<p>My parents always tell me i can talk to them, but when I try to, they laugh at me or use what I say as proof that I'm a failure. Does this happen to anyone else?
It's hard becuase my parents weren't born and raised in america. They tell me about what they did when they were young and think I'm ungrateful.
How do you deal with parents who don't understand? It's so frustrating! and I can't talk with them because when I try to explain myself, they think I'm talking back and being cheeky, which is blasphemy in their culture.
Last night I seriously considering swallowing a small handful of pills. Not to much to kill myself, but to make myself sick so there's a physical manifestation of how much they're hurting me emotionally. They want me to be the best in everyone else (the best at math, english, science, loved by teachers, winner of scholarships, brilliant at debate, national swimmer, etc.) The intense pressure they put on me has driven me away from things I used to love like swimming and piano.
What should I do?</p>
<p>Tell them how you feel, and how right now you're growing up in a different day and age and have much more to worry about (like getting into a good school, which is ten times more competitive than when they were younger) and don't have time to do what they did (get a job early/do a bunch of chores). </p>
<p>My parents do the exact same thing, actually, except they don't pressure me to be the best in school (my dad pressures me in sports, though, which I'm not good at). Everytime I try to talk to them they also say I'm talking back. It's the way they were raised, I think. It's a bit old fashioned. (My mom was born in Ecuador, and my dad was raised in NYC by Puerto Rican and Panamanian parents who were/are a bit old fashioned.)</p>
<p>Hang in there! Hopefully you can come to an agreement of sorts with each other. Just keep calm and explain to them, and tell them to hear you out.</p>
<p>My parents expect me to be the best in all aspects of life. My mom regularly tells me that I could've done better. Whateves. Remember that life is your own and that they can't make you do anything you don't want to do. However, also realize that they do this because you're their child and they want to see you succeed. Sure, there's a selfish element in there to want to be proud of you and all, but for the most part, they do it because they love you. My mother drives me insane at times, and there are days where we get angry just seeing each other, but she's a driving force behind me, always.</p>
<p>Haha. This is coming from a first generation mainland Chinese immigrant. PM me if you need to vent.</p>
<p>You guys remind me of Lisa in the Simpsons. She's smart, good at school, passionate, etc but Homer always screws her life in one way or another...</p>
<p>I remember this one episode when Lisa gets mad, closes her eyes, starts squeezing a stress ball saying "just ten more years, just ten more years..." </p>
<p>I guess you guys can do the same... Must be at least less than ten years. Apply to colleges at least 150 miles away.</p>
<p>Ahh I know, my dad is wayyy more understanding.
My mom grew up in Mexico, she grew up in absolute poverty and now shes like better off then my dad... but they're still married... haha... anyways
She gets mad and tells me how I have it good (which I do) but then I figure parents think they know how it is to be a kid. But I really think most of them forget.
For example...
My Dad asks me to always be tucked in and have a belt.
I disobey when he is not looking.
I think he knows, but my brother doesn't disobey...
He expects us to have a good social life too... and how the heck is that supposed to happen with a tucked in shirt, my brother verifies this for me. He is like... an outcast...literally... I am not, but I could go there...
My father has conception on how it is to be young, he thinks he does and perhaps he retains some of the knowledge... but were in high school... not Med school. I figure I'll go all up tight when I have to and not a second sooner.</p>
<p>^
I won't limit myself to 10,000 miles or 10 miles. But I do want to go out of state, at least to Austin(UT) or Houston(Rice).
I love Dallas, but...pish! GOODBYE when I go to college...well I HOPE.
I want to go to Two states away in all directions if I go out of state...</p>