<p>My son was rejected from Haverford today. The coach was apologetic. Son had a positive pre-read, support from coach, 30 ACT, 4 AP & 5 College classes, founded a non-profit organization, AND a wonderful kid. He is disappointed, angry, sad, humiliated, etc.</p>
<p>Aww… I’m so sorry. That really stinks. It’s so hard to see someone you love so much, and who has worked so hard, have their hopes dashed like that. Having spent so much time focused on one school, it’s very difficult to watch it float away out of reach…</p>
<p>We had a similar experience back in the day except we never heard from the coach. Ever. Give the darling some space and let him mope for a bit. Then help him pick himself up and start over. Believe that it will work out.</p>
<p>liveandlearn,</p>
<p>Your son has exceptional credentials. He should be very proud of his accomplishments. I wish him the best.</p>
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<p>Really sorry to hear that, liveandlearn. Now that the ED results are starting to come in, and we’re seeing qualified kids who had a positive pre-read and coach support get deferred or rejected - it makes you wonder why some of these schools even bother with the charade of pre-reads and support.</p>
<p>As others have said, your son has great credentials and will find a good ending, no doubt - but I know that doesn’t ease the pain right now.</p>
<p>liveandlearn, it sounds like you have a terrific son. It’s understandable that he would be disappointed, angry & sad; but he should definitely not feel humiliated. Although it may not make you feel any better, a lot of outstanding individuals get rejected from schools where they could have made a significant contribution. Try to focus on all of the great schools that he will be able to choose from once he is ready to move forward. Best of luck.</p>
<p>well good news here. D was accepted to Hamilton ED. Glad the process is over! Sorry for those who did not get the news that they hoped for. That stinks for sure. I agree, livandlearn, tell your son he is a super talented kid and his future is very bright.</p>
<p>livandlearn, I agree that it’s terrible to give a positive pre-read and then not accept. My D also looked at Haverford, met coach, etc. But the coach knew that we were also looking at NESCACs and was honest in telling us that she could not give the same kind of pre-read as the NESCACs. Once we heard that and I then did a little research and found articles about Haverford athletes getting surprised rejections (one lacrosse player got rejected at Haverford and then accepted at Swarthmore) my D quit considering Haverford. In the end, she loved Hamilton. Coach and admissions were straight-forward and she got her acceptance today. So it pains me to hear of your son’s disappointment. I hope that he ends up somewhere he really likes.</p>
<p>Got rejected from a NESCAC school today after going through the entire process. Really disappointing, but nothing I can do about it now besides reconnect with coaches and work out something for ED2. Good luck everyone.</p>
<p>Thanks to this thread for being a sounding board. My son was accepted to a D3 he wanted to go to so he’ll attend that school and play ball. After going through this process, this is my summary.
- Always know your grades and behavior are as important as your sports ability.
- Be realistic about your size and athletic skills–there’s a lot of competition out there.
- Contact coaches and schools early in the process to get an idea about their process and expectations. Read as much as you can about the process.
- Work a range of options from “sure bets w/o sports” to “sure bets w/sports” up the ladder to your reach school if you have one.<br>
- Attend summer camps and showcase events that will garner the attention of the schools that fit your skill and interest.
- Apply to a wide range of schools. Preferably apply to a school you know you’ll get into early–a school that you’d be okay attending as that provides a back-up and creates some ease with the process.
- Once the process is complete, focus on your studies and senior year friends and activities. </p>
<p>There are many good schools out there–what’s most important is finding a number of good matches.</p>
<p>I wish your son well. Way back when I didn’t get into my first choice of college. I ended up at my second choice and never looked back as it turned out to be a wonderful situation. This is the point in life where fate starts to show it’s face more–the first of many events that combine skill, interest and a bit of fate i.e. partner, job, children, home town. . . He’s lucky to have a supportive family on his side. My best.</p>
<p>Anscher,</p>
<p>Sorry to hear that. I think your next steps make alot of sense…possibly going for ED2 presumably at another NESCAC. There may be some winter camps for possible D3 schools you want to target for RD too. You may have some options if you had alot of exposure this summer, and you kept lines of communication open with other coaches. Getting your recruiting momementum back in gear should be fairly easy if you did these things. In addition, I think it is important to recognize these NESCAC schools (adcomms and coaches) make decisions for reasons you will most likely never know. Ultimately, they choose who goes to their school. You have an opportunity to find a school that wants you and needs you. There is nothing worse than going to a school where the coach doesn’t like you for one reason or another, and you sit on the bench. Athough it is disappointing, you may be able to find a better situation. On a typical college baseball team half the players see the field for game time every week. Find that program that needs and wants you. Good luck!</p>
<p>Congrats mom-best. That’s a great list, thanks. But one thing seems to be missing … money.
