<p>Thanks for your insight, but also.. any opinion about the loud friend?</p>
<p>Well, a loud friend does keep the awkward silence away.</p>
<p>Yeah, so do you think I shouldn't worry about her POSSIBLY doing all the talking to Carson (which would be not good...)?</p>
<p>a loud friend is good... it can keep you from talking when you don't feel like it :D</p>
<p>Interesting point. I don't want to get into a talking war though, or how I can avoid that...?</p>
<p>that's a disadvantage...</p>
<p>maybe you can talk to her before the date so you can avoid a tug of war for his attention or something...??? bah.</p>
<p>but if you can't, you could always go alone with him <em>shrugs</em>. just take note of anything that may come up in a conversation. (note: guys LOVE to talk about themselves).</p>
<p>Yeah, I'll try not to be meanish about it...</p>
<p>Are you a guy?</p>
<p>Does she know about you & Carson? You can always let her know beforehand about this, since she is your best friend (right?).</p>
<p>Not technically, my best friend is another girl, but this girl and I are still close. Yes, she knows I like him.</p>
<p>bah, my post got deleted! anyway, i'm not a guy! :D</p>
<p>if she ends up taggin along with you and Carson and knowing full well about your feelings for him, i guess (if she has any respect for your feelings) she MIGHT not do all the talking....</p>
<p>Why do you want to have a thrid wheel? It creates imbalance and leads to a bumpy ride. Also, being the thrid wheel is never any fun. You guys should go with a group of friends to some group activity that invloves full-contact. I'd say wrestiling or football, but going skating really isn't a bad idea. Or, how about dinner and a movie for just the two of you. That's the tried and true method for dates and it works a substantial amount of the time.</p>
<p>Well if you are sure that there will be the four of you and no more and no less you can kind of tell your "loud friend" to just kind of help you out with Carson. If that's possible you should do that, but my real opinion is that if you like this guy you should go out with him just the two of you, it really is better. I know from experience, not much, but enough to let me give advice about it, :)</p>
<p>I don't have much experience with this so I'm going to ask:
Would it seem like a date if you ask a guy you don't really know to hang out? I'm not even aiming to be his girlfriend right now, I'm just wanting to be friends. I mean I think that I like him and all, but I don't see a rush to make him my boyfriend. And maybe I won't like him after we hang out...</p>
<p>my opinion probably wont be the most popular, but I'm a guy, and I find situations with alcohol are the best for breaking the ice or moving to the next level or anything, it helps to make everything go smoother. </p>
<p>So go get a bottle, or find a party or something, and it'll all work out.</p>
<p>OF course that'll work. But you have to question the legitamacy of getting together with a drunk girl. She might be easy, but she's also queasy and sometimes at the end it just ain't right.</p>
<p>No, I am not going to stoop way down to that level and get involved with alcohol. I'm not desperate, and I don't need alcohol to get to know a guy.</p>
<p>I never said you had to get plastered, but a couple drinks generally smoothes over any tension, but then again both me and the type of girls I usually go for are...chemically oriented people so substances go well with us.</p>
<p>Well then I guess that's your style...</p>
<p>if you really want to know him to see if you've got chemistry, i think you should leave the girl and go with him alone. hmm... or maybe that's just me...???</p>
<p>do it. Leave the girl and go with him. Tell her you will go with her some other time.</p>