Daughter Cut after ACL tear..

Athletic Recruits
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<p>Hi all, </p>

<p>Wanted to share our sob story.. feeling a bit blue and a bit frustrated about all of this. Daughter was recruited to NAIA D1 basketball with $ as a freshman. Sophomore year she tore her ACL right before the season. Coaching staff was fired that year at end of season. New staff hired and without having an opportunity to prove herself was cut from the team. She was just cleared to play a few week ago and the first official practice was yesterday. She is hurt and embarrassed and I am questioning the reasoning behind a coaching decision when they did not take the time to get to know her or let her prove herself.</p>

<p>Anyway, it sucks, but trying to look at the bright side. She does not want to play after college and it is not her life. She can now look forward to having free time, maybe join some clubs etc.. All in all it is a huge wake up call though. The past coach both hs and college are shocked. Just goes to show you that everyone see's people differently. Financially is another concern though. That money was important to help alleviate the cost.
Okay enough whining.. :(</p>

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<p>Was she cut before she was cleared? If so, find a copy of the school’s athletic handbook and see if that addresses injuries. Many schools will cut an injured player to save the athletic scholarship, but the school will pick up the amount of the athletic money. Also check NAIA rules about getting replacment money.</p>

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<p>^ It is worth researching</p>

<p>Have been told that any D1 scholly $ cannot be redistributed after it has been assigned…meaning she gets her $ on injury</p>

<p>Research this.
My info is from a coach and also a parent of a D1 athlete (woman) w/ injury (not mine)</p>

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<p>NAIA schools are not NCAA schools and have there own rules … no idea if the NAIA injury rules are better or harsher than the NCAAs.</p>

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<p>There was a girl from my hometown, Caitlin Howe, who played at Duke. She tore her ACL three times, once in HS and twice in college. After her third one she packed it in. Some things aren’t meant to be.</p>

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<p>interesting but not surprising at all, at my daughters school the coach manipulates what the percentage of scholarship dollars he distributes to players based on performance…he makes it a point to remind the players that basically they are beholden to him…this at a D1 with an 100 million dollar athletic budget.</p>

<p>so the mere fact that he jerks them around doesn’t surprise me one bit.</p>

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<p>Got written confirmation from the AD that her scholarship will be honored this year.</p>

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<p>Nice result! Gives her time to either work back into playing condition or move on into “civilian life.”</p>

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<p>Glad to hear that they are continuing to honor her scholarship. I’m always worried about injuries and how the schools will handle, glad they are coming through for her.</p>

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<p>Thanks all, I am glad about the scholarship too but what really tears me up is she was just cleared to play a few weeks ago and the new coaching staff cut her despite the fact she has been out the past 9 months. Did not give her a chance to get her game back. She was fit and has handled conditioning like a champ, I have not seen her play because she is not close but just being a few weeks out of clearing and cutting her without giving her time to get her game back seems wrong.</p>

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<p>momof2010 - Sorry to learn of this. I hope there is a silver lining somewhere. Why the new coaches wouldn’t let her demonstrate her skills or compete for a position is just plain stupid if their job is to win.</p>

<p>stemit - well done. a tip of the cap to you.</p>

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<p>Is there a sports version of when a you make sure the person who dumps you gets to see that you are not only recovered but red hot? (Are there pick up games/intermural that she can play that rub their noses in it…)</p>

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<p>they are obligated to honor the scholarship once it’s recorded with NCAA at least for the academic year.</p>

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<p>She is not the type to rub anyones nose, its not her style. She is a gracious girl who was very hurt by this. Her teammates have shared with me that none of them understand and some of them have been tearing up. She is going to get plugged in elsewhere. This was unfortunately too devastating at least for now to want to play.
She could not wait to get back to playing after the 9 month recovery and to get axed like that was too much pain to bear. She will be okay. She is strong and she will probably find another thing to fulfill her extra curricular. Thanks all!!</p>

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<p>Schoolhouse - NAIA have different rules.</p>

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<p>What an unfortunate story! I’m glad to hear that the school is honoring the scholarship this year…it sounds like the bill isn’t completely impossible sans scholly for your family, which is good news…I’d feel even worse if that wasn’t the case. </p>

<p>$$ for D1 is wonderful…but we’ll stick with NESCAC thankyouverymuch. Different strokes I guess but I would never support my child participating in a program where the coaches made him feel “beholden”…or that a sports slump could jeopardize their matriculation. I guess you could compare it to an academic scholarship…but with athletics the student has so much more control.</p>

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<p>Dear Mom of 2010:</p>

<p>I know your Daughter. My Son and your Daughter were dear friends in High School, and I can recall my Son’s deep appreciation for your daughter’s solid moral character, keen intellect, kind spirit, impeccable work ethic and true devotion to all of her friends. I never heard anything about her short of the utmost of praise and respect for her as a friend and as a human being. I am so deeply saddened to hear this news. At their age, this type of “challenge” can seem crippling and potentially quite difficult to overcome. At my Son’s University, we experienced a Coaching staff change this year as well, and it is difficult to absorb “change” that has such an emotionally rippling effect, particularly when an Athlete has worked so very hard to overcome injury. Factor-in that all of this year’s monies were “apportioned” based on last season’s statistics, and thus the “business” of college sports becomes woefully transparent. </p>

