<p>I'm very interested in Vassar, and I visited this weekend. One of my concerns, though, is the social life/dating scene...since the school is 60% girls and many of the men are gay. The school is great, but I want to be able to have some fun while I'm in college! Could I have some input from current Vassar students? What's the social scene like? Are there some straight males attending the school?</p>
<p>My S visits Vassar a lot-his GF attends. He really enjoys the social life and says he has met a lot of men and women, straight and gay, that he enjoys hanging out with.Of course there are straight men going to school there.
His GF loves attending, if that helps, and he says he would have been happy there, but of course is fine at Midd. The awful food is the worst point in his opinion.</p>
<p>The food isn’t even that bad most of the time. However, if what you’re looking for is a “dating scene” you might want to avoid Vassar. The social/sexual life here mainly consists of random hookups on weekends (which can get awkward given the small student body). There are plenty of straight guys here, but it’s still about one for every two girls, so straight girls here often have to be pretty aggressive.</p>
<p>There really is no need to worry about the dating scene. I’m currently in a very committed relationship with a boy who also attends this school, and I know plenty of other couples here on campus. I had the same feelings you had when i came here, but i put them aside and decided that if a relationship didn’t happen, it would just give me more opportunity to focus on school work, and i put finding a relationships on the back burner. I eventually found my boyfriend, and it wasn’t too difficult since everyone knows just about everyone else here. I actually met my bf from a mutual friend, and there are lots of couples who met that way. An family friend actually met her husband here. They lived in the same dorm and met that way. There are plenty of ways to meet guys/girls, and there are lots of people here who aren’t just in it for flings and hookups. Everything goes here on campus, and while I do have friends who hook up with guys a lot, I also have friends in very committed relationships. I hope this eases your worries, and just know that even though we’re a small school that has a reputation of having lots of girls and gay men, there’s still plenty of opportunity for committed relationships.</p>
<p>agrems10 is totally right. (Lex, we’re in Astronomy during our Pluto lecture. I’m contemplating tapping you on the shoulder and showing you this as I type.) Vassar is very flexible romantically, in every sense of the word. You’ll have plenty of opportunities here.</p>
<p>I’ve heard that a very larger percentage of Vassar guys are gay.</p>
<p>I don’t believe that Vassar has more gay men than any other liberal arts campus. I think they’re just more open about it. Trust me, as a gay man, I actually find it harder to find gay men than straight men.</p>
<p>There actually is a dating scene, I (a freshman) have already checked it out. There are more straight men than you would think. The only issue you’ll find is probably shyness and people who’d prefer hookups, I think. Put yourself out there and you’re likely to find someone.</p>