<p>WashDad: if you think it's about "love of intellectual discourse" and A&F t-shirts, you need to get over yourself.</p>
<p>Try:</p>
<p>-- publication credit in paper presented at academic conference, based on work begun as first-semester student</p>
<p>-- summer job funded by National Science Foundation based on first item, extending previous research.</p>
<p>-- all classes, including discussion sections, taught by full professors who are accessible, available, and eager to work with undergrads and know them all by name. (As an added bonus, has the department chairs as advisors for both her majors.)</p>
<p>-- outstanding advising, and I do mean outstanding: majors, overall academic, internships, career...and even financial is available. I'm aware of what typical advising is like and the comparisons are sick.</p>
<p>-- 5-1/2 month (not 10 weeks, not one semester) internship in a highly prized D.C. office, with small group meetings facilitated by the college with folks ranging from the White House chief of staff to one of the Supreme Court justices. </p>
<p>-- a second internship, paid, by the college if the internship itself does not pay, the following summer, ditto in a different highly prized office</p>
<p>-- strong placement and financial support for participation in <em>the</em> leading international program abroad for one of her majors</p>
<p>-- attending a school that has one of <em>the</em> highest per capita awards of graduate fellowships such as Fulbrights...and there's a reason that they do so well.</p>
<p>-- an alumni network that bends over backwards to be helpful, ranging from "I can show you the best place in town to get a new suit at a good price" to "I know someone in that office...let me give them a call for you." I kinda thought this was hype until I saw it in action.</p>
<p>-- an environment that routinely produces phenomenal growth in leadership and personal qualities.</p>
<p>I don't need your sympathy about what we're willing to extend ourselves to pay, we accept the burden willingly. But I will not accept any suggestion that we have made the choices we have to either buy or demonstrate love. </p>
<p>Oh...and the only A&F t-shirt my D owns was purchased with an airline voucher when the airline lost our luggage and she needed a few pieces of clothing for an overnight visit and A&F was the closest store we could get to before closing time by the time we got to our hotel, so you can stick that slur someplace too. Her college isn't exactly the preppy stereotype.</p>
<p>We're certainly not paying full sticker price. But D will be graduating with loans. It's our choice. No one else has to do it. But some of the suggestions about motivations are way out of bounds.</p>