@Tenzimom – it’s true that many of the CTCL are expensive privates which may not offer enough financial aid to make them viable options. But don’t despair. MANY relatively inexpensive publics offer both accommodations and services for students with disabilities (ADD.) I would begin the college hunt by really exploring those first. Go with your child to the various campuses, make appointments with the disabilities office, speak to those familiar with school services. I think many parents underestimate available support at public colleges and universities. And many overestimate what they may count on in private schools. You as the parent may end up having to be more involved in your ADD/directionless child’s college education even when you’re paying premium private prices. In which case you’d be kicking yourself for not saving yourself a lot of money at a public school.
As for that high paying job? Paying a hefty private school tuition is no guarantee. You want a guarantee? Encourage your daughter to become a plumber. And I’m only partly joking.