<p>I would like to date in college and potentially get into a serious relationship. I've heard that students at vassar are more interested in hookups than being in committed relationships. Is that true? And does the more equal male to female ratio at wesleyan mean better chances of getting into a relationship? I appreciate any comments on the dating scene at these two schools! :)</p>
<p>umm, does your gender and preference in gender matter to this question?</p>
<p>yep it does matter, to be more specific I’m a girl interested in guys</p>
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<p>I’m not sure how anyone would even be able to make that generalization about an entire student body. Are you saying Vassar is a party school? I live in Downstate NY and I’ve never heard that, although it doesn’t mean it’s not true. </p>
<p>Why don’t you choose a college based on academics and affordability? If you happen to meet a longterm significant other there, great. I think you’re more likely to do so when you’re going about living your life anyway, not making decisions based on how likely you are to get a date out of it. You don’t need thousands of men on a campus all looking for longterm relationships, you know, all you need is one. For what it’s worth, I wouldn’t encourage either of my kids to tie themselves down to one person in college. I think they’re too young. However, not getting too serious with any one person doesn’t mean you have to “hook up” with everyone you date either. In any case, going to college should be about acquiring an education, not a spouse. </p>
<p>^Good advice! I didn’t meet my significant other until grad school, when I stopped fixating on finding a boyfriend. I started taking flying lessons, to keep busy. Lo and behold, that’s when Mr. Right showed up, in two of my classes. He later told me that part of my attraction to him was that I was adventurous enough to learn how to to fly!</p>
<p>you needed to keep yourself busy in graduate school, @MaineLonghorn? ^:)^ </p>
<p>@jkeil911, thank you! Ha, yes, the first semester of grad school, my professor’s project funding didn’t come through, so I had to wait until a new one started! I did have too much time on my hands, believe it or not. Of course, that meant it took me longer to get out of grad school!</p>
<p>yeah, but project funding gaps happen a lot in research; goes with the territory. </p>
<p>Yes, that’s true! I didn’t mind too much, since I still received my stipend! I had more disposable income than I do now.</p>
<p>OP, Vassar is disproportionately female. Though dating prospects should not be considered in the college process, if it is that important to you, Vassar shouldn’t be very high on your list.</p>
<p>Vassar also has the reputation (I can’t presume to say of it’s true or not) of having a higher than average proportion of gay male students. You may want to explore the statistics, if available, because that would be another factor that could affect your dating life.</p>
<p>OP, tbh I’m not sure if you are well suited to either school. </p>
<p>For a start, both schools would expect you to do your own homework, not just listen to rumors. Fyi, the class of '18 at Vassar & Wesleyan have identical female:male ratios, so your odds don’t go up by choosing Wesleyan (a really terrible reason to choose a college, btw). </p>
<p>They would also both expect more rigorous thinking: you have heard that there are a lot of gay guys at Vassar, so you think, oh, so fewer available guys for me- but you forgot to take the gay women out of your probability equation. </p>
<p>It should also be obvious that chat about the culture of a college- hookup or otherwise- should be taken with more than a grain of salt. At almost all colleges you will find a group that is all about hook-ups- and you will find the opposite. </p>
<p>Finally, neither Vassar nor Wesleyan really has a ‘dating scene’. Vanderbilt does, though- have you considered it?</p>
<p>Fwiw, my D (at Vasaar) and my niece (at Wesleyan) both say that there is a certain amount of hooking up at their colleges, largely in the party hearty crowd. My D has had a boyfriend for most of a year now, and my niece does not. All of which proves nothing: it is just anecdotal, and really not something that should sway your college choice one way or the other. Go where you are happy. </p>