That is a part of the sports-in-college equation that doesn’t get talked about enough, i think.
A teammate of my D’s got recruited and accepted this month to an Ivy school, but with no money.
Her parents have told her it’s a no-go.
Seems such a shame to have invested all that time and effort.</p>
<p>Golf,
The “no money” part of the offer/acceptance is frustrating. But, here’s my question; why would an athlete uses a ED spot on an ivy or nescac or patriot league where they KNOW there is no money if money is the issue? The Ivy’s have amazingly accurate financial read calculators so the aid offer should be no surprise. I am curious as to why a family would even apply if the answer is a no-go because of no-aid.<br>
We will be in this situation with D2 who is academically qualified to go Ivy in her sport. However, we will do the financial calc preread and discuss with a FA advisor this January (jr year) and if it’s a no-go financially, we will know then and she won’t apply.
Is there something I’m missing?</p>
<p>imafan,</p>
<p>No, I don’t think you’re missing anything at all.
I agree with you 100%
In fact, I just posted the other day in another thread (or maybe this one … sometimes it’s hard to keep track of all the athletic threads) that my D and I have already discussed - no ED unless $ is absolutely not in question.
Remember, this is another family … a girl my D knows.
This is not our situation.
I don’t know why this other girl applied ED.
I guess she was hoping for a lot of Fin Aid.</p>
<p>Wow, I sure hope this girl didn’t accept a Likely Letter. If she did, shame on her and her parents for abusing the Likely Letter/ED process, there are plenty of athletes out there who would love to be in her shoes!</p>
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<p>GolfFather,</p>
<p>Your D’s friend would have been best served doing the FA review while the pre-read was being done by Admissions. I agree this was a waste of their time and money if D applied ED to a school that did not fit their financial requirements. The more I visit this site and others the more I realize everybody’s requirements & situation is different. There is no way my oldest son would be going to his school unless we knew the bottom line cost (forgetting about academics and athletics for the moment). I have two other sons to consider. Ivys have very generous FA when you qualify, but you have to know if you qualify.</p>
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<p>True. Plus there can be a huge difference in FA awards between the different Ivies. I ran some hypothetical numbers on each of the Ivy calculators and the results were pretty interesting
[Tier</a> One Athletics Ivy League Financial Aid Comparisons Tier One Athletics](<a href=“http://www.tier1athletics.org/2012/08/19/ivy-league-financial-aid-comparisons/]Tier”>http://www.tier1athletics.org/2012/08/19/ivy-league-financial-aid-comparisons/)</p>
<p>The Ivy FA awards can vary widely school to school - on the exact same figures. For us, Yale’s pre-read was 1/3 Princeton’s. </p>
<p>If a family’s earners have only w-2’s and little assets outside of retirement accounts, the calculators work pretty well. On the other hand, if one wage earner is self-employed (hence no w-2), you can throw all those neat calculator results out the window because your FA app ascends to a completely new level of analysis. </p>
<p>Yale’s analysis was seemingly devoid of any comprehension of small business operations; Princeton drilled into the figures from a different perspective (the FA officer wanted to understand the true state of the business).</p>
<p>Sorry guys, I don’t have any details.
All I know is what I posted.</p>
<p>to livandlearn and Anscher, that is so awful, I’m sorry to hear that. I was so afraid that this would happen to my d, too. You just never know with these top-flight academic schools, and I wish there were some way to balance out the risks that these athletes take in this process. I agree with those who have said that eventually the students will find the right place for them, but this is such an unpleasant way to go through the search. An earlier ED deadline would also be helpful, because one thing I think is especially difficult is having to call coaches and write supplements before Jan. 1 when you’ve only just heard the results. If only there were fall likely letters for D3!</p>
<p>I wish you all the best…and when you get your acceptances I hope you will post because I am thinking about you!</p>