<p>I am not convinced the computer system is perfected. I think the logic is quite complicated and with a lot of dependencies. Do you take individual pref first or sorority’s pref. I wonder if anyone has really vetted it out.</p>
<p>^I doubt it : )</p>
<p>Well, I knew most of that. i still don’t quite understand the last part though. For example. If my D has one house ranked as her first choice but that house has her ranked farther down or whatever and the house she has ranked as 2nd choice has her ranked really high. Will she get a bid from the 2nd choice house or will she not get a bid from either. that is the part that is confusing to me.</p>
<p>What is the pledging process like for a girl? I read that one boy’s experience from the paper he wrote that someone posted. Very scary. I realize hazing has decreased (hopefully) and is way worse for some fraternities that for others, even now…but, I have no clue what pledging is like for a sorority. I am asking as a parent (of a high schooler) but still interested for future reference. Thanks!</p>
<p>I heard that paper was really exaggerated and I believe that. I doubt all the things that happened to him in his paper were true. He just effectively made pledging sound terrible to the university. </p>
<p>Just informing anyone who would read that and believe it all.</p>
<p>This is just another question. If you get sick and can’t complete rush, is there a possibility that you can join later in the semester?</p>
<p>For sororities, the pledging process is pretty structured. Cornell takes its anti-hazing policy seriously and reports of hazing are investigated thoroughly. Check out hazing.cornell.edu to learn about violations that have occurred and how they were handled. </p>
<p>As far as pledging activities, your D will have a “new member period” where she’ll attend meetings once a week or so and learn all about the history and traditions of the sorority. There are also mixers and other social events that occur.</p>
<p>I am a parent of a junior who is in a sorority at Cornell. We speak often of her college experience and her day to day life. I have a pretty good idea of how the whole bid thing works, that’s why I question if the computer system really works the way they think it should work. She is in a lock down right now for the rush week. It is very intense, both on the sorority sisters and pledges. Both sides are picking each other, and they are all looking for the best fit.</p>
<p>My daughter did not experience any hazing when she first joined her sorority. As a matter of fact, the “babies” are treated very well the first semester - presents from their older sisters, mixers, sometimes they even get fraternity pledges to do things for them (very clean). There is alcohol involved. If you think your daughter wouldn’t be exposed to it then you are not getting the full picture. But there is drinking outside of Greek life also. My daughter never felt pressured to drink or do anything she didn’t want to do.</p>
<p>Pretty shocking news from Pike. From talking to a couple people in the know it sounds like they might be done.</p>
<p>Very well may be. I’d think that violotion alone would be worth a semester or two off, but if they’ve had other recent issues they may be saying goodbye to Cornell for a few years lol.</p>
<p>Can you end your post with that? What shocking news from Pike?</p>
<p>well lets say it involved a lot of cop cars</p>
<p>Sorry Kimba I thought the email sent out was campus-wide but it was only the guys rushing. But basically Pike had an event that resulted in the hospitalization of a couple rushes due to alcohol related stuff.</p>
<p>Okay…thanks. Too bad for the guys involved and the house.</p>
<p>Okay so yeah…I know I posted a bit on here in prep for rush week, but my worries from beforehand came to a reality when I realized how overloaded I was with just getting to Cornell this semester, having the dorm experience for the first time, parties every night for the first time, a ton of orientation events (both scholastic and just mingling fun with other transfers), and eventually…rush week ended and I really didn’t make an impact anywhere. Haha.</p>
<p>Well I had 3 frats in mind before coming here/after the first night of galavanting. One of those I narrowed out because the scene just wasn’t for me, but then with all the craziness of preparing everything else I had to do, I ended up not going or forgetting the times of the smokers of the two I had wanted to rush. Then when my friends and I tried to go to their open parties on the weekend, each time we arrived they were ‘filled to capacity’ so I couldn’t even check in with the brothers I had had contact with beforehand.</p>
<p>I’m still juggling if I do want to actually rush or not (obviously, a little too late for this semester, plus I’m bogged too far down with work/tons of other activities to be dashing off to pledge events). Do any of the frats do fall rush other than those who are unpopular/short on members? I kind of feel like emailing one of the rush chairs and showing interest for fall, but I don’t know if it’s a good idea. I also feel like being a junior next fall would hurt me mega amounts. I wouldn’t be crestfallen if I couldn’t rush, but I just feel an extreme lack of broness right now (transfer group is basically 80% chicas…certainly not an issue, but It’s making me miss my guys back home more and more.)</p>
<p>Hey, thats pretty tough since you are looking at 2 specific houses and one that I think you are talking about had a large pledge class as usual.</p>
<p>But if you just want to be in a house for the brotherhood of it, there is still informal rush going and you could always just go to those events.</p>
<p>True, except I want to be dedicated to it-but I have nooo time right now. Or at least I don’t feel like I do with all the activities I someone managed to get into, haha. </p>
<p>I’m just curious if anyone knows which frats often do a little fall rush. Or would emailing the rush chairs of the two I was thinking with that question be a good idea? (or would they just be like, hahaha, no.)</p>
<p>You could always ask. Its more likely that the frats doing informal rush now may also do fall rush. I heard its mostly for friends of fraternities so if you have a lot of friends in a certain house, they would invite you to do fall rush.</p>
<p>I guess I just did that today, where a guy in my class is in acacia and invited me and another transfer friend to dinner with their pledges tomorrow night. Not sure how I feel about that, haha, he seems kinda eh. I love my transfer bud though, he was in acacia in his old school and liked it but he was on the fence about reactivating.</p>
<p>Either way, I’ll go…I’ll still probably message the rush chair of the two I’m thinking of and see what the deal is.</p>
<p>Again, still very involved right now including doing APO the community service frat thingy (not as big a commitment.) I’m pretty positive I just want to wait until fall to rush.</p>