<p>Hey guys, so my decisions are coming out soon and I will soon be receiving my acceptances and denials to my "out of state" and "dream schools". </p>
<p>I have no doubt I'll get into one of my 5 top choices, but the problem is paying. My parents make just over 200k a year, and live a very comfortable life. They say that they will be happy to pay the full 55k a year or whatever but I just feel soo guilty. It just seems like it's so much money to spend on school. They aren't bothered by it and tell me to just worry about getting in and they will pay, but idk. Am I crazy for worrying or not? I am a FL resident, have full bright futures and got accepted to UF already, so that would be my in state.</p>
<p>You are afraid of failing and wasting your parents’ money.
Your parents are willing to put up full freight because they believe in you and want you to have the opportunity to go to your dream school.
Why do you think parents work so hard and save and sacrifice?
To give their kids the best chance for a happy productive life.
So you do the same for their future grandkids.
The circle of life, bro…</p>
<p>Where does UF fall on your list? What do you like and dislike about it in relation to the other schools? Only you and your folks can really decide if your other choices are worth that kind of a price difference and if it means not having funds for grad school later. If you’re really uncomfortable about accepting that much, would you giving UF a go and then transfer if it didn’t work out?</p>
<p>Oh, my parents would pay for Grad school too (they are paying for my brothers law school) so that isn’t the problem with spending “all my education money”. I like UF, and I would be happy there for sure, but its just so dang big and so many kids go there from my school. </p>
<p>I guess I should just go with it and not feel guilty then. It’s hard when other kids around me are giving up their dreams and compromising even if their parents make more than mine.</p>
<p>Do you have siblings? If not that could explain a lot about their willingness and ability to spend that much. Have you asked them about grad or professional school if there is any possiblity you might want to do that in the future?</p>
I’m sure they could find no better use for that excess (and from how you describe it, it sounds like excess) money than providing the best education for their child.</p>
<p>Take it from the son of poorer, working class parents who swear that they’ll do whatever they have to for the best education their kids could possibly have, or anything else their kids really need. If/when you have children in the future, I’m sure you’ll see it the same way, too.</p>
<p>I’ve also seen people wealthier than you describe your parents as who will pay next to nothing for college (anyone on this website long enough sees those stories here, too), so be happy about your situation.</p>
<p>It sounds like you’re headed on the right track,</p>
<p>Accept the gift that your parents are willing to give you … and make sure that you show them the proper respect and gratitude by doing well in school. You sound like a great kid. :)</p>
<p>Alright, thanks for the replies guys. You all made me feel less “guilty” and reassured me that as long as I am going to work hard and stay grateful (which I will and am) that the money will go to good use in my college. </p>
<p>I think I speak for all CC “lost” members who you all help out in saying thanks for all you do. I know you all probably have better and more important things to do, but the fact that you spend some time helping out 17 year old kids like me who need guidance in the college process is amazing.</p>
<p>What a peach! Clearly you can’t buy your parents the item “of their dreams” because it sounds like they could buy stuff for themselves. But you can write them a note that expresses your gratitude for them, their values and their generosity. Deep Appreciation is not something you pick up from Nordstroms. They’ll be delighted – and you’ll feel better about enjoying a college that fits you.</p>