<p>gladlybeyond, I would suggest that you only answer "yes" if the agreement your parents has is in writing or is part of the divorce decree. An oral agreement simply is not legally enforceable, and especially in areas such as divorce and child custody, is meaningless. Also, there is always room for misunderstanding with oral statements or even with vague written ones -- so I also think that you should say "yes" only if the agreement is specific, such as Dad will contribute $x amoung, or x %, or Dad will pay for specific types of expenses.</p>
<p>Otherwise, from a legal standpoint, there is no agreement, even if your parents think there is. I mean, you can't enforce a vague promise to "help out" -- nor even put a finger on exactly what that means. So I think your first step is to ask your mom to fill you in on the specifics.</p>