<p>Glad it is working out. If the person in charge of this keeps dodging you I do think I would send an email summarizing the situation, something like D is at the low end of the weight spectrum, but that is normal for her, she has no concerning conditions, she can be set free from monitoring. I’d say something like how grateful I was that the college was concerned about its women’s health, and how I was also appreciative that it was sensitive to the outliers. I wouldn’t go up the ladder, just memorialize what has been going on between you and the program director. Act like it is over.</p>
<p>That is great that you were able to help out your daughter. It will help her learn to self-advocate in the future.</p>
<p>I would not contact anyone outside of health services about this. If you are worried the policy will hurt other kids, you could ask the health service if they could mandate including the student’s parents in decisions such as daily medical testing.</p>
<p>The program could be bogus for her, but not for others.</p>
<p>Maybe asking the nutritionist to review the program and give guidance? Maybe requiring a nutritionist to be included from day one if a student is brought in for BMI issues? </p>
<p>I hope this will only be a memory for her, and she can move on.</p>
<p>It also reminds me of a case of a friend of mine traveling across country by plane with his 15 year old niece, and no one else in the party. Upon landing, he was immediately treated as some kind of pervert/child trafficker. They insisted on detaining him and calling her parents and so on, took more than two hours to get on their way. Should they not have done that? If it catches that one guy who is trafficking a child, then is it worth it? </p>
<p>@awcntdb, your words made me a little teary. Thanks for those observations. This challenge has definitely forged a new bond and a deeper relationship with this D.
I also realize that at this time next year I’ll have an empty nest for the first time in almost 30 years, and it’s a much bigger deal than I had anticipated. (But not yet…still one more to get through this admissions season!) </p>
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<p>Please don’t! It seems to me that your situation arises from precisely such a well-meaning mandate. There is inevitably going to be a situation where bringing the parents in will result in harm to the student. </p>