I am a sophomore student at a mid-sized public university. I previously attended an elite university where I left after one dreadful semester. I thought it would be much better for me here but I still find that I have trouble fitting in socially. I do very well academically which I like about this school but I still don’t feel like I belong here. I have been really trying to get involved but I still don’t really have any friends. I know that academics are the most important thing but if I focus on that too much I’ll drive myself crazy. I have anxiety and depression and am very socially awkward. I have never really gotten into any activities that I truly desired to do, like Greek life. If I do transfer again, I am looking for a school that is good for socially awkward and introverted individuals where it is easier to make friends and it is not as socially competitive (little or no Greek life hopefully). I’d probably like a smaller place where there are lots of other students in the same situation as me, socially awkward and unsure where they really fit in and with what they like to do. Thank you in advance for your advice/suggestions.
Treat the depression and anxiety first.
You won’t solve the problem by transferring. You need to deal with the issues you carry along with yourself. You don’t say what your major is but if it is STEM, then maybe you can volunteer in a research lab where you can find people who are all about the academics. Once you get to know them a bit, you can see what kinds of additional activities can help you to push your boundaries a bit.
Believe me, you can get past this, I did as an undergraduate, but it does take some effort.