<p>I had a really good time in college, but during the summer, I have faced a dilemma. I realized that I am much closer to my college friends now than my high school friends. I was pretty reclusive in high school, and I deeply regret that. Now that I'm home, there really hasn't been anyone to hang out. My hs core group, who I wasn't extremely close to to begin with, has dispersed to do summer school, go on vacation, etc., so I have no one. I feel really guilty because everyone else I know (my brother included) is having a grand time at home hanging out with all their old friends. Am I weird for not being close my hs friends, and high school in general? It seems like no one else is in this situation :(</p>
<p>well you got at least one group (college)
me is different:/</p>
<p>Don't feel bad AT ALL. Tons of kids go through this, including myself to an extent. </p>
<p>I really believe that people "peak" at different times in their lives. Some people peak in high school--they were popular, had a million friends, were involved in everything, etc. You'll notice that these people constantly write on each other's Facebook walls, professing how much they miss each other, and then have The Best Time Ever on breaks from college, making you feel like you do. They go home on the weekends whenever they can, and spend hours on their cell phones with their high school friends! This behavior is usually at its height freshman year, and then for most people, it declines with each year as they become more attached to their college lives and less connected with high school friends. </p>
<p>Other people adapt very well to college right away (me) because they finally feel more comfortable with themselves than ever before. I made better friends in my first year of college than I ever had in high school. A lot of people are like this. </p>
<p>The key is not to regret your situation in high school, but to remember that there are definitely people everywhere, even in your high school class, who are feeling EXACTLY the same way! I came back from college on a high, and instead of worrying that I hadn't kept in touch with my friends from high school, I called up people I hadn't hung out with as much and asked them to hang out. People change A LOT in one year away from home. Look at yourself--are you the same way you were last August? Absolutely not, as evidenced by your post. My advice to you is to call up someone you were friendly (but not best friends) with in high school, and ask them to do something. Contrary to what you think, most people are NOT having a grand time (Facebook pictures can represent one day out of four months!) and are probably sitting around at home doing nothing, and would jump at the chance to hang out with someone just for the sake of doing SOMETHING. </p>
<p>Good luck with this, and don't feel bad about it! It's normal!</p>
<p>Even if you don't have friends during the summer, why don't you make some new ones?</p>
<p>There's nothing unusual about becoming closer to college friends (even after just freshman year) than to high schools (that you've known for years).</p>
<p>For starters, provided that you didn't go to a boarding school, being in a dorm situation definitely develops bonds amongst people that a 9-3 high school setting just can't duplicate. Whereas you might've spent quality time with your high school friends every weekend, you probably saw your college friends every day, hanging out and dining out.</p>
<p>This is why its awesome that some of my high school friends are still my college friends.</p>
<p>The college atmosphere is way better than anything at home and I love my college friends, but my friends from home and I had a hell of a time this summer.</p>
<p>LOL I actually have 3 groups- middle school friends, high school friends, then college friends. My middle school friends are actually my closest, that I managed to keep in touch with them for all these years although i didn't even goto the same high school with them. I love all of my friends though</p>
<p>My middle school friends are my closest too, which is really strange considering we ALL moved somewhere different after middle school. Granted I don't have any college friends yet, but we'll see.</p>
<p>@ abcdefgh88</p>
<p>Run down the dorm hall naked, you'll make lots of friends.</p>
<p>I don't think it's unusual to be closer with your college friends than your high school friends. My college is 6 hours away from home and most of my high school friends are going to college less than an hour from home, so distance has made a difference. I don't keep in touch with my high school friends when I'm at college, but when I get home we'll hang out. I think that living with people in college, away from your parents, gives your college friendships a stronger bond than high school friendships.</p>
<p>@ CollegeFresh</p>
<p>NO THANKS</p>
<p>Hey its 2010 but I’m going through this same dilemma. I was very quiet during h.s and as a result a didn’t have that many friends. I did have friends but we were not that close. We only hung out a couple of times and so on. The biggest regret I had in h.s was not being more sociable. However that changed during college. I could say that college has been so far the greatest years of my life. The good thing was that most of the friends I made in college were from my area so we hung out a lot during vacations. So I could say that h.s didn’t matter for me now. It happens with a lot of people. Usually people who were in a shell come out of it during h.s. So no don’t feel bad. To tell you the truth h.s friendships die out eventually. But the friends you make in college last life times</p>
<p>I knew I wouldn’t be hanging out with anyone from high school ever again. I am much closer to my college friends. However most of them are out of state (even though I go to college in-state…I just don’t seem to click with people from Wisconsin) so now I’m at home for the summer and I have no one to hang out with. Even if I was in Florida, where I went to high school, I wouldn’t want to hang out with the people I went to high school with, or who were my friends in high school. I had a lot of problems with them. College was/is infinitely better than high school for me.</p>
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<p>o.O
My time machine worked!</p>
<p>*2011 wow im still a year behind</p>
<p>I actually have friends from both (well one friend from college lol), but the majority of my friends are from high school. I don’t place weight on friendship as a friend is a friend, but I will say that I do admire my high school friends a lot just because of the fact that we are still close even though we’re not in high school together anymore. That means a lot to me because it’s easy for someone to be your “friend” out of convenience and proximity (i.e. college) but it’s no so easy when you all split up and it takes actual effort to keep the friendship alive. I’m blessed to have the amazing HS friends that I have; I know we’re going to be friends for life.</p>
<p>As for college friends, I honestly have this one friend who is really proving to be a true friend. I do talk to people and social life has gotten better tremendously over the year, but once again, I just don’t call anyone a friend. Us hanging out five times and sharing laughs doesn’t constitute a friendship; that’s something that has to be proven over time. Out of all the people I interacted with in college, this one friend is the only one I keep in contact with. I mean, it’s still early as I’m a freshman, so I don’t know what the future holds. I didn’t meet my best friends in HS until my junior year, so I have no idea what the future brings.</p>
<p>All I have are friends that look at the glass half full and “friends” that look at the glass half empty…</p>
<p>TBH I feel for the TS, I feel so reclusive at home because a majority of friends I made were from college. That said, I cannot wait to go back, although I’m certainly making the best of the situation.</p>