your age: are you a junior and above or are you younger, which would change the allowable rules of contact per the NCAA. Coaches who are recruiting you just want to be in your face all of the time so you will want to go to their school. He is not checking up on you. He is looking for athletes to perform well on his team so he can keep his job. He wants to befriend you so you think you will have a warm and cozy relationship for the next four years. Just keep your nose clean - if you do become a college athlete, you will have to become savvy about protecting your public image so you may as well begin now. (And BTW, this guy is a COLLEGE coach. He deals with students every day. He KNOWS they get fake ID's, drink, and go to bars. He is the one his athletes call when they get busted for doing the same.) Good luck.</p>
<p>I was under the impression that college coaches couldn't be friends with you on FB. I went to a camp and friended some of them, only to find myself unfriended at the end of the summer because it went against NCAA rules or something? You might want to check on that.</p>
<p>I am a senior this year so he is allowed to contact me as far as I know. We have talked on the phone and over email several times. I am going to visit the school and talk with him soon. Bessie, thank you very much, that was really helpful and calmed my fears. :) what you said in your post:
"if you do become a college athlete, you will have to become savvy about protecting your public image so you may as well begin now", can you elaborate a little on that?</p>
<p>It is against NCAA rules to friend a recruit on facebook.</p>
<p>Is this a DI, DII or DIII school? I think rules are different for DIII coaches in terms of contacting students, but I could be wrong....</p>
<p>I agree it's best to take all photos that include alcoholic beverages, whether they're being held or imbibed, off your FB.</p>
<p>It's a DI school...thanks for the advice all! got them off of facebook now</p>