<p>so i didnt actually go out on that movie date i supposed to have last weekend because she got way too drunk and was hung over. however she apologized and had two breakfast dates so far and coffee today and our conversations were like 2+hours. now in our conversation the topic of relationships came up. she said she wont be ready to date for couple of months because shes taking a break. now im confused and sad because i think i really like her. what does that mean?</p>
<p>It means you should've closed the deal a while ago and now you just need to move on to the next girl.</p>
<p>but i think i fell for her :/ its been a while that this happened too</p>
<p>Cut your losses and move on. This does not seem like a promising opportunity. You need to seek out greener pastures.</p>
<p>Okay, and what's happened since then? If you haven't spoken to her or hung out with her, the window might have closed. </p>
<p>People say things all the time and don't really mean it. Maybe she's just waiting for you to knock her socks off, in more than one way. Make a move on her.</p>
<p>not ready for a couple of months? That's a lame excuse. Dump her. Never talk to her again.</p>
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so i didnt actually go out on that movie date i supposed to have last weekend because she got way too drunk and was hung over.
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<p>I'm so beyond this type of girl it's not funny. Boy have I changed in the last couple years :P</p>
<p>U say you have fallen for her. What about her? if it was so with her too, she wouldn't have hesitates to date you. So, for now, until she decides to date you, you have no option left. If you really like her (as you say), wait along she is ready. U can just hang out as friends until then. If you can, get her to open up.</p>
<p>Is she taking a break due to a bad relationship or due to any other causes? if you can find out, you can assure her with your actions that you are different, you care for her...</p>
<p>but, if nothing works, then let go....my fav quote is "Win like a man, lose like a man"</p>
<p>tell her you're willing to wait, and follow through. she'll know you're for real and if she's into you, too, she'll come around.</p>
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tell her you're willing to wait, and follow through. she'll know you're for real and if she's into you, too, she'll come around.
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<p>Or she'll take advantage of your patience, enjoying the validation that you as a friend provide, until she goes to bang some dude who barely acknowledges her existence and could care less for her.</p>
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Or she'll take advantage of your patience, enjoying the validation that you as a friend provide, until she goes to bang some dude who barely acknowledges her existence and could care less for her.
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<p>the only reason that's true is because it's quite obvious she's not interested. There's nothing wrong with respecting women and treating them well. I find it funny how people confuse respecting a women and treating them right to being a little wuss around the girl, letting her walk over you and being her little pet (what most people confuse as being the "nice guy" )</p>
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the only reason that's true is because it's quite obvious she's not interested.
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<p>Perhaps, but I wasn't making a prediction, I was just voicing a possibility.</p>
<p>i mean..in waiting, you're pretty much waiting for her to get sick of being single. it took me like 5 months of being (extremely) single at school to finally tire of it, and i couldn't even verbally refer to my boy as my boyfriend for like two months..</p>
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now im confused and sad because i think i really like her. what does that mean?
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It means you need to ask her to chill sometime, and then get with her.</p>
<p>eh yea. she got out a bad relationship like 5 months ago. so by my arbitrary calculations, she has one more month left. yea i think ill just take it slow with her. its only been yesterday when we had coffee and talked for hours.</p>
<p>this allows you to get with other girls while still having the opportunity to possibly be in a meaningful relationship with this chick.</p>
<p>just don't do anything to f--k things up & breach her trust
although girls who act like they're all troubled all the time when it comes to relationships generally bother me..</p>
<p>i'm tired of hopping to girl to girl for play dates in bed. i want to be a one girl man</p>
<p>^i agree with you on that. um, you can try to see if maybe someone else would work out while having this girl in your back pocket for when she gets over whatever is on her mind and wants a relationship.</p>
<p>hate to break it to the people saying "stick it out" but you'll quickly learn that the oldest trick in the book girls use for telling guys they don't like them is that "they aren't capable of a relationship right now." this is the equivalent of "I don't want to ruin the friendship."</p>
<p>If she really wasnt looking for a relationship, she wouldn't have gone on the dates. There's only so many reasons to go on dates: looking for future relationships or play are the obvious two, the other one (and this is usually only for girls) is that you like the attention/excitement (i.e. that little ego boost that someone's into you) of going on one.</p>
<p>I forget what you said you did for your dates, but I'd also assume that you know enough to have made it apparent that you and she were going out on dates, and unfortunately she either played you or, more likely, determined after a couple dates that she's not into you, and doesn't want to be rude by just ignoring your phone calls.</p>
<p>This is a tough bullet to bite, and trust me, I've bitten it more times than I'd like to, but I wish I had learned this sooner and didn't waste so much time/mental energy waiting for her to be ready for a relationship.</p>