<p>one of the colleges i applied for css profile wants me to
fill out noncustodial parent financial info, but i haven't been in
contact with my dad for about 9years and i do not think that we
are related to each other anymore</p>
<p>so i was filling out noncustodial parent waiver request form
and my answers to questions like describe relationship btwn you and your
noncustodial parent / why are you requesting this form are really
really short and i didn't mean to but it bluntly shows that i dont like him</p>
<p>if i want scholarships, should i be writing this like my college essay
making it super long, giving it hours of effort or is writing mine super short
fine? will that hurt me?</p>
<p>Each school has their own policy as to what they require in order to get a non custodial waiver (you will also need a couple of 3rd party letters). Contact each school, find out what each school needs and supply it.</p>
<p>First, why do you think you aren’t related anymore? Does he has any physical or legal custory? Do you have a step father? In that case I think only your mother and stepfather income is to be reported. </p>
<p>I’m not an expert but we had to fill this out because of an absent father. It is not taken lightly and is very serious. We had to have community and school testify in writing that her father does not participate in her life and didn’t from birth (even though he paid support, court ordered.)</p>
<p>You should really find out if you have to fill it out first. If so, then the relationship is that ‘no contact for 9 years’. If this means no money, no gifts, no phone calls, so much the better.</p>
<p>If you like him or not doesn’t matter too much I don’t think. Unless there is an abuse issue with you or your mother that has to be spelled out.</p>
<p>This is for financial aid only and isn’t considered for your application for admission usually. So it is up to you to put it in essays or not. If you have more interesting things to tell the committee about yourself, that’s what I’d pick.</p>
<p>*Do you have a step father? In that case I think only your mother and stepfather income is to be reported. </p>
<p>*</p>
<p>Even if the student has a step father, if the school wants NCP info, it has to be provided…otherwise a waiver is needed.</p>
<p>Don’t write a novel…just include important details…last communication, no financial support for X years, unknown whereabouts, etc.</p>
<p>Brownparent,</p>
<p>My h has not participated in my d’s life, since about age three. He lives away from us bec of Dom Violence and I have had two protective orders, the last of which came off in July 2012. </p>
<p>I don’t know where he is living, but I do know where he works. I would not risk my life trying to get information directly from him. He has threatened me not to go to his company. I get some bills paid, but I am down to my last $800. I am not working and I have health issues. I will get $400 here and there, but he is not in my d’s life. I don’t own a credit card either, just my bank debit card.</p>
<p>I cannot get a divorce, bec he does not show up in court. I am doing the divorce myself, and I have reclaimed more dates due to his absence. The judge cannot award me alimony or child support without his fin affadavit, and the only way to get it is to have a marshall subpoena him to show up. Since I don’t know where he lives, I can’t do that. He also doesn’t report to an office. He goes directly to his clients (he works for a big corp), and I don’t know who they are. I email him with dates to show up in court, and he doesn’t even want that information going over his work email. Would I subpoena W-2 information from his company to fill out the CSS Profile? He has not filed taxes for 2011. </p>
<p>My heart can’t take much more of this stress. If you know of any valuable websites I can go to on fin aid (I tried a few but they were of no help in my particular situation), I’d appreciate it. I am too embarrassed to talk to the colleges, bec I don’t want them to judge my d bec of DV and my h’s behavior. The sins of the father… I can’t sleep at night over this whole college process. The school and our therapist are willing to provide statements.</p>
<p>Medavinci, you can get the NCP form from your students GC and you can include the information that you have given on that form. You have the court orders and people to back up what you are saying. You should not give to much inof about your divorce or what you can do. It’s enough that he has not been in touch, that you have had to get protective orders . You are separated since you live apart and so you can fill out the FAFSA without any problem–his info is not needed. It’s for those PROFILE schools that require NCP info that you need to complete the waiver. </p>
<p>As another poster said, it’s not the admissions offices that are looking at this info, but the fin aid offices at those schools that use PROFILE and/or require NCP financial info.</p>