<p>It would have been prudent of the newly seated Coaching staff to have allowed her a “walk-on” spot on this year’s Roster, if for no other reason than it would have given her an opportunity to have regained her spot on the Team, and would have allowed her Teammates to see that their University extends continued support and athletic opportunity to all of its Athletes post injury. Instead, the Coaching staff yielded their “authority” as they deemed appropriate, and I can only imagine that this has lent to an emotionally devastating “reality” for her Teammates as well. Perhaps it is almost “useless” to suggest your Daughter meet with the Athletic Director to discuss the possibility for consideration of a “walk-on” position, as to do so could potentially garner deep resentment towards her from the current Coaching staff? I do not know. I wish there were some option to allow her to have a fair CHANCE to return to the Team. </p>

<p>I’ve read these boards anonymously for many years now, and I know that you have offered sound advise to so many Student-Athletes seeking assistance in playing at the collegiate level. I know your Son is a nationally-ranked collegiate Athlete in his sport of Golf, and I realize that YOUR EFFORTS have yielded the opportunities your children have been blessed to experience, which is further impressive, inasmuch as we live in a very small community with only a hand-full of local Athletes continuing their sport beyond the High School level. Parents routinely “banter back and forth” on these Boards about just how much involvement they should/should not contribute towards the Athletic Recruiting process. In the past, I have not spent my time contributing to that argument, as I really cannot say what may be best for each individual Athlete or his/her family. I am going to “step out on a limb” and chime in on this one, if for no other reason than my heart has a special interest in your Daughter’s journey. </p>

<p>I am not suggesting that your Daughter WILL want to transfer Schools (I suspect she is not emotionally prepared at this time to remotely consider any further “change” in her life dynamic) but in the event that she wishes to do so, you will be able to offer her immediate options. YOU can be proactive for her in the event that she would like to look elsewhere for a University environment that offers her even MORE of the combined academic and athletic opportunities of which she seeks.</p>

<p>Research collegiate Basketball Teams through out the Country with fledgling Team strength, and a real void in the Roster depth at her position. Compile a short list. Do not worry about WHERE the School is, but rather focus on the integrity of the academic offerings combined with the best athletic and financial possibilities. Make a current video of her skill ability (running, dribbling, vertical leap, consecutive free-throw shooting). Send copies of her video to all of the Schools she’s most interested in. *Then, look at each School’s Transfer Scholarship requirements, their monetary value, and of course the applicable deadlines. Her scholarship money will run out next year, and so it is best to get her name and statistics in front of other Universities as soon as possible. Remind her to fill out the on-line Recruitment Questionnaires for each of her top contenders. Help her with these prerequisites, if she ask for help and is overwhelmed or currently consumed with her studies. During her winter break (or better yet, whenever her weekend schedule allows) visit the her top 3 choices and arrange to meet with the Coaches of those Teams if at all possible. You can “stay in the car” for those visits, but your mere “presence” will be invaluable to her. There is ZERO issue of her transferring to another NAIA or NCAA Division 1, 2 or 3 School, inasmuch as she was athletically released from a Roster spot at her current NAIA University, and thus her current School has no further “hold” on her transfer options. </p>

<p>She is now free to explore what may become an even better college option for her, and it is very possible that she will one day look back upon this unfortunate disappointment and be “thankful” for the bountiful opportunities it provided. Despite the emotional enormity of this moment, perseverance is a virtue that all college Coaches greatly admire. </p>

<p>“When one door closes……” </p>

<p>You and your wonderful daughter are in my thoughts and prayers!</p>

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<p>Lilmamma, I am so touched by your post. I am glad I found it, it has been hard to come on here lately because what has happened has dampened my spirit and bottom line it hurts to see my kid hurting and coming on here reminds me of it. I private messaged you.
Thank you again.</p>

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<p>I don’t check in here too often anymore but I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your daughter momof2010! I know firsthand the stress of athletic injuries, my daughter suffered a serious injury a year and a half ago. Fortunately, my daughter’s coach has assured her that her scholarship and team standing are not in jeopardy. I feel so bad for your daughter, it really stinks that she was cut without a chance to prove herself. I’m glad that they are honoring her scholarship for this year, but I sure hope word gets around about how your daughter was treated by this new coach, I know I would not be looking very favorably at a coach that would do something like that to an athlete. You know what they say about karma! </p>

<p>I know it is all too raw right now, but hopefully your daughter will begin to see this setback as an opportunity, a chance to focus on whatever it is she wants to, be it her sport, another sport or something altogether different. Best of luck to her and hugs to you mom, I know how hard this must be for you!</p>

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<p>Thanks fishy mom, I do hope that what goes around comes around, what was done does not stand behind what the NAIA is supposed to stand for. It does sting but thankfully my daughter is resilient and she will be okay. Talked to her last night and she said it is tough walking around campus because it is a small school and a lot of people are asking her about basketball so she has to explain it over and over. Appreciate the kind words.</p>