college SUCKS SOS

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hi guys, so im a freshman nursing major at a small state college. I decided to come here very very last minute as i had my heart set on a city college that i couldnt afford. I was also getting recruited for soccer here so that was another factor. But as i spent my first 4 weeks here, ive came to HATE it. Im an “out-of-stater” in this school which makes up about 7% of the school. Even though everyone is very nice and welcoming, i often feel like a misfit because everyone seems to know eachother already. Also, i feel like a misfit because i dont feel a connection with the people here and nobody is my “type” of person. my parents told me that ill get close with my soccer team once season starts and ill make my own close niche, but i fell out of love with the sport and i dont even want to continue anymore. My coach is not very open and he doesnt seem to care about academics. The season hasnt even started and he already puts so much pressure on us. Im not sure how im gonna be able to handle a sport and my nursing major. i am at a D3 school so quitting isnt a big deal, but then im back to sqaure one of not having a group. I even thought about joining a sorority but a lot of the soccer girls are in the sororities and might not like me anymore after i quit the team. All my other friends seem like theyre having an awesome time in college and all i do is study and cry. I cant help but to dwell on the fact that maybe if i chose my dream school regardless of the money that id be happier.

I thought about transferring but i found it quite dificult to transfer into nursing programs…

  1. they have limited space
  2. rigid structures of classes
  3. dont offer a lot of scholarship
    Ive called up so many schools to see if they accept nursing majors and so many said no or after i get all my prerequists in which would probably be around my junior year.

Im not sure what to do!! Stick it out, or transfer my major… (I really enjoy nursing however)
Maybe i could major in biology and get my nursing degree later?

Anyway please give me some feedback

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Community college?

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Have you made friends from amongst the other nursing majors? Joined any clubs for things other than soccer?

If you really love nursing and are in a direct entry program, I would urge you to try to stick it out. The problem with applying to nursing programs for the junior year is that you might not get in. I know many people who didn’t get in and had to reassess their career goals.

I had to attend a commuter college 15 minutes from home AND work almost full time. I honestly hated every minute of college, but I decided to make the best of it and use it as a staging ground for the rest of my life. College is 4 years and you could live more than 90. Yes, it would be nice to have a great experience for those 4 years, but it’s better to have a great experience for the rest of your life, working in a career that you enjoy. I assume that you are at this school because you will come out with little to no debt and, believe me, there is a value to that. When you are in your 20’s, having money to buy a concert ticket or take a spontaneous weekend trip because you didn’t go into massive debt for college will make you feel so much better. In your 30’s, not having debt will let you buy a house or pay for music lessons for your kids.

I think that too many people get hung up on having an amazing experience in college. I am sure that as time goes on, you will meet people whose company you enjoy. I eventually found several people with whom I would eat lunch in the cafeteria on the days I was there. While I didn’t choose to maintain friendships with any of them after I graduated, their company helped pass the time at school.

Good luck and please try to think of the big picture of your life after college.

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I’d say stick it out. Keep working on meeting people. You haven’t met everyone yet, there likely are some people you click with that you haven’t met. It has only been a month, hang in there and keep busy.